Never thought of this, going online to ask for advice but i guess its worth a shot. maybe this isn't the section to be posting in. (pretty active forum member) just not on this one.

Anyways Names Andrew, i'm 21.

I'm in need of some advice. i'll try and keep this short. In January of this year i met this girl when a bunch of my friends and I went on vacation together. She was a friend of a friend who decided to come along for the trip. I'm in Toronto, She lives in NYC... we talked on the trip and this girl was different for me. All of my friends Knew that i liked her they could tell how hard i was trying. we talked a lot over the course of the trip and it seemed that we had both recently got out of long relationships. i was over mine. Don't think she was over her's though. Anyways we went our separate ways. we kept in touch though. texting once in a while to more often, to everyday all day, SPAM Sessions every night. Started talking a lot she knew how i felt about her but i liked her so didn't want to push anything. we kept talking, then about a month or so after the vacation, i was heading to new york to see family so i told her and we got together i didn't have much time ... but i got to see her. Continued talking, when i got back and everything was going well. So she decided to come down to toronto during the summer she had 2 weeks free. Came down stayed at a friends place, because i wasn't sure how to pull that off at home. i tried really hard to show her the best time i could in while she was visiting but it was just like the harder i tried to keep her happy the harder she tried to push me away. friends and family kept telling me they didn't get a good vibe from her. I ignored it. A lot of drama. Anyways i went on vacation in july, and things were rough we was fighting about everything i don't know why. something happened, between her and my sister and she sent me a text saying i'm done can't do this anymore. We didn't talk. i ended up in hospital shortly after my trip and knowing that she has contact with my friends ... she didn't even bother finding out once if i was ok or anything. as usual i let everything go never said anything. Found out in October i was going for a cousins wedding. which apparently she was also going to be at and it was her birthday the same day. Saw her the first day i got there. didn't even bother trying to say anything, kept our distance both of us. got back from new york. and sent her an apology message for hurting her for whatever i did wrong and wishing her happy birthday. (that was all i had intended on it being, felt like i was finally getting over her) she ... picked up right were we left off like nothing had happened. She talked though. Said she missed me she was just so angry and my friends she couldn't handle the drama. currently were still talking i've been chasing her for almost a year now. I'm a nice guy i paid for a lot of her stuff. never once did i care about the money though. (Used to send her money). Anyways. while all this was going on a friend of mine, was getting closer to me. i was there for her though the summer during her breakup... and when i got out the hospital till about last week we spent nearly everyday together just hanging out i don't know what it was. we used to hang out id talk about the other girl. She would tell me she met this guy and i thought nothing of it. One day she broke down, saying why don't you realize she's not the girl for u ... she doesn't even care about u. we had a huge argument. Saw her the next day she was drunk i picked her up, and she kissed me. After that my eyes opened up. this girl has been in front of me the whole time. She makes me happy and all my friends like her, i'm not stressed out and upset like i was with the other girl. the thing is though i told her how i feel. how i started liking her, and she through something back in my face. I had told her when she first told me about the other guy she met don't break his heart. She said that to me one night when i said to her I'm gonna show u what a real date is like. at the end of the night she told me this was wrong we can't keep doing this. She was like the feelings are mutual i like you too. we wouldn't have spent everyday for the past few months together otherwise. She always lies to the other guy when she's with me ( it wasn't an issue before because we were just friends) now i want to be more. i don't know what she wants though. I don't know what to do, because i think i love the other girl. i'm so confused. I've been chasing her for a year. and she's 500 miles away... i don't know what to do.


Sorry if that was long. Its been a hectic year, and i'm confused. need advice... feel like i had the perfect girl in front of me this whole time and i didn't see it .. now i see it and i can't have her. i even asked her if the other dude wasn't in the picture and i asked you out would you say yes. She said yes. They aren't serious though. she she's him once in a while she's with me all the time.

i feel like i should back off at the same time though.. NO clue what to do..

if i left anything out i'm sorry LOL


THANK YOU!

i'm going to be honest. I just slimmed through your paragraph. However, it is obvious that you have one-itis. I'm new so i'm not too sure but i believe the information in this forum is a completely different game.

nice story, love the drama.

so you never thought of this?..I'd say that's very normal not to think of everything..
anyhow, I'd go with the flow and enjoy the confusion a little longer - it makes life so much more exciting (IMO)..
the money however would bother me. try spending the same amount of money which you threw out of the window for the NYC girl, but this time spend it on yourself only;
use it for dance classes, a new outfit, self improvement courses..just don't put another dime out for her.. bet that will make you feel better about yourself and help you see things clearer.