| Hey guys. I've got a scenario I'm in, not really sure where I stand on it. First a little background, I'll try not to make it super long winded but I want to make sure i'm detailed enough to get some good advice.
I'm still pretty new, I used to be a lot more shy and passive, but over the past few months my new job in car sales has pretty much demanded an alpha personality.
hb is my friends sister. after what I thought were a bunch of IOI (always calling, always texting, constantly sending me pictures of herself via text, pushing her legs against me and letting me put my hand on the inside of her thighs. she'd sit on my hands or lap, and one time started grinding against me like we were in a club at her friends house randomly, some things I now realize put me in the friend zone because I was ALWAYS comforting her), I ask her out only to be LJBF. I freeze her out more and more over time, and then completely as she keeps talking to me about other guys. (this was my oneitis at the time).
Months later, she starts texting me again, calling, etc. I think nothing of it, I don't get excited. I'm way different and treat her pretty indifferently. She keeps talking about how we have to hang out, etc, I hit her with maybe when I'm not too busy (which is true). We hang out once because I'm with her brother, and I'm pulling the cocky funny confident routine. I end up hanging out at their house, and im genuinely glad to see them cause its been a while, so I give her mom a hug, laugh, and say: "but YOU don't get one" to her (hb). she laughs and says something like: "ok fine mr confident".
I believe I am super alpha here, because she tries to make me jump through hoops earlier, and I brush her off and am quick to man up, so she backs down. One example is sort of like this
hb: tries to tell me what to do somehow I cant remember exactly
me: "You see these pants?"
hb: "what about them?"
me: "When you're wearing them you can make the decisions in this relationship."
Everyone in the car with us is laughing but her.
hb: "excuse me?" shes raising her eyebrow and challenging it.
I just give her this cool look and smirk I guess, I'm totally into myself and dont care what she thinks. Once during the night she's talking SO much while I'm talking to my pal, so I just stop and say "shh. baby. PLEASE." and she starts giggling and saying: "don't call me that! thats not ok! omg!" but i just ignore it and move on with what I was saying.
anyway, so a day or two later we're in the same situation. with her family and some mutualfriends, but this time her boyfriend is there. The whole time her boyfriend is there, I'm just kind of doing my thing and not minding her reactions to me at all. I kind of play the distance game, Im acting sort of the same cocky way I did before, but this time one of her friends are there, and shes paying a lot of attention to me and giving a lot of IOI, like touching me, squeezing my arm and leaning into me as she's laughing at what I say, etc.
Well I look over and I notice that hb is STARING at me while shes with her boyfriend. like, hard core staring. I don't know why, or how to describe it, but it was just this intense stare until I looked at her or whatever. Now, I dont know if I did the right thing here, but I say: "help you?"really loud and obnoxiously (sort of an inside joke from work) and she just laughs and shakes her head like she's thinking "jerk" and stops for a little while, but then I catch her doing it again and again throughout the night, so I just kind of smile and nod knowingly, but a few times later I say: "do I owe you money or something? jeez." (also, sometimes while she was talking during the night I'd say "shh. I'm talking here." Like last time, but leaving out "baby" cause her boyfriend is right there). I'm super alpha here, because I'm kind of in charge of the group. I say lets go out to eat, I decide where, and I'm just doing my thing and gaming the other girl the whole night.
Ok. Ok. End of the night, or near it. We drop hb's boyfriend off at his house, so I jump in the backseat with both girls when he's inside and as Im climbing back hb (the target) says something like: "Who says you can come back here!" and I say something like: "nobody 'says' I can do anything" and do it anyway. There's an IMMEDIATE change in her behavior to me. (which I dont know if I should have allowed). Her energy level goes up by like four points. She immediately starts singing to me some corny song that's on the radio and I play along, she kicks her legs up and practically wraps them around me. I raised my arms and let her before I thought about it and went to heavy kino, rubbing the inside of her thigh and resting my hand on the top of her other knee. She moved after maybe a minute, but kept singing to me. I rubbed her thigh a couple times, but didn't want to over do it and give her too much like I was needy or something, and after it died down I sort of just let it go and went back to basics.
Here's my question: This isnt a girl I'm really actively trying to game, but I'm curious to know if I'm still in the friend zone? Did I make a mistake by letting her jump on me as soon as her boyfriend was out of the car? Thinking about it I feel like I sort of diffused the sexual tension between us by it, but Im not sure. I also am curious to know how I played this whole thing, so if any of you got time, help me out please!
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