Guys I been gaming this girl and we had a good connection, and one day she just changed. A couple of days later and she texts me."sorry I haven't been talking to you much but I have Somthing goin on that I can't tell everyone, I don't want to lead u on". So two days later I text her,
me:"we were just friends, you weren't leading me on"
Her: I don't act like that around other guys, if u really thought we were only friends, the I feel stupid, because I liked u more than that. But whatever... I'm really sorry though.
Me:well if u really liked me what changed, I shouldnt be kept in the dark
Her:Somthing with my family happened, I don't feel comfortable telling everyone, only my best friends know,I'm sorry I honestly am, I really do want to stay friends.
Me:you will get better, u are saying u liked me but u don't want to lead me on, that's contradicting, we are friends, that doesn't change.
Her:"I wanted to take the next step, and start a relationship but I can't handle that right now"
Me:don't rule it out, we can take things slow, until things at settle down for you
What do you guys think? Was she just BSing or does it sound sincere
Thanks


Spadesace

Bumping this up! Still need help!

Heyy SpadesAce! Thanks for your post.

Judging by this comment, "I don't act like that around other guys, if u really thought we were only friends, the I feel stupid, because I liked u more than that. But whatever... I'm really sorry though." ...girls sometimes (always) say the opposite of what they actually think..for instance.. she probably wants to beleive she doesnt act like this around other guys, but truth is, she does .. and to say, "but whatever" and "I'm REALLY sorry though" .. these choices of words also indicate she is bullshitting. All her choices of words are suspicious bro.. like.. continuing on, she chooses to say,"im sorry i honestly (?) am, I REALLY do want to stay friends" ... enough said.

Time to start fresh bro and dont necessarily listen to the words they say; analyse the words they choose, why they choose them, how they word them. Think outside the box.

Keep it real

NoShameGame

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NOSHAMEGAME

He has a point.. but i also think you messed up as well. You started out really well, with the just friends comment. But u blew it with the "dont rule it out", and the "we can take it slow". You seem needy. And thats the one thing u want to stay away from. But it does not matter coz she already made her mind up. But just try to think back and see if you see what you did wrong.but as he said, time to start fresh.

Sorry man.

Thanks for the help guys, well on to the next one!

I don't think you messed up at all. The way you came off doesn't sound needy because you have to show some interest or else she'll just friend zone you eventually.

Check it... two reason it didnt work.

A. "The cat string" is dead now. She knows she could have you now. Theres not chase in it for her.

B. He went from were just friends, to "dont froget about me"

What i would have said. When she said she wad digging me, i would have played it like i was shocked. Maybe like."oh well thats news to me, and to think i wasnt even trying yet;)". Your still giving her an IOI but your not jusy falling in her lap.

I really think she said this stuff and that she was in a bad place, and you felt bad and you kinda just wanted to make her feel better... nothing wrong with that but no matter what you could/ should have done, she knew she what she was doing. Nothing was gonna stop it.