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Well my only main hobby is chatting up girls other than that its the usual football playing games.
maybe psycology too
i have an extremley hard time talking to girls through text and internet but in person i can talk to people easy
i realy need to improve it though because im meeting girls out having a laugh with them soon as it comes to texts i get anxiety id rather direct approach a hb10 in the street then send a text to a hb 7
I have an easy solution to the text problem. You have to have the phone number to send a text, so just call voice instead of sending text. Easy peasy.
Psychology is a great thing to work with, because just about everyone is on some level and to some extent interested in the way a human mind works. Specifically as relates to your profile, you could put in a bit about how you're fascinated by "the way people develop feelings for each other", setting the stage and getting her thinking about developing those feelings. You could then further develop the idea by describing in sensory terms what its like to develop feelings. This comes across as poetic, and simulates the experience for her in her mind, giving you a head start.
Football, on the surface, seems like something that not everyone is interested in, particularly in the subset of the population known as "Women", HOWEVER, if you mention that you like football, and then go into a sensory description of what you like about it, THOSE things can appeal much more generally and help get her mindset in the right place. For example, you can talk about the excitement of the game, the thrill of the chase, the passion for someone you support, the feeling of victory, or even take it sexual by talking about sweating and physical activity in the right way.
The same could be said of games in general. You can describe the sensation of having fun, victory, etc.
The key is to use things that are of general interest, and put them in a frame that moves the seduction along. And to take things that are LESS of general interest, and distill from them the sensory language that IS of greater appeal, and that fits within a framework that moves the seduction along.
By using sensory language to cover appealing general experiences like this, relating to your own talents and interests, you are building the mindset in her that she's ALREADY experiencing those appealing sensations with you, and it makes her much more likely to respond positively.
It can also be productive to expose a bit of vulnerability about what you're not good at, or don't like, but be very specific and avoid too much sensory language when referring to those things. Also, DONT use "I'm not good at texting or talking online" because it sounds like an excuse and puts you in an unconfident frame.
By AVOIDING sensory language when dealing with negatives or vulnerabilities, you express your humanity WITHOUT making her feel bad. It creates a sense of trust in that you're willing to say what your flaws are instead of giving her an incomplete picture of you.
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It doesnt flow im always thinking whats the perfect response.
So iv been using pof for 1 day now properley the real goal of it is just to help me talk online so for when i text a girl i can get her on a date as quick as possible.
on a date i get laid i do things like if they give me there phone ill say somethin like right nice meeting you see you later an pretend to leave gets laughs i am extremley good at kino thankfully because im crap at most other things.
onlinesites and texting is just way unatural theres alot of girls on facebook id like to meet an possibley a realtionship with some but i just mess up with them through facebook even though i get many likes on my status an quite popular
Its realy making me depressed
Furthermore, you need to focus LESS on making everything perfect. No matter how skilled you are or how much experience you've got, you're not going to get everything perfect every time, and worrying about it erodes your confidence and thus drives you FURTHER away from perfection.
Instead, focus on letting things flow smoothly and naturally, and learning from what happens. Convert your mistakes into new learnings and techniques, and THAT is how you achieve mastery. There is no such thing as failure, there is only learning what doesn't work, so that you can be better at doing what does.
Donald Trump is said to have stated that he didn't become successful by making less mistakes than anyone else, he attributes his success to making MORE mistakes, but never the same one twice.
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