| Okay, since Ka said he didn't get any details (and i didn't really give any) here what i did early this afternoon on my date with the stripper. I think this will actually help me a bit more than just asking questions, here anyone can add in ideas I could have done to make things more successful or criticize anything that I did.
Here we go (this is long long shit. get a cup of coffee or a red bull before you take this on!)
The day before we had been sending text messages to each other, and I was teasing her and she was responding well (example: me, if your free tomorrow at two or three you should tag along with me at the mall, i gotta pick up a shirt anyway. Her, I'm free till 7 tomorrow so when do you want to go? me, lets leave at 3. her, perfect) then I gave her some shit about how she still owes me that 23 bucks for a lap dance and tips, she played dumb and I said if youre gonna play it like that i'll just have to talk to you later. Then i froze her out till she gave me two more text messages.
I woke up today at two and gave her a call. Told her I'd be ready by 3 or 3:30 she said okay. Then i cleaned the shit out of my place. I put 25 bucks in my pocket and left my wallet in my dresser ( my idea here was to go pick her up, grab a cup of coffee at this small venue, realize i didn't have my wallet, fly back to pick it up where she can come and see my place (hockey skates against the wall, guitar under the bed, Kerouac and Hemmingway on the table, tea lights set up but not lit and a poorly made bed to be a bit pathetic yet still trying) and shoo her out real quick so as to get her wondering what it would be like to spend time in my place) and headed out for a pack of smokes and to pick her up (also, i seem to smoke when i get a blank mind or if she says something stupid giving her a chance to redeem herself yet show my lack of interest). After i get my smokes, i head down to her college trying to get her on the phone. First time no pick up, second time pick up. She says she's already at the mall, getting her shopping done so she doesn't have to bother me while I'm doing my thing. So now i'm heading down to the mall without my wallet. When I get there i wait for her outside with a smoke. She is bringing her car from around the back to the front by mine. I meet her, pull her in with a hug and go inside to warm up and get coffee. She first starts complaining about one of the people in line or something and i interrupt her by saying its freezing outside and put my hands on the back of her neck to feel the cold. we are waiting in line, looking for a drink off the menu and at this point i get the feeling that she's nervous. She can't look at me in the eye when i speak or she does. Her eyes move around very quickly and most the time they seem to be searching the ground (here, i wanted to ask "why don't you look at me when youre talking to me," in a genuine manner as to call her out, but i didn't do this). we ordered our drinks. I paid for mine, she paid for hers. after my drink i dive into my opinion openner (this one is about my roomate who has recently been recieving letters from an ex and his gf at this time found them in his backpack, she's pissed, and i'm looking for advice to give my friend whose in this suck ass position). Her advice sucks and i tell her it's terrible. I tell her what good advice might have sounded like and asked her to think it over and get back to me. we walk through barnes and noble (this is where the starbucks was) and make our way into the mall. She's going on about her hair straightening and the 200 bucks she laid down today on things she didn't need. So i ruffel her hair, laugh a bit, grab her arm and say come on lets go. I ask her why she ditched my ride. she told me what i said before. I tell her i need to find my baby brother a christmas gift and need a lil help. We go into the buckle and as we start walkin in, i see one of my old friends workin there. I introduce her and then freeze her, enjoying a quick catch up with my buddy. While i do, she runs into one of her friends and starts talking with her (immediatly, what went through my mind was to keep my convo wiht my friend going longer than her convo with her friend, so i don't have to play the waiting game in the freeze out position; i did this, it worked) she finished with her friend, i ended my convo with my friend, then we went around the shop. At first i found it difficult to get her into actually helping me, but then i had some fun (i said, okay, you go over there, check that stuff out, i'll go here and then we'll compare what we find, she was smiling and starting to open up a bit more) when we compared, i said some of her choices were bad taste and then this one particular item was actually very good. She looked delighted). we spend a few more minutes searching, i put stuff on hold till tomorrow ( i don't have my wallet) and then i see one of my brother's friends who works there. Give him a little shit about being young but looking old, swear him to secrecy not to tell my brother what i'm getting him (keeping an eye on the stripper, sara, and she seems to like the way i'm interacting with so many people in a friendly way (i think i noticed something in her body language, i can't pinpoint it cuz i'm not really that experienced at this PUA thing, but there was a definite tell and in the future, prolly with more practice i'll be able to say exactly what she did.). we leave the store and walk around. She says she's going to a milwaukee bucks game and i tell her she's gotta get this hat in the window (me: oh my god, u need to wear this tonight! her: i hate hats! me: yea, hats really are a bitch. Come on! we're going in and you're gonna wear that hat. her: no i really don't like wearing hats, they are fine on other people, but i look silly!) I put my brewers cap on her head, say "now you look silly" put my hand on her lower back and say "come on" and guide her up to the next window shop, Victoria's Secret. Boom. now the stripper wants to show me her new panties and bras. Before we get to, she runs into a friend of hers who is 17 and still in highschool (Christ! This gets a bit under my skin, cuz now i feel very old with two very young girls). I let them talk, share some relevant stories, but as they talk longer and longer, (and i'm keeping eye contact with them the whole way through) i get the feeling like i'm standing in one place too much and then do the rocking back/step back thing (mystry's thing just popped into my head at this point) and both of them, immediately, say goodbye, and she comes and hold my arm leaning into me as we continue walking. We get to another coffee stand. I wait in line and she decided not to and grabbed a seat. I start looking around at all the merch and then wave her over (she seemed glad that i did this and was actually bounceing towards me while she came over) i pointed to the merch and said, since both you and my brother just broke my bank, what do you think about getting some of this coffee stuff for my mom for xmas, she loves coffee. not much input from her here, but kino is escalating and she is doing her part as well, i mean, good responces. we sit down, play some games, share scar stories, i have three from three different gfs and she giggled at them all. half hour and we move. sit in leather vibrating chairs for a few minutes, too much shit between us so i grab her hand, pull her up, squeeze compliance test, get positive results, sit on wooden bench in the back of the mall. start sharing scariest story game, here's where she brings up how she rearely has sex cuz she's so small it hurts her and she needs to be in a relationship for a month before she will. i keep looking ahead as if i'm focused on the larger context of the story then this small detail, pull her in closer to me, she puts her head on my shoulder, we talk longer and then leave the building. when leaving, i pull her over to me as i sit back on this little rock ledge and kiss her and let her kiss me (by the way, for a stripper i expected better, but shes young so idk) and then say, woah, slow down race horse and stand up very tall over her with eye contact and say "let's get you outta here before you cause me more trouble." her eyes go wide and crazy but she doesn't say anything. i walk her to her car, she drives me to mine kiss again for 30-45 sec and then i hop out real quick since my door was already open and people waitng behind us. say good bye and then idk if we'll ever see each other again. she screams "What?!" and i say, just kidding i'll prolly call you. hop into my car, and the date is over.
(so sorry about this length, but i need major help cuz i feel more like AFC then PUA and i think with all these details you guys can really help me out. Thanks for stickin in there!)
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