Hi,

I'm 20 years old. I have just broken up with my long term girlfriend of 5 years. Time to start learning.

I have been out about 4 times since we split. I've kiss closed every night bar one, but I really don't think I was using much 'game'. But hey.

Luckily I have a couple of friends who are in to it, and do very well. And have a few years experience.

What I need to work on is my confidence. Last night I felt sober. I didn't have the confidence, it may of been the club and the people in it. Funnily enough this is the only night which I didn't kiss close. I found a really hot girl, my type. It took me about 2 and a half hours to approach her. And I didn't do too well.

I went up to her and just said "I thought I'd come and say hi".
She smiled, and waved right in front of me and said "Hi". I went blank, but kept smiling. I had nothing to say. It was really too loud to say anything anyways. I ball's out and smiled at her and walked away to my friends.

I saw her get in the taxi and leave, a good 2 - 3 second eye contact before she went off. Which means she could of been interested. This girl was hot, she was like a petite angelina jolie, but prettier. What I have learnt is that if I don't approach, or don't have the confidence to get a good flow going and rapport with her. And not just give up and walk away when things get bad then I will suffer, and I'll probably never see that girl again

Went out last night. Student night. Wasn't as good as last weeks. Really found it difficult to find some girls which I was genuinely attracted to. Managed to approach one, got a good response but was a bit of an AFC approach.

I saw a girl and her friend outside the club. Got eye contact. Really should of approached, they soon left. Me and my friend went to wait for a taxi and we saw the same two girls. Again, didn't approach them. I sat next to them, and kicked the rubbish towards them LOL? Not sure why, but she kicked it back and got some banter going and talked for about 20 minutes. She left. I didn't have the balls to number close her. 5 Minutes later. She came back, and asked for my number. She had bigger balls than me!

Talking to pretty much most of the day, she's 18. I'm 20. Cute though.

Sounds like a heavy case of approach anxiety, bro. You can snuff out AA easily enough with practice. No matter what happens, you will almost always have AA on some level, especially with the 9's and 10's. The difference between the coward and the hero is the action he takes. Just go for it, man! What have you got to lose? You can't get better if you don't know what you're doing wrong, and right now the only thing you're doing wrong is letting your AA get the better of you. You are your own worst enemy. Once you get past your AA, you can see where else you need to improve, and what you are really good at. But if you don't approach, you'll never know.


-Ruggedized

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Yeah, I agree completely. I really just need to go out there and try and get rejected! It doesn't help that I've only tried it in Nightclubs where the music is too loud! Been out quite a few times this week and had success through kiss close or number close bar one night. But I feel I just got lucky, zero game.

I'm going to try and mix up my venues, maybe hit a few bars instead.

I love it.

Start from the ground and work upwards. Getting rejected is easily forgotten, a few girls may have a laugh, but then it dies and it's not funny anymore. You got this, bro. You might surprise yourself.

Best of luck!


-Ruggedized

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-You can't say overreact without saying ovary.

I went out last night. Got a lot of attention, really started to act more alpha, feel more confident and walk through the place like I owned it!

I had a few chances but I wasn't attracted to them. I know a lot of people seem to go for quantity, but I want to use game and learn to get QUALITY. I winged my friend pretty well, got him the girl he wanted and gave him some tips. And it worked. HB8. I wanted her, ha! But he has had some lousy nights lately when I was closing so I let him.

I have a feeling I'm back out again, the same club I kiss closed last week. Will let you all know. I NEED TO MAN UP AND APPROACH! GAHHH!

It's 5:23am.

I'm back.

I met with another guy from the forum, called Ben. Not sure on his username though. Didn't really have chance to do much 'game' as it was rammed! Nor really had time to chat about stuff. I was stone cold sober, had a few drinks to loosen me up.

There wasn't that much talent out really. They were the odd HB8 and 1 HB9 but they were within their social circles. Did make really strong eye contact with HB8. Sounds stupid reporting eye contact, but I was impressed. I managed to hold it for a long time and I noticed the IOI's. And then some dude took her away, not sure if it was her boyfriend but they seemed to be having quite a deep talk.

Well, in the club they were some dancers on stage, they weren't 'hired guns' just got selected to go up and dance. One of them came down, really short skirt smoking body. She was surrounded by all the AFC's going in for the kill. I noticed one guy go in, doing some weird chicken head bopping in front of her and she rejected him. I decided to do what he did, and make a joke of it. Bam, made eye contact, smiled and built up some kino. I bounced her and her friend to the bar. They bought their own drinks, I bought my own. Talked a little and Ben appeared. I introduced him to the two set had some friendly banter going on and went back to dancing.

Mind you, she knew how to dance. I have never seen a girl dance like this, and she was dancing on me. I noticed her face wasn't that great. Her body was a 9 or a 10. She was Asain too, have a little soft spot for them.

I was acting very confident, alpha male. I wasn't give her much. When other guys tried to dance with her I wouldn't act all protective but make a joke with him and then look away from her. I met up with some other friends at a bar. And the two set, me, Ben and my friends went to the bar. It was a bit of a mosher bar, could of been real fun though but was winding down.

She was definitely DTF, but I wasn't. Logistics and I wasn't feeling it. She was VERY annoying, and due to me not giving her much she was fighting for my attention all the time. I got her number though.

Will be off out again tomorrow, maybe seeing Ben. Going to try utilise more game.

Peace

Will be off out again, probably be a little more 'merry'. It is a bit of an 'indie' night, and very studenty. A lot of the guys go very casual. So I shall be wearing a crisp white shirt with jeans, Hopefully stand out.

Wish me luck.

Probably one of my best nights yet. Felt confident, was confident. Made eye contact, approached all night.

3 kiss closes. 4 number closes. Doesn't seem that much but I felt unstoppable. I'm just grateful for what I have learned. It has made me a new man.

Bit awkward when two of the kiss closes kind of met, but I defused the situation! LOL.

I'm getting better every night. I'm more confident every night. I'm approaching more girls every night. I BELIEVE in my self.

I got to the club early, made eye contact with half a dozen girls before the night really began. I also made little comments so that I could go back to them later in the night and talk to them. It worked. It was a small club, but I managed to kiss close 6 girls. None over a HB7. Although I did open a HB8 brunette and a HB9 blonde and the rapport was amazing, they weren't up them selves and I was noticing a lot of IOI's from both. I escalated the kino and I managed to isolate the HB9 blonde for a few minutes. I'm not sure what really happened though...I think I drank too much I'm struggling to remember!

I kissed one girl when she asked where the smoking area is. I said follow me, went straight to the dance floor. Looked at her and said I'm not too sure actually, looked at her in the eyes...bang kiss close. Was so spontaneous. Eye contact is my fave now!

I also met Ben from this forum on here too, who's also new to it. He came a bit later on. But managed to go back to a HB6's apartment. He text me saying that he didn't have a condom LOL, but still managed to get something out of it.


I'm not sure when I'll next be out as I am also a fitness model and I have a shoot on the 13th which I need to 'prep' my body for. It's a shame...I'm hooked!

Really proud of you bobby, I can see from reading your journal just how far you've come in this short space of time. From what I've observed in the club, you seem to have lost a lot of the approach anxiety you talked about having when you first started out, and you appear to come across confident in the club. I think you're right about the eye contact mate, it's definitely the key to getting that immediate attraction.

We've had a good couple of nights out so far, bring on many more! x

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Yeah, indeed. Glad it's going upwards. I'm tempted to try some day game as I won't be drinking until after my shoot.

I also forgot that I was so close to number closing the cloakroom girl, ha ha! But my mates pulled me away as there was a huge que behind me :\

Alright. It's 7am.

Tonight, wasn't really looking to 'game' that much. Friends birthday, 15 lads. That soon changed. I saw the shot girl from the previous week, she wasn't working. I had a good bit of banter with her last week so it was easier to talk to her.

The only thing was, my whole night was really focused on her and I didn't want to pull any other girls incase she saw and assumed I was some player. She seemed really cool girl. Throughout the whole night the eye contact was there, and smiles. I approached her throughout the night but she seemed to be very relunctant, but not...if that makes sense? I got mixed signals. She'd go past and pinch me, and I'd look around and she'd smile and walk away...and then look back to see if I was following.

I finally went up to her and said..."you're quite hard work, chasing around like this...come on, lets go some where quiet." And just walked to the back of the club. She said she had to go but asked me to add her on Facebook.

I came home at 5am. Added her, she accepted within minutes. I've been talking to her on there for like two hours. BUT...
Before I added her I saw she was in a relationship. And then when she accepted it was hidden. I don't know what's going on, but her having a boyfriend will explain why she was reluctant earlier in the night.

She's not like most 'hired guns'. Yes, she's hot. I'd say HB10, but is a really cool, genuine girl. Which I'm going to try and get to know more. But I really need to find out if she has a boyfriend or not?!

Ha ha. Noticed IOI's from the Doctor today...

On the downside. I'm on antibiotics now. No drinking this week for me, time to arrange some dates or maybe attempt some day game?!

Last photoshoot tomorrow for the year. Will be in mens health, and other mens and fitness magazines. Will let all the UK members known when it's out and may be able to give it a read:-)