I'm 21 she's 24.

I make 100k a year in a stable job up in nebraska. I am into racing cars and motorcycles, and going out with my friends. Football.

In the beginning a spoiled her and were just friends. I told her I loved her first. It was real good for a couple months then the bjs stopped. I initiated sex everytime. I bitched about it like an afc. Then it went down hill. Until the last few months when I regained control. I stopped micro managing her life. Stopped letting my self be disrespected etc. Guess what the bjs came back sex was mutual and fun again. ( this was very hard to do)

I havnt spent any money on her lately because right when everything is good I'll start shopping around for a cool gift and before I get it shell go all cold and weird again.


As far as dates and time together. I would make time for her every weekend I had. We would usually go out to dinner once a week at different restaraunts. She would sometimes stay on my worknights. Gone on a couple out of state vacations with her.

Son, this wreaks of insecurity and a severe lack of knowing how to handle woman.. Chalk it up as a learning curve.

Read a bit, learn, change, grow.. you got a long way to go before analysing "this" break up is going to provide any kind of productive advice.

Look bro, you gotta get a grip.

First off, let her go. She didint leave you because she loved you to much...thats rediculous, and quite contradicting. How much you make, dosnt control a girls emotions, and girls are controlled by emotions. Presents, gifts, all that is nice, but really means nothing to a girl thats actually into you for you.

Shes wondering if she will regret it..yah thats a normal process. Let her go.

Stop calling, stop texting, stop facebooking stop communication with her, and go get yourself some new girls, or just take some time and go hang with your buddies. But let her go, stop freaking out thinking why, and stop pointing the finger at yourself and making yourself feel like shit. You deserve to treat yourself better then that. and you deserve a girl better then her.

No matter what level of details you give us, it dosnt matter. Dont chase her. Your a young successfull guy and its her loss. Let her regret it in 4 years when she has 3 kids and a loser boyfriend that works at jcpenny and spends all his money on strippers and beer. Cuz your better then that.

You said it all right there.

Most women don't understand why they are experiencing the emotions they are.. hell, most men don't! You cannot trust the reasons she is giving you.
From the limited information you have given us, I am fairly certain that the underlying issue is a lack of attraction - you have been making yourself too available "I make time for her every weekend when I can" and things are no longer a challenge.. you buy presents for her but did you make her work for it? Did she buy you an expensive present before you bought her one?

You two have known each other a long time and unfortunately my honest opinion is that you may have reached a point where you can no longer salvage the relationship.. Furthermore, I would expect a girl in a long term relationship such as this to make more of an effort (MUCH more of an effort) to sort things out before she throws a tantrum like this.. she does not respect you, she is not committed to you and she most certainly doesn't love you. I'm not sure I would even want to salvage such a relationship even if I could. However, I believe in choice so if you do want to salvage it, personally I would advise you to do two things concurrently:

1. Sort your inner game out - it's pretty obvious she's the one with the frame control (she has the power and decides the vibe of your interaction) and why? Because you have allowed her to disrespect you and have just been putting up with any bad behaviour she throws at you. YOU are the prize, she is just another girl and you can easily find another one! Read around the Inner Game section. In this way you will STOP seeking validation from her, STOP whining about not getting sex because you know that you have other options and you can get sex any time you want with a lovely girl. This will make it possible for you to regain frame control - frame control is the gateway to everything - building attraction, comfort.. EVERYTHING!

2. MORE challenge, LESS availability - not only do you need to FEEL that you are the prize and she is just another chick, but she has to KNOW IT. Stop building your life around her, this kind of dependency is not attractive. Go out with your friends, spend time on your hobbies, go to the gym more, start going out and flirting with other women. Show her that you are the prize, and she has to work to get you.

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You're 21, go out and experience other relationships. Ask yourself is she really worth the time and energy right now, or are you just pursuing her because you feel you've got no other option and are a desperate man savoring those few drops in the desert because you're not sure if you'll find another water hole.