Okay! Here's the deal! I often see this HB on our university but i don't have the chance to talk to her. But last time I saw her my AA kicks in when i'm going for the approach (I feel pretty dumb after that because she's giving me some IOI's, she's staring at me like she wants to melt me!) Since I don't see her anymore these days, A few days ago I decided to check on my fb since it's been 2 months since i used it. And great! I spotted her on FB because she's a mutual friend of my former classmate so i decided to add her, and yes she accepted it. BTW i don't stay on facebook too often since I'm getting bored using it so I decided to message her, It's been days since I Opened to her, still no reply!

My message goes something like:

-Why are you using that nick name? Did you just made that up? Or that's what your friends call you?

*Was my opener weak?*

I was hoping for a reply like this?

--Why? does it not sound nice?

or something like she would tell me where she got it!

Then I would proceed with my game LOL!

I'd have taken a more direct, over-the-top approach to engage her by making her laugh.

"Holy shit where've you been?!?! And all this time I just figured you were playing hard to get!"

I dont know, something like that.

Who cares, what's done is done. Just give it a few days and then approach her again if you dont hear with something that'll grab her.

She may have taken it as if you were saying it from a negative standpoint, girls hate anything negative. With the next girl try using a different opener and use something along those lines when your building some attraction already. Try to make it a comment, say " I bet you got that nickname in 9th grade when you were picked last for volleyball". Change it as you see fir for the situation and tell us how it went. good luck man

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Okay! thx...

so... should i reopen or drop the message?

it wouldnt hurt to try again, just act like you didnt even send a first message. Just some practice and if it hits, youre in

It'd be dumb to not try again, what's the worst that can happen. Rejection? So what.

Stop basing your self worth on whether a girl accepts your invitation or not; the sooner you do this the better off you'll be. This is done by creating options with other women, that way when one flakes out all your eggs aren't in one basket and you won't be so affected. When your self-worth is so stuck on winning a girl you supplicate and develop a case of One-itis.

I've had girls seemingly reject me the first time around and then the 2nd be totally down for hanging out once I re-establish rapport and they get a glimpse into how awesome I am.

Hey! papuchulo818 thx for your words of wisdom, I'm gonna try to open her again hopefully this time it would be successful. Yeah!

so would this be a good opener? I'm gonna try for the more direct ones

"Holy fucking shit! You're absolutely cute I would definitely want to know you!" I'm *my name*

oh god, plz don't do that lol

I'll get back to you on that I'm writing a paper.

Haha! Okay thanks! I have no intention to send that though, just asking for thoughts LOL!

Can't you just chat her up next time she's on FB?

I would glad to but i can't catch her online on chat