Hay whats up everyone.

So the story is I met this HB9.5 a few weeks ago. I met her in a bar and spent a good hour talking to her (Check out my journal to get the full story of what happened that night. from-afc-to-mpua-my-journey-vt122477.html?highlight=).

We've been texting ever since and I think its been going pretty well. We went for coffee a few days ago and, again, it was pretty cool (also in my journal). After seeing her I didn't contact her for a day so I didn't come across as needy or anything and then the day before yesterday I gave her a call whilst waiting for a train.

We only chatted for a few mins before my train came but it again seemed like it went pretty well on the phone. She sounded happy to here from me and didn't make any attempt to stop the conversation even though she was already late, sitting in her car waiting to leave to go see her friends. She was very talkative, jokey etc... In other words seemed really interested.

Anyway after getting off the phone I didn't contact her until yesterday afternoon saying simply sayin' in a text..... (we've been talking a lot about travelling and that how we both want to get out of England)

my text - "walkin' back from the gym in the rain..... urg i hate england!! haha. How was last night? x"

sooo.. I haven't heard back from her. Nothing. I haven't sent anything else and don't intend to because I don't want to come across as the guy that is overly eager. Through all forms of contact I'm pretty sure I've managed to do this quite well so far.

There could well be a legit reason for the lack of contact but could this be a test or something? Lack of interest?

Now don't get me wrong, this girl isn't my one itis or anything but she is a really cool and i would like to see her a few more times you know. see what happens.

One last thing is that I am back from university for a month so it is kind of unrealistic to see her that much. I did suggest in passing that she should come visit me over the Christmas period and we could go out and get pissed for a night. She sounded game and really enthusiastic about it.

So in conclusion, my problems are that she hasn't text me back and i'm not sure how to deal with this....... And, how should I go about keeping her interested for a month before I can realistically spend a decent amount of time with her again.

I was thinking that if I don't hear back from her then what I will do is leave it a few days and then give her a call as if nothing has happened. Chat with her and don't show any sign of caring that she didn't reply... giving of the vibe that my life is interesting enough that i hardly noticed. (and it is by the way, she's just fucking HOT aha).

Or should I now take the opportunity to lay my cards on the table and show my interest. It is obvious that I am interested all ready through things like going for coffee with her but I have been holding back a fair bit.

any suggestion are really welcome because I'm kinda new to all this stuff and want to do it properly. Thanks in advance to those guys that take the time to reply.

Freak

Sounds like you've done everything pretty well so far... I wouldn't take one no-reply as a complete rejection, it's just that you're text wasn't over stimulating (not knocking it, a good text to keep you in her head but not necessarily worthy of a reply from a girl that is use to get texts from lads all the time).

I would do exactly what you suggested, just carry on as if you haven't even noticed.. maybe drop a little neg in straight away as she may feel a little more in control after ignoring your text.. then move onto to telling her about something awesome you've done since you text her and then move towards your target, i.e. getting her to meet you!

And I can tell it's not one-itis, I'm currently onto a 9 and am over thinking everything as it can be hard to get past that initial bitch shield that you don't wanna ruin it once you're in!

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Hey man.

It's simple. There could be a thousand reason she didn't reply. Don't over analyse it. I know when you are new to this you wanna be perfect and you tend to think very critically of every move you make. Which is good and bad at same time.

Just forget it, don't mention anything. If your friend didn't respond to your message you wouldn't think he doesnt like you anymore right?

Call her tomorrow or whenever and invite her out.

Cheers man for your advice man.

About ten mins after posting that she sent me a long friendly reply to the text I sent the other day. She apologised at the end for the late reply saying she has been rushing around on her days off trying to get everything sorted out. very reasonable really lol..

anyway I still wish I had read your post earlier because I waited an hour or so then sent a reply but didn't neg. One question I've always though about but never asked is should you continue to neg all the way through the relationship; be it short or long. I am unsure about whether its just in the attraction phase or the whole way through, playfully of course.

Good luck with your 9 buddy..

thanks man

Freak

Thanks man,

As I said to Gameon0303, she sent me a reply about ten mins after posting that. Always the way, lol. She apologised for the late reply saying she was rushing around on her days off which is fair enough I guess. Luckily I didn't show that i was annoyed at all but I guess the lesson to be learned is just try and keep more cool about it next time. Or have more HBs on the go so that if one doesn't reply I don't notice, haha.

I'm intrigued by what you said about it being good and bad to over analyse yourself. Do you mean that its good to analyse yourself ALOT so that you see your mistakes and improve your game but its bad to keep beating yourself up for little mistakes as it may fuck your inner game up.

I've never really thought of that before but its a very good point. I'm quite good at analysing myself without getting down but if I find that my confidence drops at any point then this is something that I will remember.

Okay dude, will do. My plan is to give her a call tomorrow or the next day and have a casual chat. At some point I'm gonna throw in the idea of something really cool that we could do together where I live (like sail over to the isle of white and get pissed or something) and how would love to do it but not actually invite her. My thinking is this will get her thinking about coming to see me and hanging out but wondering why I haven't invited her all ready. (she's got a week or so left at her current job and then is off for a month before starting a new one). I'll carry on talking to her here and there and then when she's finished work I give her a call and be like "you know what, come down for a day or two and we can go out, be festive and celebrate your new job and Christmas... if your good I might even take you sailing"

Donno just an idea man. let me know what you think.

Freak

Great news mate, holiday periods are a bit of cock-block if you're at uni/college... keeping them keen for so long just by using fb/texts/phone can be a challenge, it's hard to keep it escalating and not losing her interest for so long.

I have quite a dry, sarcastic sense of humour naturally so generally start by being quite cheeky, negging quite a lot with the odd back handed compliment (if these are pulled off right, they are GOLD!) but I do keep them up throughout but give little signs of being a little nicer, normally when they do something I like.. then they start seeking your compliments or nice side and work for it.

Cheers fella, I'm trying to tie up the texting for a few days... got any idea's of a good text that will keep me on her mind. My reply already consists of "Trouble maker and high maintenance, you're going to be hard work" but want something to just sum up but is easy to pick up in a few days... sorry to hijack you're post pal, just seems like you're in a similar situation and might have some ideas.

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