What should you do when a girls says that she wants to wait until the two of you are in a relationship and only when its been one month into the relationship that she will sleep with you? Have you guys experienced any such thing? What can you do in this situation to speed things along? (p.s. this is a stripper we are talking about here, the one from my latest post. I think i did a good job with the cat string theory, but still...)

You got two choices.. Wait or call her bluff.

You need to decide whether you think she's worth it or not.

She's a stripper so it doesn't sound good. Stripper's are experts at manipulating guys like you. In other words you do a lot for her in the month you're supposedly waiting, then suddenly she's ignoring you, and moved onto the next subject, wallet, etc.

Remember they've got tons of guys trying to get in their pants all the time. So you think you're different because she's playing your ego? Don't flatter yourself.

I say call her bluff, and if she doesn't want to play, then leave her alone. Don't call her, don't go see her.. Zilch. If she's really interested she'll get in touch with you, etc... Make sure she has a way to do so. And make sure you focus on sex 'now' every time you see her.

No taking her to the zoo, giving her a ride around to see her friends, no dinner, etc.. Hell she probably makes more than you do anyway. But her rep and credit is probably not worth a shyt.

P.S. Never let a stripper talk you into doing anything stupid. Do I need to explain?

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Hey, i remeber your post earlier, im assuming your date went well? you didnt really provide much details so its hard to give detailed advice.

IMO based on the information you did provide, it sounded to me like a kind of shit test. She probably said this because she wanted to see your reaction.

I dont know if you made any statements to how you deal with relationships, i usually try to get a line in like "Im just enjoying life right now, meeting so many people and just having fun, i cant be exclussivly with someone right now."

Also, i do not know how the above mentioned really effects my targets, but at some point you gotta convey to them that your either looking for an exclusive relationship or your not ready for that.

I probably woulda responed to her with something like, "Well, i cannot commit to anything yet, we just meet and isnt that what dateing is all about, to see how much you really like someone...so lets take it slow and see how it works out."

Someone else used a metephore about like fish in the sea and not swimming with one if you dont like them or something...i cant remeber how they worded it though.

Also i dont know if you were trying to force intimacy on her when she said this...obviously that would change things.

All in all id say that a counter to that would be a statement conveying that your not in a hurry, but your not gonna sit around and wait alone with just her.

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