STOP! just stop lol you might have already ruined your chances with her just by taking the actions you have already taken! Let me show you what you did wrong, what your still doing wrong, what you need to do, and why your thought process is completely messed up! this women although Im sure she is a great girl is no different than any other women and and your relationship wasnt as great as you thought it was or it would not have ended....think about that!

None of what Im about to say is going to be easy for you to hear but you need to listen and learn!

1. When a women says "Lets take a break" this in women's language means "Im not that into you any more but I want to keep you around as insurance so Im going to put our relationship on hold and go look for another guys....in fact I might sleep with anther guy and you have to be ok with it because we are on a break" but in her head she is also thinking "you cant see other women or sleep with them and if you do I have a reason to break up with you and make you out to be an ass hole". A break it a joke, theres no such things as a joke it somthing women invent so they have the upper hand....and you might say "I wanted a break too" well my friend thats even worse because no guy wants a break...we either want to break up or be with a girl and all it means is she owned ur ass. If a girl ever says to you again "lets have a break" You say to her "A break? I dont take breaks from relationships theres no such thing thing so instead lets break up" BAM! you just took back the power!

2. Stop calling her! stop txting her! stop all contact with her! you look needy and "beta" to her. She has the upper hand right now and she knows it....shes not going to take you back because your not acting like an "alpha male" and even if she does take you back shes going to talk all over you! I have news for you! and you might not want to hear this and you might not listen to it but SHES NOT THE ONLY WOMEN IN THE WORLD! as hard as it is to believe there are other women who will give you the same satisfaction that she did....there are 4 billion women in the world shes not the only one who can make you happy! plus look at your self....look how stressed out you are and how much you think about this girl! you think thats good for your health?

3. You need to learn how women think in order to keep them interested in you...picking a women up is the easy part its keeping her coming back for more that is challenging. Most guys in here are amazing at picking up HB 9 and 10's up but horrible at keeping them around for longer then a few months. Here is the diffrence between women and men: Women think mostly with the emotional part of the brain and men mostly with the logical part of the brain (this is fact not made up) what this means is that women make decisions based mostly on how they feel emotionally....they neglect to think "this guy is a really nice guy" and rather think "this guy is fun!, this guy is alpha!, this guy makes me feel like a women!" you sir did none of what I just said! If you want a women to stick around you need learn how to spark her emotions!

4. How do you spark her emotions? Be exciting! have fun every day! no matter what it is have fun with it! you also need to always be slightly less interested in her then she is in you....this doesnt mean be a dick it just means know when to act cuddly and lovey and when not to....if shes treating you like shit you dont give her hugs and tell her shes amazing...you ignore it and tell her she needs to stop and its not ok...when she treating you well then you reward her by cuddling with her and telling her how amazing she is....once you notice she starts to act up again you tell her you dont like when she acts like that and its not ok....simple! Never be an asshole just be smart!

5. Be an alpha male! women want to be with a leader of men, an alpha, a true man! they want a guy whos going to call them on their bull shit, whos going to call them out when they are being mean, a guy who stand up for him self! they want a guy who has confidence in him self and doesnt question his actions....own who you are and dont make excuses for it! if you like star wars let it be known! if you work at burger kings act like its the best job you ever had and own it! dont say "well I work at burger king but its just for now" say "I work at burger king and I love it! its amazing!". You see what I am saying? right now you calling her and txting her makes you beta, it gives her the upper hand and you need to have the attitude "I like this girl alot but w.e if she doesnt see how amazing I am then there are 4 billion other women who want me".

One more thing....never freak out on a girl! always stay calm! Women will freak out and get emotional because they are emotional beings but they expect men to be the rock....be calm even if she yelling at you, calling you names ect...always be the calm one! when my gf freak out I simply say "The way you are acting right now is not ok you need to calm down" if she freaks out more il tell her Im going to leave until she calms down and then we can talk about it....this looks very alpha to her for two reasons 1# I didnt freak out like a girl and look beta" and 2# I stood up to her and let her know her actions are not ok and that if she acts this way she wont get attention.


Remember this: you teach people how to treat you

P.S this is exactly what Im talking about! STOP! stop saying "shes the only on for me" you know what she prob is a kick ass chick! she prob is amazing! But so what????? who cares? there are other amazing women in the world you think she is the only women who is good looking and and has a good personality? you want to marry her? common man your not even with this chick and you couldnt make it work when you were.....you want her worse now because you cant have her and you need to get some confidence in your self and learn that in life you need to roll with the punches. Again Im sure she is a great girl! and Im sure she is a nice person who can cook, clean, and give head like a porn star but SO WHAT!?? there are other women....in fact many of them! who can give you the same satisfaction.

I am over her, and have moved on. Removed her from facebook and twitter. But what I reposted about is that when I logged on facebook today I saw that SHE poked me..wtf? I don't know what to think haha. By the way she would never give me head(and it pissed me off), but did everything else haha

haha See thats called taking back the power....and taking back your balls lol feels good doesnt it? Before she though "what an poor excuse for a man I can have him when ever I want!" because she could and now that you took back the power she is thinking "shit I want him back! I miss him" she wants you because she can have you and because you are doing what a real man does...moving on and taking control of your life.

be careful though! if she starts missing you shes going to tell you how much she misses you and wants you back ect ect....make sure its on your terms! you are the boss and dont forget it!

look man, bottom line is you want to be happy with a girl you totally dig right?

your ex will be a mind fuck. I'm sure you already notice this. Her poking you on Fb or answering questions dosn't mean a thing as far as her interest in you.

ok.. long story short. I Was in a relationship with a women for 6 years. We broke up at the end of 2009 (no arguing nada it was a great relationship), I chased that until about november of this month. That's when I realized i had wasted 2 years of my life beating the hell out of my emotions and self worthy.

I did it all man, I posted here, took others advice, went alpha..etc. I thought i was making progression, got her to go on dates, but in her mind it was always friends. I even kissed her a few times...but still emotionally, for her..friends.

In my mind it was progress, it was DHV, being a gentleman, not over contacting her etc.. everything seemed perfect. (i said everything you have.. i loved her so much and I did.. and in some lights i still do.. but shes not the girl i want)

what I'm trying to say is.. As much as you feel your relationship was so much different then other peoples understanding of your closeness...we have all been in that same boat. Were all human, and people from the 1600's wrote about the pain of a loved one nobody could understand.

Now that I let her go... ive found a girl I really like and realize I was making myself a tool to her boundaries of friendship.

I hate to see another good guy go through this..... let it go bro. Thats the only GOOD advice I could respectfully give you without leading you down a rabbit hole of more pain.... Sorry bro, but you deserve a great women. N trust me, there like 10 billion people on earth (lets say like 10,000 that would even be relatively compatible with you) your gunna find someone just like you found this one.

I only wrote this cuz your original post read exactly the way mine did on this forum months ago. I mean EXactly. Best of luck man,

She might still miss the closeness you once had but it doesn't mean she wants to get back together or finds you attractive. Perhaps she simply feels guilty bcos she knows she hurt you. You have to continue to act not needy, continue to try and move on until you ARE 100% moved on and at least a couple months have passed. Unless she says she wants to get back together (you set new rules if she does) then consider ANY INTERACTION just guilt.

Some people need time to realize the mistake that they have done.If she really loved you she will come back.

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