| you don't necessarily need to have interesting things to talk about, but you do need exciting responses.
for example when you ask "so are you doing anything fun for the holiday" you can maybe pretend that you're being AFC because deep down you KNOW that you're a PUA (or at least you're acting like one, acting alpha). hmmm like you can be sarcastic about it, as if you don't really care... and maybe even interrupt her and say "yea, ok you're boring" with a smile on your face... then change the subject if you like....
honestly it doesn't matter. i've found this to be the most entertaining part. i guess since i'm naturally a nice guy AND they know it (DHV stories, friendly smile/body language, great eye contact, etc...) they find it funny and interesting when I act cocky, funny, etc... I make it a habit to not necessarily being an AFC nice guy but a PUA nice guy. one who approaches with great topics, interesting conversation, DHV spikes/stories, routines, being open minded, and overall a great conversationalist... ALONG with some very very light negs in the beginning. then i'll throw in harsher negs with a smile.... act like the shit every now and then and NOT say "i'm just kidding", etc...
changing the topic is my best friend, shrugging and not caring is my favorite shit test response. focus on inner game and treat every person you meet as if you've known them for years, maybe as if they were your best friend and you were "catching up" with them. it's not about what you say... it's about your personality.
try to structure your questions more and look out for key words to ask more in depth questions on. instead of asking "what are you doing/ what are you up to" maybe ask "so what do you think you'll be doing this same time 5 years from now" or maybe hypothetical questions such as "if a bear was chasing you and you had a gun, what would you do?". it doesn't really matter.... try to change the way you think, and when things come to mind make up more interesting questions that you're actually interested in asking.
we feel in foreign territory when trying to "pick up" women, so pretend you're not picking her up and talk to her like a normal person. small talk is great... i still ask "so what do you do?" but i expand on that. when they tell me something, i don't ask another question as if i'm conducting an interview. i ask her to tell me more about it by asking questions such as "what made you choose that" or "would you consider any other profession". etc...
lead the conversation, remember that. there's more i could say to help but you need to be more specific as to where you need help and maybe people can help you out.
here's a little quote i'm going to make up myself, remind yourself this when you can't think of anything else to say.
"it doesn't matter if the women has been asked the same question a million times, it feels different when the RIGHT person asks her that same question"
hopefully that helps? and good luck
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one more thing. when it comes to texting, yes you need to be different. you must say something different that you don't expect any other guy to say. something to convey interest such as
PUA: "you know what happened today, i saw someone who I swear looked identical to you she honestly could have been your twin sister. it's weird though because i was actually attracted to her"
... she'll start to think: what makes her more special then me. then she'll begin to qualify and maybe you can say something about her smile and how hers lite up the room. and you can neg her saying her's is nice, but a little average *smile*
don't ask questions with texts unless they're really attracted to you, use it to gain more interest from them. you're asking questions that are used to gain comfort, but that doesn't work until they want you.
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by Casual (Age 20, Upcoming PUA)
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