Hey guys, just want to share this with you and see if maybe you could have an interesting opinion I can learn from.

I have been dating this girl in open relationship for almost 3 months.
So we get to see each other every 1 or 2 weeks and we always end up kissing and making out heavily.
At some point I even started considering asking her to be my girl but now I am fed up with her flaky behaviour.

Constantly I am inviting her to some place or she is inviting me and she ends up flaking for a multitude of reasons (she is sick, she got an exam, her uncle is sick, bla bla), normally after that she would apologize and ask me out.

The worst was last time I saw her we were making out and then she agreed to go to "somewhere private" with me but as we approached my car she came up with a dumb excuse... I didnt push her too much and as a result ended up with the worst case of blue balls I have ever had.
After that, we were supposed to meet today and I just got a message last night that she is traveling with her family today and she didnt know in advance.



Honestly speaking... besides the fact that I may end up having sex with her anytime soon I feel no more interest in this relationship.
I think I will move on to girls I feel more excited about.

What do you think of my decision?

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Good decision. I hate flaky girls like that... they drive me crazy. I think you are doing yourself a favor by moving on. If you get a chance for it and want to take it with her but otherwise I'd put her out of my mind.

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Have you ever been on a date with her without ending it in heavy makeouts or anything sexual ? If not, then everytime you invite her she already thinks you are trying to.............

You can move on, but what have you learned from this relation/interaction? If you are early in the game then it would be good to have a date that involves no more than a quick peck at the end of it. She probably digs you thats the reason she is coming back to see you everytime.

In my experience, generally very good looking sexually attractive girls - models, actresses, could be strippers or waitresses or ppl in the service industry who derive their worth from looks alone - end up being flaky in general. Just my experience So others may differ.

Thanks guys!!

Well, I was in simpler dates in the beginning and although I have to admit lately it's been mostly sexual (we still go eat, clubbing and to the movies) she doesn't look uncomfortable with it.
Isn't the best strategy trying to sleep with a girl as soon as possible?

What I have learned is that there is a limit to how much flakiness I can take, I don't care how hot a girl is.

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It definitely is.

Ignore the advice given to you by the previous poster, unless you want to be in the LJBF zone.

If you haven't slept with this girl after 3 months, something is definitely wrong.

Freeze her.

I was in the same boat as you, and truth be told, if a girl is that flaky then she isn't too sure or doesn't care about you. If after 3 months she doesn't care about you, then she probably never will. (That's my experience anyway)
If you freeze her, you'll probably lose her. Because she doesn't care.

Also you should only do heavy make-outs if you're in a location where sex can realistically occur. When you can escalate it to sex. Else she WILL get flaky on you because she knows you'll have expectations the next time you meet up and it'll make her feel like a ho.

If you already decided to next her, then at least call her out on it and ask her whats up. Tell her to be really honest about it too. Maybe you'll learn something about the situation and can prevent it from happening in the future.


There are 5 objections as to why she wouldn't want to sleep with you (I think there are actually more, but let's keep it simple).
Ask yourself which one of these could be a possibility in her mind and then find ways to show her that these are irrelevant things that she shouldn't worry about:
1) She may get pregnant
2) She may get an STD
3) She thinks you will fall in love to quickly and stalk her
4) Social consequences (i.e. her friends/coworkers/people she doesn't even know that are observing may find out & think she’s a slut and then her social value might plummet)
5) She thinks that you will not be able to have a relationship or friendship with her in the future if you hook up too quickly

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You forgot step 6 ) she's a dumbass waste of space

There is something wrong with girl who's waiting this long for sex. Maybe she's super religious waiting for marriage or something if so Jabmaster should have discovered that this info 3 months ago. The fact he's hoping their going to have sex says he hasn't pushed his limits he's fine just settling for boring makeouts not even BJ after 3 months thats just lame she probably hasn't even given a hand job.

Waiting around on this one is a lost cause move on.

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FTFY

To be honest with you guys it is not uncommon that girls are conservative around here. Besides, I feel this girl lacks experience seriously... I even think she is a virgin.

I know closing the deal has taken so long but escalation has always been constant and smooth so I am sure I could get sex soon.
Anyway, at this point I just don't care... I feel it is disrepectful from her to always cancel and I feel there are better girls to spend my time pursuing.

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Correct decision - my ex was EXACTLY like that, kept cancelling stuff we organised at the last minute with lame excuses, I warned her once then dumped her ass and rightly so. Cancelling stuff like that is extremely disrespectful, if a girl doesn't respect you it means that a) she doesn't care about you b) she thinks she can get away with anything.