Hello everyone,

I've not been on this site, or read about pick-up or done any sarging for 2 and a half years. Ive been in a brilliant long-term relationship.
A relationship which is now over.
I don't want to go over why, but it is. I really cared about this girl, and haven't been anywhere near another girl in all this time.
How do I get over her?
How do I get back in the saddle?
I feel pretty shit right now.

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Maybe I'll go be the best in the world some place else.

Take another look at yourself. Get your hair cut, buy new shoes, a fancy new coat, make yourself up just like you did before.

Go work on something that makes you feel accomplished.

Go hang out with your buds and just have fun.

When you start smiling again its time to get your game face on and to start meeting people again. Remember that if you can exude an outward image of happiness people will pick up on that and reflect it back at you, illusion or not.

Just set some reasonable goals and work on them one by one. You'll be back to your old tricks in no time, and we here in the community will be behind you every step of the way.

Good luck brother!

very good click, the forum is for u

Look at what u like about u.

forgive her/yourself.. dont forget learn.

The present is now. Redefine your self image.

Set goals and keep them. Be true to yourself.

any negative feelings take some quiet time and think. soon they will be gone.

You are not the sum of your past or what you will become. You are NOW bro.

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Don't forget the ones, that helped make me, the man I like becoming!

If there's one thing that I think can be semi realistic about american movies; it is the protagonist recovering from a break up. I think this can be achieved similar to the way it happens in the movies. This may sound far fetched, but i'll give you an example.

Watch limitless, and how his girlfriend dumps him near the start. Now i know this miracle pill helped him bounce back stronger, but in reality, you can do the same without it, you just need the right mindset. Strongly recommend watching this movie.

Thanks for all the help guys, I really appreciate it. I think I just need some time, over christmas and what not to pull myself together. Like right now I cant even consider getting back on the horse, but a month or two who knows. The way I see it there's no rush.

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Maybe I'll go be the best in the world some place else.

We have all been there.

Just to let you know the way I see it feeling anything at all about your past is not going to change your present.

Do find a way to let it go. And get on being the awesome person your supposed to be bra.

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Don't forget the ones, that helped make me, the man I like becoming!

Also just got out of a relationship, although i wasn't always faithful and whatnot, i did really like her, and we were as serious as ive ever been with a girl.

this is my first weekend back in the game, ive got a haircut, hit the sunbeds, lost a bit of weight, and i'm ready to go out and have a good time with friends, already getting back up to speed speaking to girls, now its just about getting the first one out of the way and its back to my old ways good luck man, its nice to know im not the only one experiencing break up

Facts

She's not special
Neither are you
There are approx 3.5 billion females in the world.

I don't really agree with that. I had a shitty breakup about a year ago and this is how I finally got over it.

Don't make it look like it was not special, because if it wasn't you wouldn't have been with her for 2 years.
What you had was indeed special.
It's alot more harsh to think about it like that but in the end you will feel better about it because you won't feel like those two years were lost.
They were just another episode in your life, but many more will come.
You are just moving on to the next chapter.
Don't give up if your down, just keep walking and enjoy what you see while walking.

I found I could greatly speed up this process by doing new things.
Break out of those old routines, change is good, and even if the change is bad it is still good, for you will have experienced things.
Try out some new sport and such, go to new places with your friends.
For example: I joined a kickboxing club, which I always wanted to try but never really did try

Good luck

You just have to give it time, recovering from a LTR takes a while. I would advice that you forget sarging for now and focus on doing other activities. Find other hobbies and meet new people. I was in a 9 year relationship (were living together the whole time) and it's now been about 4 months since we broke up and I'm still not over it but it gets better each day. I've taken this time to meet new people and doing things that I didn't have time to do before. There's always a void to fill after and trying to desperately replace her may not be the best idea. Sure you can do ONS but take some time to heal yourself before plunging in again.

I'd agree about giving it time. I've never really had a relationship anywhere near as long as 2 years, but I recently sort of broke up from a girl I was "sort-of" seeing and had been doing for 6 months.

Really liked her a lot, and took a lot out of me when it ended. Then you sort of go through stuff like feeling great, optimistic up for moving on some days, then you miss her and whatever and you're back to square one.

Just put yourself out there as much as possible, as soon as you feel even remotely ready for it. In fact, even if you don't feel ready. Even if you don't find anyone you're even bothered about hooking up with, I find that even a bit of mild flirting can help the healing process so to speak. A bit of mild flirting with a few reasonably attractive girls (or better!) and you're soon realising that, as great as the relationship was and as much of an important part of your life is now finished, there are alot of great girls still out there.