Alright.

I want to get the best out of me and the life I am luckily given, and I couldn't think of a better place to come to and actually start, than the PUA Forum.

I Encourage you to read this and enjoy the process of your given help in making me a better person and PUA! -> I am putting a lot out there about me for you to help revamp me.

I want to turn myself into a boss and I want people to notice it.

So, Im 5 ft 11, Skinny as shit, black hair and brown eyes, quite good looking (been told) but always questioning myself. Quite popular, better outter appearance than inner game. Question myself and feel lonely a lot, and rely on a lot of friends to keep me going, sad I know!

I disagreed, but my friends always said I look like this guy, Jay Baruchel, when he is shaved and not that long hair. So you get the idea, something like this with no such long hair at the top is me (my hair is often gelled up):
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Although, I wish I did look like this: [link]

Situation: In University, on a soccer scholarship, in America, from England but lived all over the world.

- Quite Low on Confidence for some reason, always seeking approval from others
For some reason attracted to drama, love the shows that entail drama (The OC, Vampire Diaries (thats right, I admit it)
- Fasion Sense, currently pulling off the bad boy look, Dark Jeans, sometimes white shoes or black shoes, White or Black V neck with a Leather Jacket, thoughts on that?
- Accusations: Friends say I attract drama, Hate to admit it and always deny it but maybe I do? Feel needy and always want to be center of attention, say I put other people down because I want to make myself look the best.
- Tools of communication are PC and a Blackberry (anyone good at game and want to offer direct advice give me your pin, i've often or not helped out a lot of people here but this time im seeking me)
-Live on Campus, many girls, some are good looking, some are not, as usual.


Splitting this into two, what advice and opinion is offered on the points made? Especially on outwards appearance.

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Goals:
-To get girls turning heads and notice an improved outter game and appearance straight of the bat for me
-To have a mysterious game (I am very flirty and I do have good game, always negging girls and abnoxious sometimes not caring what other people think)
- To have girls texting me and many options in girls and have them texting me
Remain in control and stress free
- Go to the gym and transform this skinny body into muscle, put on weight (although I find it impossible)
Get over this girl who played me, or get her to want me more than ever.

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Situation: May be in a current state of oneitis, me and this girl for a month were fooling around. I really started to like her, her witty comments and confident appearance... She had a boyfriend. Still she said I was special, the only one, and I believed her and put all the other girls on hold and gave her everything. One drunken night we fucked, she ended everything with me because she felt to bad for the boyfriend. I remain attached and still pondering on what could of been. Opinions?

Basically I want to improve my lifestyle for the better and have it continually improving, personal stories or advice is needed and recommended

Your motivational words or experiences will be appreciated as I do want to transform myself

I figure, one who doesn't ask for help, will never receive

As I see it, your situation is actually already pretty good, but it's great you want to improve!
As far as the outer game goes, let's start with gym and fitness. I've seen many skinny guys packing on muscles the wrong way, doing too many isolation exercises and ending up with a muscle imbalance and a weird constitution. I'd focus on compound movements. Check out this site: www.leangains.com it's pretty good for gaining lean muscle, it has training and diet outlined. Also check out visual impact for men, it talks about how many reps, sets etc. for different kinds of muscles (sarcoplasmic vs. myofibrillar hypertrophy). And don't worry, you can gain muscle, I'm sure, you just have to figure out what works best for you, stick to the routine and your diet. The way of eating on the first site (IF) is really good for hormonal manipulation, getting max growth hormone excretion in a natural way. Also, please don't go overboard with gaining muscle (even if you think it's impossible because you're a hard gainer). There is nothing uglier IMO than a skinny guy blowing up with a lot of sarcoplasmic muscle.
As far as style goes;
I think bad boy rock star is a great look for tall british people. I mean come on! Your accent can get you a long way in the States, you can pull off a really extravagant style, just because you're European And it goes hand in hand with the mysterious persona. If you want to people to notice you of the bat, you'll have to get a little more extravagant and do it confidentially. Think Russell Brand style, check out what's he wearing regardless of what you think about him He has an excellent style, and make-up. Yes, make-up. Don't shy away from eyeliner, it's amazing what it can do and no it's not gay, it's rock n roll! http://www.google.hr/imgres?q=eyeliner+ ... 9,r:10,s:0
Do you see how it brings up his eyes? If you want girls to notice you of the bat, you have to think past your comfort zone and have some balls. I can't see your links, they're broken btw.
Now the mysterious persona. I also want to pull this off because I find that speaking too much actually breaks the sexual tension, and I'm a pretty good talker, but maybe it's doing me more harm than good. You have to talk less, not so little to look like a retard, but talk less, laugh less. You have to make strong, bold eye contact and smirk more, let the girls do the talking. Your laughter is a reward. Your attention is a reward. Don't reveal too much about you, make her work for the information.

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I have bursts of being a lady, but it doesn't last long.

Ok, let's get to the inner game.
Do you have any hobbies? You have soccer and your academic work. One way to focus on improving your inner game is getting your priorities straight. Which basically means not prioritizing women. The centre of your attention should always be you. Focus on your school, on soccer, be the best you can be at those things, now they're your priorities, it's your main work. Mack 2.0 pointed out a very good way of thinking, I'm summarizing it here out of my head, so it may not be accurate, but it's good advice nonetheless:

1. Health
2. Family
3. Work and hobbies
4. Friends and social life
5. Girls

If you have a hard time with filling your time, which is hard to imagine because school is hard, get a hobby. Do something you enjoy, to unwind and to keep your thoughts away from your oneitis. I will not even go into the situation with your oneitis because she's not important here, you are. And when you get your priorities straight, you'll see it that way too.

Think hard and honestly about the qualities you want to have as a man. Find a role model. Make a conscious decision you will change for the better.
You say you crave drama, to begin with, just observe closely how you react to specific situations, especially the ones that make you feel bad and try to analyze why it's happening. You have to find your confidence inside and not achieve it by putting other people down, that's very bad and people will start avoiding you. Get some self help books, I don't know you, I don't know what's the real reason behind your low confidence. But be honest with your self and read some pop psychology, you wouldn't believe how much it can help. I did it myself to solve my huge ego problem. Start by being honest with yourself.

You say you want to have options and all the girls texting you etc. That's a wrong priority. Make yourself your no. 1 priority and the girls will flock, not the other way around. Forget about girls for now, just work on yourself.
Read 60 yoc relationship roulette, he explains fantastically what men-women relationships are all about, it will help you keep your head straight.

You say you keep seeking approval from others, but on the other hand act like you don't give a fuck. If you could just not give a fuck for real, it would solve many of your problems. Other people's opinion is not what defines you. You are, your actions. If you start acting like the man you want to be, you will become that man! It's how your mind works. In a certain situation, before you blow up and start putting people down, ask your self what would the man you want to be do? Would he care? Ok, I have to go now, but we'll continue. Tell me what your thoughts are. Cheers!

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rAFC and yes, I'm a chick.

I have bursts of being a lady, but it doesn't last long.