hi guys,

so i've been seeing this girl for a month or so, we spent a lot of time with eachother at first, and it's cooled off and developed into a routine of us seeing eachother maybe twice a week. but just over a week ago we were having some issues in the bedroom. (i'll be honest, i cudn't get it up a couple of times). this put pressure on our relationship, as obviously sex is a big part of it. So i suggested we slow it down and see what happens.

So after this i prepared myself to move on from her, and keep her as a friend, as she's a great girl. We went for a coffee together this week and didn't get intimate, it was just like good friends. But what's strange is that she invited me round hers today when her sister was there hanging out with her, and she wasn't shy about getting close to me, and the way she talked about me to her sister made it sound like we were in a relationship. Eery time her sister left the room we were gradually getting more intense before i left and we kissed at the door.

She wants to see me again, and i want to see her. I went through a phase of being needy with this girl in my mind, but i'm at the stage now where i'm attracted to her, but i'm careful with my feelings and actions, and don't want to rush anything to build the attraction back.

I consider her girlfriend material, but i don't know whether she feels the same way. With her actions it seems so, but not with her words. What does this mean?

Is there hope for our relationship? Is she playing me? Is she playing herself? or does she just not know what she wants?

Thanks guys,

Tom

the games that people play are difficult to decipher unless you're good at script/transaction analysis. most people "play themselves" unknowingly. you don't need to worry about that...yet.
if she is not playing a very sick game with you, which I doubt, then i'd say she's great girlfriend material already. seems like she doesn't want to give up on you. if this is so, I'd hang on to her, lose myself and enjoy the ride that life could offer by her side. relax, maybe she's the best thing that could happen to you