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You're right on avoiding small talk. If i haven't communicated in a while, I usually text a question she has a good chance of answering - if you're in NYC "hey, how much is the fare on the LIRR", if you know she's been to Vegas "would you recommend the MGM grand to a buddy of mine who's going there next week." Those are good because it opens the opportunity for negs if she doesn't know. Something opener-esque is fine too - "Settle an argument between me and my friends: southern accent - hot or not."
Basically, you're imitating the idea of openers - you're not talking to the girl bc you have your sights set on her, you're talking to her bc she just happens to be socially available. After that, control the flow of texts, but keep the text conversation relatively short. If she small talks, small talk back for a few messages then say you're busy with something and you'll chat later. If she doesn't, remind her that she should prepare for a fun/kickass night when you guys hit the town again.