Okay, I've had sex since 18yrs old and I'm gaining experience. However, I have not gained THAT much experience but I was always a shy person when I comes to talking to fine-ass females.

I'm in college right now, transfer student with Associates degree, and the problem is that I haven't slept with women on my campus (YET). So I'm suffering from the masturbation syndrome. I've been "choking the chicken" since 2years ago (but not too much) and I've masturbate like 2-3times a week.

Some says it's natural but I feel disgusted of myself whenever I ejaculated at porn.

I just need some motivation to STOP doing it. Because it actually decrease my arousal when I'm with my old girlfriend, since last August (I don't see that coming).

So do you think it's right or wrong to masturbate (even sometimes). If it's wrong, how to stop it.

HELP. Thank you

Yes its wrong to masturbate, baby Jesus is looking upon you with revoltion and disgust. Allah isn't too fond of you either.

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I don't know if it works this way for you too, but me - I don't do that. I screws my inner game up:

Suppose I'm meeting a girl, and then I masturbate thinking about her - then I attach myself emotionally to her. I meet her again afterwards and no longer think of her as a nice girl, but through the prism of my fantasies.

This has never lead me to anything good.

But obviously other people might have other thoughts.

There are a few threads about this. With a lot of info.

I find masturbating once a week to be effective to refresh the sperm(if you're not getting laid)
Apart from that i think relying on masturbation heavily can have some negatives on your socializing. There's nothing unhealthy about the physical act though.

How can it be wrong to masturbate? Do what feels right for you. But6 don't make yourself feel bad about doing something that we all do. Might be why you are having the arousal issue.

Just relax.

Do you fancy your girlfriend? If you do, then maybe you are nervous or you worry about stuff you shouldn't worry about.

If you find yourself getting soft then lick her in that area she will love. then when you are ready - well you know what to do.

You're better off not doing it. I once went over 2 years not masturbating to see if I could do it, and for whatever reason I felt a better overall satisfaction with life.

2 years?! Woah, I'd love to know more about this, and what subtle differences you encored on this journey.

yes... all my periods of succes in life or succes with woman have a direct relationship to the periods i weren't masturbating..

you are better off not masturbating.. all people i know who do not masturbate got their life together for some reason... they seem less focused on sex, less needy

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Hmmm, interesting, because you think that masturbating would kill the urge and make you less needy?

yeah i think is has to do something with the pain/pleasure center in the brain .. when you masturbate ( orgasm ) you give yourself free endorphins and dopamine without doing anything for it.

it has to do alot with biochemistry, it should be studied more..

i have tested it out many times .. in pickup , sports or other activities i performed MUCH better if i didn't masturbate for a few weeks... im not saying it affects your physical ability to perform .. i think it has do with the psychological chemistry and social cognitive behaviour.

again .. sexually frustrated is a term which does exist for a reason... people who are sexually frustrated often are more assertive and are more willing to go after what they want.

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I read about high levels of corstisol having direct influence on the level of arousal.. people with high levels of cortisol are directly overaroused by stimuli.. wether visual or sensual.

People who are lonely OR who overtrain are prone to developing higher levels of cortisol... it's can also be genetic just like thyriods.

Alot of people including myself are HSP..we always have a higher level of cortisol than most human beings.

Being lonely increases the amount of cortisol and other stress hormones , it increases the tendancy to get aroused very quickly and masturbate more often.

Being in social enviroments and getting social pay offs and connection therefore can activate cortisol antagonists which probably gives you a relieve from stress and a sense of being high.

interestingly... crying lowers cortisol...

if you masturbate you get a certain amount of adrenaline ( when you orgasm ) and a certain increase of dopamine ( controls pain pleasure in the brain )... interestingly SEROTIN LEVELS DROP... serotin is important for feeling well being , less stress and less anxiety in general..

of course it doesn't matter if you orgasm one time every week or maybe a bit more.. but if you do it alot it will have severe influence on your psychology and mood...

Now sex is different.. because when you are having intimate connection with people you produce / release more oxytocin and other hormones.. different cortisol antagonists which do not get produces when you masturbate..

if you are lonely, or if you have high levels of cortisol naturally - it's maybe better to only masturbate one time every week ..

it's not weird that people develop weird compulsive behaviours with all these hormones.

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I would strongly recommend you DO NOT mastrubate over porn.

If you do mastrubate, mastrubate alone and think "happy thoughts"

Porn is just twisted and messes with you.

How often should you mastrubate? I think once in two weeks. Not more.

If you do more, than you have no desire and drive to go after what you want.

When you mastrubate, you release all of your energy into fluff and air (or down the toilet how ever you like to call it)

So don't mastrubate more than once in two weeks.

O and as far as being something wrong with mastrubation:

One of the biggest issues people have with self esteem is not viewing themselves as "normal" but viewing themselves as there is something "wrong" with them.

Whenever you do something that feels "wrong" to you, your confidence goes DOWN.

You may not even be aware of it right away, but when you're out and you want to approach- there it is.

It comes out in a form of insecurity, and a sense of low self worth.

So to make it easy on yourself, think mastrubation as a very normal thing.

EVERYBODY mastrubated at least once in their life. And that's a very humble statement.

You are normal if you mastrubate, and you are ok. There is nothing wrong. Infact, there is all right into it.

If it wouldnt be normal, than you wouldn't have that idea in your mind.

Having three niples is not normal, having 11 toes is not normal, but mastrubating is as normal as singing and dancing, as brushing your teeth or taking a shit.

Taking a shit also feels a little weird. But we all do it.

So don't mastrubate on porn, mastrubate with only your imagination.

Don't mastrubate more than once in two weeks. So once in every two weeks

When you do, realize it is normal and that EVERYBODY does it.

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nice reply !

Whenever i have confidence problems when dealing with difficult woman or relationships i always have the tendancy to masturbate... so whenever you masturbate ALOT it means your inner game or confidence is affected..

i did an experiment last 3 days...

i jerked off like 4 times every day ... on porn.. just to see if it DOES affect me..

actually i was happy... right now i feel like shit.. PORN DOES MESS WITH YOUR HEAD lol... but again what doesn't ? .. keep the shitty magic pill influences out of your life.

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Great knowledge on this topic guys. The only thing i'm worried about is it being a health hazard if you don't do it.

Thank you all for those AMAZING replies. These tips you all gave me actually helped me.

To "Black Phantom," it makes alot of sense and note, I never think masturbating is not normal but masturbating ALOT like 7x a week IS NOT normal lol. I like your advice on not to masturbate on porn but masturbate on my imagination(like I giving orgasms to a girl I want to pound on).

So for me, I will only masturbate once or twice a month. Why? Two things:

One: I will still go out and meet women(I'm not a caveman you know)

Two: I will help like Brad said to lower my stress level.