When I discovered this one simple little tip, my texting game improved amazingly. It really is the little subtle things which make all the differences.

And here it is:

When texting a girl, always start with a clear goal in mind.

This means that before you start a text conversation, you already have an aim in mind and while exchanging texts with that pretty little lady, you'll be working towards that goal.

If you start with an end goal in mind, you'll get to the point and you won't faff about for ages getting lost down irrelevant tangents.

Here are the three main goals which I will choose from:

• Trying to line up a date - This is my main one. I'll suss out what days I have free in the upcoming week and then work towards lining up a date on one of those days.

• Using texting as a bridge to line up a phone call - I know some guys much prefer to talk with girls on the phone but girls can be notoriously difficult to get on the phone. Their phone is on the bottom of their bag, They are in the shower or maybe they are on a train and just don't want to talk in public. Sending a couple of texts and then sussing out if they're free to have a quick chat is a great way to get around this. Texting acts as a bridge to make it easier to get her on the phone.

• Pinging the lead to keep it warm. - Sometimes the timing is just a tiny bit off. You're going away for a week or she has exams or sometimes you're just plain busy and really don't have time to fit her in for a date this week. But you don't want the lead to get cold. In this case it's nice to have a midweek text exchange. You know your goal is to just send a few quick texts to keep you in her mind.

You certainly don't have to jump straight into working towards the goal (I actually really wouldn't recommend that most of the time). Start with a warm up message or two and then start working up to it. If you have a goal in mind, you'll start noticing and taking opportunities in the conversation to lead things towards where you want.

I was following up with a lead last night and my goal was: "This week I am free on Wednesday and Thursday, I am texting her to find out if one of those days could work for her". (Thursday did. Perfect!)

Try it out. Next time you're about to follow up with a lead, formulate your goal first!

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Yep. I agree!

A lot of guys text girls with no real intent past contacting them, and they run out of one-liners or whatever the hell it is they are doing, then expecting that she will randomly say, "you're funny, wanna fuck?" It doesn't work that way. We're expected to lead. It's nature. I give this post the AznPersuasion Seal of Approval.

You say one of your aims is just not letting the lead go cold... well this is exactly what I am trying to achieve right now; number closed a 9/10 on friday night and she seemed keen to go for a drink but has now gone home (from uni) or christmas... how can I make sure I can pick things up easily in January? Will a funny, flirty and unusual text do or should I try some subtle anchoring etc...

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Nice ideas here. Personally i'd always prefer calling because it excludes the "not texting back" part, but texting sure helps to build up for the call when you ask her out. To the last post i'd recommend to either get her facebook and game on from there or just texting every two-three days or so in order to be remembered. Or both.

Yeah I feel ya. The silly season can be such a difficult time for following up new leads. So many people travel or have their schedule packed with parties and family catch ups.

To keep a lead warm, I will usually text them about once a week. Probably a Tuesday or Wednesday. I'd keep the conversation simple, just 4 or 5 quick texts. It doesn't have to be mind blowing stuff either. The only purpose is to keep you fresh in each-other's minds.

Luckily, there's plenty to talk about around christmas time!
Maybe you could kick it off with:
"Well, just got my sister the best present ever. How's shacking up with the 'rents going?"
"All home safe and sound? I'm just writing up my list for santa now"

Dunno, they are just some rather tame thoughts. You've also got the whole context of the interaction to come up with something.


And I'm glad you liked it Mr. AznPersuasion!

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Great post, lots of good info.

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Try to pick the conversation up where you left it, I guess you have discussed tons of things before getting her number, so you can try to refer to some of these topics in your messages.

Furthermore when I notice when the texting is going nowhere at the moment since it will take a while before you see eachother again, I usually ask for her plans of the coming days. After this I will not text with her for a couple of days to show I am not desperately trying to keep contact with her by bombarding her every day with useless questions. After a couple of days, if she not already texted you again, you can text her and refer to how her plans worked out. This way it is easy to pick the texting up again.

I agree, I usually just ask if it is possible for her to answer her phone now, this way she will answer at the moment when it is possible for her to anwer her phone or she will tell when she will be able to answer it.

Phone calls are a better way to show your alpha qualities than texting, since it is easier to lead the conversation and to show your convidence by the sound of your voice. It is also way more personal and she will also feel like you have known each other better and for a longer period of time, since you have talked to each other more often.

i kinda disagree with asking her if its possible for her to answer the phone cause it averts the control to her side and it kinda contradicts with the whole
"Lead the way" attitude.
But good post mate

nice post.

currently having some issues regarding my text game but this does make a lot of sense, for being so simple. thanks for the info.

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Do you have any examples on how to do this though?

For example, if you wanna go from text to phone, how do you suggest it? Many times, if you ASK a woman, you could appear unconfident. Or, she might just say no. However, if you just call, it's hit or miss. How do you better your chances of getting her on the phone? Especially since a lot of girls prefer to text instead of talk?

Also, setting up a date. How do you go about that? I've heard a lot of PUA's suggest coffee. But I don't even DRINK coffee! OR tea. Plus it sounds kind of lame to younger girls. How do you go about setting up a meet / date? Also, what if you met her online first? Never met her in person?

These are things that aren't often touched on when it comes to text game. The specifics.

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It depends on the context but here are some simple examples after a couple of texts:
"Well I'd better get back to work. How about I give you a buzz at 8:30 tonight? Lemme know if that won't work."
"I gotta grab me some dinner but I'll give you a call after that. Stand by the phone at 8:30 "

Or you could just pick the phone up and call her after a couple of texts.
It's tough to give specifics because it can really vary so much from situation to situation. But my default is, after a few texts to say something like:

"Let's grab a drink this week. I've got time on tuesday and thursday evening. What'd suit you?"

I'd usually try make it more relevant to the girl but that's the general statement I'm making.

Oh and I don't do coffee dates... the chances of it ending in sex are much much lower.

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Ok. This is more like it. Good stuff. Thanks.

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