Sorry about another damn help thread. But my online game definitely has some fine tuning to do. I've been talking to this HB9 on fb for a while. This is a girl that I legitimately have a crush on by the way, but she has a BF so I have to keep it very subtle in my IOIs, and so does she. My goal was to open with a non-threatening simple question that anyone would ask, then slowly move my way into more personal things if I got enough IOIs from her. I feel like I've just hit the hook point, so how should I maneuver this thing into a good n-close? And also if there's anything I'm screwing up on please point it out for me!

Also I do know her, so keep that in mind.


ME
If you were an interesting person, what plays would you go see?

HB
Wait a minute, are you saying I'm not an interesting person? haha
And what choices do I have? Any plays in particular?

ME
lol i'm not sure if you're interesting or not yet. and preferably a play with some nudity lol. and one thats in the next week or so, i have to go see one before the semester is over.

HB
I don't know of any plays in Kentucky that have nudity haha. Last night was the final show for A Christmas Story, at a local theatre. You probably wouldn't be interested in Phantom of the Opera, Wicked, or Les Miserables, right? Lol you need a comedy.
I don't know of any plays in Kentucky that have nudity haha. Last night was the final show for A Christmas Story, at a local theatre. You probably wouldn't be interested in Phantom of the Opera, Wicked, or Les Miserables, right? Lol you need a comedy.

ME
Lol well i suppose a normal play will suffice then. and yes hopefully something that won't make me want to shoot myself haha.

HB
I googled it, but I couldn't find anything comedic near *LOCATION*. All I found were mostly ballets and operas. Lol

ME
Well looks like im going to a ballet then haha. Unless you think one of those other plays you mentioned would be more interesting?

HB
I couldn' even find those playing. Stupid Kentucky. You might be surprised and enjoy a ballet.

ME
Lol god you suck. Last time I went to a ballet it was just a bunch of gay dudes dancing around in tights lol.

HB
Bahaha I like ballet, but I used to dance it. Search for plays around you. Maybe you'll find something better.

ME
so i ended up going to see "the catch" the other day. not a laugh in it! lol. and you used to do ballet? why'd you quit?

HB
I'm sorry it wasn't funny. I did it for a while, but the classes were pretty expensive and I had to drive 1 1/2 hours just to get to a practice.

ME
Awh that sucks. I have a thing for girls that do ballet or dance or something like that for some odd reason haha. But thanks for the help im pretty sure I passed that acting class now.

HB
You're welcome. A thing, huh? Congrats on passing the class. What have you been up to lately.

And I'm about to send, but I'm not very happy with:

"yea, a thing lol. and working on a script, finishing up my classes and a lot of job hunting haha. how about yourself?"

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i would lean towards spicing up the conversation a little. be funny and flirtatious. maybe tell her you had a huge thing for ballet girls and you dated a ton of them and it became a problem. like you were seeing a ballet girl and then dated some of her friends after you guys broke up and then you had some crazy ones stalking you. tell her you cant even see a pink tutu without getting an erection nowadays. anything to make it more interesting.

btw, do this over a bunch of messages and dont blow your load all at once with this stuff. like dont say everything i just said in one message but instead see where the conversation goes and pepper it in slowly, culminating in the pink tutu line. make up some crazy shit as you go along and make if funny and make it so that she assumes youre kidding, but doesnt really know for sure if youre messing with her or not.

btw, the beginning of the conversation was very good but you need to keep her attention and keep it going because i feel like its in danger of flaming out. but she def does seem interested in talking to you and seems to have a great personality.

also, consider lengthening the time in between messages you send. you didnt say how long its been in between each one of these messages, but if theres multiple a day i think thats too many. i would lengthen to one every other day or so. because she has a bf theres no immediate pressure to get her number so i think you wanna establish yourself as funny/edgy/cool/intersting guy she loves talking to. take your time. get to the point where shes eagerly awaiting your messages and looking for them every day. obviously if you find out shes broken up with him at some point, pick up the pace and get her number soon after.

so i would say something like "umm...yeah, i guess you could call it a thing lol. it became kinda a problem but i dont really talk about that anymore". i would expect her to take the bait and ask you about it and then go from there.

Ok thanks for the tips man, very helpful. However shortly after I posted this I went ahead and sent that message anyway, before I got any replies. And this was her response:

"I know how that is. I was offered a job as a car salesman in Georgia today, where they told me I'd make 115,000 every year. Now I have to decided if I want to make money or do what I love (acting)."

I think this is a really good opportunity to establish some rapport and comfort, however I can't see this going anywhere "fun" like ItsAlwaysOn suggested, because the topic of conversation is so narrow and heavy now.

(Oh and by the way, I've been generally sending her one message per day)

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