Everytime I'm out with my girl (we're not bf gf but i want to be, she's a keeper, we've been seein each other round 3 months now but not like every day.)

And when we're out and I need to take a piss she would be left alone. Now we all know what happens when this happens. This girl is so hot and different and independent that she is really attractive. Well what we know happens is that guys will come over and chat her up while you're away.

What the fuck am I to do?

I mean everytime I come back they guys shut up and walk away because I'm a fucking born Alpha and give them the power stare. I dont even need to speak.

Then I say to my girl, I say, "I hope you got his number" in a half serious half joking way. The vibe I give to her is I'm half jelous but I'm also 100 % fine and not needy. This way she knows I care about her but knows I don't care what happens. (Attractive trait)


We haven't fucked yet. We will be in the next few days.

How can I make sure she doesn't need to go off or get numbers of any of these other guys? PUA can only take me so far to getting the girl but maintaining a relationship is a whole new ball game. How can I shine in a relationship? How do I be different than the other guys? I don't know what type of guy she usually goes for but I do know she said I'm different than other guys she has been with. But I still feel I need an edge. Or a gambit. Or a trick up my sleeve. You get the picture.

Also when walking through a busy club a guy took her hat and put it on himself for a few seconds and she just grabbed it back as we were walking. I didn't do anything but not in a pussy way just in an unaffected way.

Should I have punched him in his face or did I do the right thing?

To sum up what you're saying in one sentence: "I don't think I'm good enough to keep this amazing girl" - everything you've written reeks of insecurity! First of all, she may be different to the average fake tan slut but she is not the ONLY "hot, different, independent" girl out there; you are starting to put her on a pedestal which will bite you in the ass if you let it.

Answer is, the best thing to do is do nothing and work on your inner game instead. Sounds like she's done nothing for you to distrust her - the problem is that you don't trust her because you don't trust that you're good enough to keep her. As soon as you have this kind of mindset, you're now the same as 90% of other guys. If you want to be different, then you don't put her on a pedestal and instead of trying to find tricks or "gambits" (lol) start telling yourself that YOU'RE the catch, YOU have other options and that SHE'S the one lucky to have you.

I give this advice to other people but never to myself. You're 2000 % right. Thanks man.

Your a tool for having this mindset.

She's NOT your girlfriend.. in what world would it ever be ok to punch a guy for "having a crack?"

Sort your shiit out son, we need less people like you getting around.

^What Maikuljay said!

I don't know how you could make a relationship work if you're paranoid about this girl with guys when you leave her for 5mins in a club, you obviously think she's way too good for you. How would you handle her going out with the girls for a night? Or other male friends? I don't even think you should try to make this girl your gf as you need to work on your inner game and self confidence a lot more before you'll be able to hold a steady healthy relationship.

[quote]How can I make sure she doesn't need to go off or get numbers of any of these other guys?

you can't, even if you are in a relationship with an attractive woman other guys will always be hitting on her. you are letting it get to you. seriously don't fucking worry about it

Best thing to do is NOT react! You need to reframe things; if you want her to be your girl, showing jealousy will only work against you. if you're so ALPHA, as you put it, why would you get all bent out of shape if a guy approached her? A true alpha would know his sh*t is together and would act cool as sh*t as he'd have other options should she stray.

Dude, give your head a shake, seriously. She's not your gf yet - if she likes you she likes you, guys hitting on her won't matter. I've been with beautiful women that get hit on all the time, have guy friends they hang with and the secret is not giving a fuck. You act all jealous, she'll flee. If you act like a cool cat and joke "hope you at least got his digits!" and then carry on with whatever the 2 of u were talking about before u went off to take a piss will score you mad points.