Hey guys. I haven't been here for quite a long time, but now I need your help. I'm married now and pick up helped a lot to get here. But I have one big problem. I need to find a way how to make her come.

To be more detailed, I make her come by stimulating her clitoris pretty easily. But I can't make her come during sex, with toys, or fingers inside and she can't do it herself either. She looks like 5-10 seconds before orgasm when I use toys for example, but never reaches the end. She says that she doesn't come like that. I believe, that there is a way. Who do you suggest I try? Do you think, that it's in her mind? She says that she is getting really turned on when she feels that I'm coming (she gets the feeling that did her job well and stops concentrating maybe?), but I obviously can't be like that for more than a few seconds

Thanks a lot

Guessing that you want some specific pointers, so here you go, but the REALLY important part I'll tell you at the end of the post.

Often times a problem with making women climax is their comfort level. I like to spend some time doing sensual massage before sex a lot of the time, because it helps her relax and builds anticipation, which is an important part of sexual intensity.

If your girl is a more auditory or visual thinker by nature, you need to make sure you're stimulating those senses during sexual activity in addition to the bodily feelings that accompany the act. Try talking her up a little bit.

Technique-wise, the massage pre-foreplay combined with g-spot stimulation is a powerful combo for most women. If you can get her gushing or squirting for the first time, you will make a powerful sexual anchor to yourself in her mind, and after the first time it gets a lot easier, you can send her into body-wracking gushing orgasms with much less direct stimulation than you would expect after her body is used to the experience.

you can do this with your fingers, or by angling yourself upwards towards the front of her pelvis during intercourse.

Also, if clitoral orgasms are easier, try rubbing her clit while you're inside her. This is easier in some positions than others, but if you're creative there's always a way.

THE BIGGEST key thing about sexual prowess is to PAY ATTENTION to her responses.... notice what gets the strongest reactions out of her, and go with that. Use her breathing or motions to time your own in sync with her rhythms.

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Thanks for your answer, but you probably didn't get me or I wasn't clear enough, because it looks like a very general advice to me. I was hoping to get a specific answer to my problem. First of all, I'm talking about my wife, so her comfort level definitely isn't a problem. She told me that she doesn't come before our first sex, after I made her with my tongue and wanted to continue with the fingers inside. She also doesn't like talking a lot.

She does come when I (or she) stimulate her clitoris during the sex, but it's only because of that. She doesn't come if the stimulation stops just before she comes.

Maybe she cares too much about making me come and that's her mental block?

It was definitely very general advice, as its hard to be very specific about sex when its such an individual act, and your description was likewise fairly general and the same sort of story I hear a lot.

HOWEVER

Comfort level with your relationship is DIFFERENT than comfort level with sex. Cultural programming and life experiences can cause sex to be a windy scary road, even in the midst of a trusting relationship.

I DID miss an important thing about your post that I believe WILL help you... you said she gets turned on when she feels that you're coming. That is obviously a powerful mental trigger for her, and even if she doesn't like talking a lot, I would use that to help intensify her experience, don't talk a LOT, but at key moments you could say things about coming in her, filling her up, that sort of thing. It should help a lot if applied well.

I'm sorry if I still didn't understand exactly what kind of advice you're looking for.

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I have never had that issue. never.

Now you say its your wife.. i've noticed if you have been with a girl a long time the sex can get sorta... typical.. almost boring or bland in a sense.

You mentioned she likes it when your turned on. So be turned on, ive always like to mention something along the line of how awesome she feels, basically complimenting her in a very erotic n sexual way. Some girls just cannot cum without clit stimulation. Maybe you got a small wang? Hows the realtionship going good? bad? Do you always do it in the same typical positions? Do you only do it at the same times?

These are all things to look at. Girls are emotional creatures, and they love being spontaneous. catch her when she least suspects it, try some new things, pull her hair, or smack her ass... get INTO it.

I admit Ive sexed more girls then I can remember or count on my hands and toes (of course they dont know this). Every single one of them like to be roughed up a little while having sex. They like to be dirty... get dirty.

I don't remember the title, but there's an EBook written by "Thorndaddy" that has great sexual advice.... Mostly about mental stimulation. You should be able to find it online.

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Hitachi Magic Wand with G-spot attachment - if it's possible for her to have a G-spot orgasm, then this will do the trick.

For sex, have her on top and slide her hips back and forth on your cock so that the head hits her G-spot (forward and back motions, not up and down). That's one of my personal favorites and a very easy way to make a girl come when you get the rhythm right.

-Wolf

as always...

the answer is:

vibrating buttplug

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