Hey guys! I wonder if anyone has been in the same situation I am. Sometimes when I game girls online everything goes just the way I want it and I feel awesome! But some other times it seems no matter what I say everything goes wrong and I keep sinking more and more! For example I chat with this girl last week and everuthing went well she gave me IOI´s and even wanted to date me. And today I chat with her and I felt just like an idiot, I used to be the dominant one while chating with her, now I felt like shit I ended up trying to win her aproval THAT SUCKS!!!
What can I do? Is it just coincidence? HELP PLEASE!

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Feel the fear and do it anyway!

I liken Online Sarging to the game of Golf. One minute you feel like it's all finally turning around and you're on top of the world and the next minute your brain is telling you "I told you when you woke up this morning that you were a piece of shit."

it is hit or miss.. some girls take to it naturally, some girls don't.. I've had a few girls delete me, 1 just now. Everything can be cool before, seem like good terms, and then bam you say something that strikes a bad chord with them..

You can be the 1 millionth guy on her list to worship her and kiss her ass and get no play, or take the chance to tease her, which is success or failure. Just don't take it to heart, those girls do not know you personally, they don't know what you are like.. you are the best guy out there, her lose for skipping out.

For every 1 you lose though, you have the possibility to gain more.

when u feel that's happening, listen to your gut just tell her you've gotta run but will hit her up later (sound busy, like u gotta run off and do something interesting).

Then catch up with her another day when you're back on your game and if u want make up some bs if she asks where u went that night in such a hurry - make it sound exciting

I'm going to give you the best, most simplest advice anyone can give you when dealing with girls on/offline and I modeled his off a friend of mine who had scored over 60 chicks in a year, and he's no looker he just has DHVs coming out of his a*s (high power business man type A guy who relies on charm and wit, NOT fancy watches, cars etc... to hook em') - I've observed him in action over the years and this is what he's always told me, and what I've observed,,,.ready??

-Bitches LOVE enthusiasm (in PUA terms this implies you're energetic and fun, don't take life too seriously and spontaenous)

-Give them what they need (if you keep things light and airy, while benig directive girls WILL gravitate to you - giving a girl what she wants does not mean PRIZING her, but rather making her realize you provide for her something no other guy in her life does at the time being; maybe you are the fun guy who always keeps her on her toes, or seem to 'understand' her better than anyone else and she connects to you this way. So you're not PRIZING but you are making her feel valued, and by giving her what she needs, or subconsciously convnicing her you have something she cant get elsewhere, she'll PRIZE you and keep coming back for more wondering when you're giong to contact her next)

-let go of the fear of rejection (doesnt matter who you are, there will be some chicks who'll reject you for any number of reasons; move on, don't skip a beat - drop as many lines into the ocean as possible so even if you only get 2 strikes on your line out of a possible 10, guess what that's 2 you didn't have before! Make shit happen)


A lot of what this guy does intuitively is what you likely already read in some of these PUA books. He does do cold reading quite a bit which is very simple to do with even the most basic psychology - go download a book on cold reading, even better.

I'm gong to add a few things of my own here that are specific to online interaction/dating sites:

-if you are feeling down, or w/e on a particular day, refrain from messaging the girl because you'll likely be hypersensitive and read into her responses in a negative way sending the communication on a negative trajectory from that point on - something I assume you're already familiar with.
-IOIs will come and go, particularly online. You may see her the next day logged into POF for example and she hasn't responded to you - WTF! Don't sweat it, stay cool...again, think of what an in demand guy would do; he's simply be talking to other chicks. Want to devalue yourself? Go ahead and message her "Hey, noticed you on here why haven't you messaged me?" Welcome to door mattsville.
-don't let chat carry on too long, before you know it things will go into chat oblivion and by then she's already moved onto another stimulating chat with one of the 100 other guys who are constantly hitting her up. Get her your #, tell her you two should hang out and carry the interaction to phone and ASAP arrange a date, the sooner the better; this also weeds out the girls who are serious, or semi serious about finding a guy, and those who are just on pof to get an ego boost and have 0 intention on meeting you. DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT think it's ok to text her incessantly just because she's given you her #; text messaging for a lot of girls is a test of sorts - if you text her too often her creepo alarm bells will be ringing. I always joke that every girl has at least 1 stalker, but it's true and if you befriend enough women they'll tell you about their private little stalkers and how creepy it is; seriously, girls get bombarbed by creepy guys on at least a weekly basis, it's understandable why so many have their guard up.
-when you msg her keep it light don't send her oodles of text it will seem needy. Be present, be fun, show her your spontaneous side (even if you dont have one), and above all else if she throws a shit test at you, be cool and see it for what it is so you don't play into her frame. A lot of girls are attracted to bad boy types, but they'll tell you often they dump the guy fast as soon as he fails the shit test and reveals he's a little pussy inside - girls are fucking geniuses at shit tests, they've been honing them their entire lives since they were little girls playing on the playground (they know how to use their femininity from a young age to get what they want, particularly from males).

I'm going to leave you with this....

When talking to a girl online or in person, think to yourself...how would I be responding to this girl right now, in this moment, if I knew I had other options (other irons on the coal)? If she's the only girl on your radar for the time being your Oneitis will become apparent to her before you're even aware of it, so remember what I said before you decide to respond to her. If in fact you're feeling desperate/lonely (we all do at some point), imagine how the 'in-demand' you would respond to her and then act accordingly.

Some of you guys take this cocky/funny stuff too far and the girl ends up thinking you're obnoxious and they run, rather than walk, the other way.