So I've been on match and have a string of these events happening to me. I send a girl a funny message, doing good on getting responses too. Some messages I've been getting back are these templated answers in which the girl has one line of a response, then tells me her account is about to end, then she gives me her number. No conversation, just that quick. So I'm assuming out of the 50 emails or so, she wants to narrow it down like the first round of American Idol or something. Putting me in with a few males to win her over via texting or whatever. Because once I do respond in text, I try to add something to connect to that short conversation, IE rewriting a funny comment I specifically made about her in the first conversation via match. I get of course "who is this" to which I reply, then I get "send me a pic. I don't remember who you are" I then tell them that I only trade pictures, and that I need to make sure she is who she says she is. Which has worked in my favor so far. This whole thing is a step back though, because instead of progressing into a decent conversation, I have to get over that "who are you" barrier. I wonder why give out your number so quickly when there has been no conversation. My profile is good and funny, but not that damn good. I just wonder what everyone else does in this situation.

I hope I'm posting this in the right place, if not please let me know and I'll repost elsewhere. Thanks.

I'm currently on Match which I don't like as much as OKC. However I know how to handle my shit so ive got some decent results.

- red flag, likely unpaid account, or attention seeking fugly reject. I get these too and they always end up badly. I think some of these girls may be number collecrs who resell the numbers in Uzbekistan.


Ill pass on some tips relative you your situation.

1. I don't respond to girls without payed accounts. They tend to do exactly what you suspect, fish for responses, so they are in contact with like 500 guys. I don't like those odds, if a girl doesn't have pictures and thus likely a non-paid account don't bother, its a low prospect target. When they wink at me I ignore them.

2. If they are sending you one line response Im gonna assume you opening them with some funny challenge quip which isn't profile related? The problem with these type of emails is that are responded to but don't generate interest. Often these chicks dont even look at your profile. I do not use a shotgun approach to emailing. I get my best, interested, responses by writing emails relative to their profile, with girls that I may be actually compatible with. I know it sounds old fashioned.

Spamming generic emails will get 1 line responses and no follow up. Go for a lower volume, higher quality approach. Especially on Match compared to PoF, as chicks on Match are much more serious then PoF.

I've had about the same thing happen. I answered "how many Bobs did you give your number to?" which made her laugh, don't remember her response but it was all positive.
If I suspect they are fake I don't text them until I know for sure, I just message them again on the dating site. When they see re:re: before the subject I think they answer those first and will remember you better too.

this is good : re:re:

im gonna add this with the suspect chicks

I didn't mean add re:re: I meant it being there automatic because it was an ongoing message! That is good, but you came up with it not me! I'm going to do that too.

This is going to be fun. They will be thinking "I don't remember this conversation" lol Below will be her telling me I have a hot body and me saying thanks!

hats really clever too. Do you think she wont remember lol? Sounds like it could be fun, ill tell you how it works for me

Thanks for the advice detox75 and bobski99. I'm with ya on the profile related messages, I try to make each message particular to that person to engage a good conversation, for the most part I have been getting good results, just a few lately that are throwing out their numbers so fast. Nonetheless, anyone giving out their number that quickly is more than likely fishing for responses and/or attention, and not worth my time.

Thanks guys, your words are much appreciated!

Hey How do you guys handle girls that flake on a date the day before due to scheduling? I get a lot more of these on Match then I ever got on OKC.

Ive been reengaging them via text in 3-6 days but with mixed results. You guys have any good way to lock down the date or re-engage effectively?