I'm not sure but just have a hunch. This is a HB8.5 who is older than me by one year.

We've been on a few dates and have been havin fun. Anyway I think I may be a placeholder until someone better comes along. We were joking the other day I was telling her some girl was here flirting with me and she said some guy was there flirting with her and I said good I hope he's all you dreamed about.
Then she goes and says something along the lines of "nah im jus jokin, you'll do for the moment."


Is this some sort of shit test or am I actually a placeholder? And how do I flip the script?

anyone?

How many dates is "a few"?

Have you banged her yet? I hope you've at least kissed the broad.



If you're spending time and attention on her and not getting play, you're definitely a placeholder. Never put up with that.

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4 dates and haven't had sex yet, on 2 of the dates we were gonna, but 1 time i didn't have enough money for hotel on me (i thought i did and we went and bought protection and then i checked my pockets) and the second time it was 6.30am and i was gonna bring her back to mine but we were too tired and drunk!

How would one flip the fucking script in style and get her to bone and be afraid to lose me?

And yeah of course I've kissed. I k closed after an hour on first date

She shit test you and you failed. Now you have to try to clean up the mess.
Shit test her, you might loose her but its better than being her placeholder.
Fake it till you make it. When youre with her text your friends. When she asks who youre talking to tell her it's this girl you met the other night.
She will prolly say something about it.
Then you tell her well it's jus something about this girl thats drawing you in.
Jealousy will grab her right then. She thinks youre hers and youre flipping the script right there.
Play off that and good luck

thanks for the reply but i dont see how i failed. i didnt question her on it i just ignored it. it didnt bother me at the time but ive just been thinking about it now. how do i become more of a challenge to her?

i dont think youre a "placeholder", what happened is you tried to get her jealous and it worked, she reacted and retaliated with her own jealousy plot, your response was fine it didnt show much reactivity. you can call her out own it just dont be hostile about it be playful and lighthearted

You goaded her into it, of course she said this. The key is to not be bothered by it. It's not a shit test, and it's not a mistake, it's just something she said. Leave it at that.

Never be worried you'll lose her or it's a self-fulfilling prophecy.

This is the best advice anyone could ever give to me right at this moment. Thanks.

I know this already but I just needed you to say it to me.

For anyone else reading, if you fear something then that fear will most likely come true.