Haha wow 5 replies already, you guys are awesome
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I probably have no right to reply, since I usually just read random posts. However, being female, maybe I can shed some light on your questions. For one thing, you said you are the "dominant, superior" one in the relationship. What does that mean exactly? Does that mean you always bulldoze her ideas or control conversations? I hate to break it to you but "dominating" someone in a relationship isn't the way to make it last. Relationships are about give and take. If you are constantly taking, this might be a reason shes stepping away emotionally. I'm speaking from past experience, and I hated it when men started to treat me as an extension of themselves, rather than an individual person with needs/wants of my own.
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You do have a right and I appreciate your reply
Well I don't specifically mean that I'm the one to dominate because I'm not controlling at all unless necessary. I don't let her walk all over me either though. Let's just say the relationship is under my hand lol
Superior as in I'm the one to have higher value than her. A lot of girls chase and me and she knows I have a lot of other options. She knows that if she fucks up, I won't take her back. I hope I'm being clear to you guys
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Thanks man, I'll look into it but really the txting is the only routine and without it, the relationship will fail
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Just some notes:
Try seeing her on a weeknight. Change up the routine.
"p.s. I'm the superior, dominate one in the relationship. " " I haven't been needy, clingy, and/or insecure in the relationship or overall."
The fact that you have to mention this stuff, makes me think that you are not, indeed, the dominate one. You might be trying to hard to be the dominate one and this is starting to annoy her.
What are your text exchanges like? Boring stuff? Maybe you should randomly tell her that you want her. Or tell her you like running your fingers through her hair. Tell her to stop being so sexy. Whatever. Needy guys don't flirt (at least well.) Flirty texts can make for day long foreplay.
I don't think anyone really has enough to go on. You're going to get the generic PUA advice "make yourself less available, wait to text her back" That might work, but it's a game. You could end up losing a great girl that's been through that shit before. Working on yourself is always a good thing, but don't try to work her over with games so to speak. Real men don't manipulate with games in relationships.
I'd like it if you could tell us how you feel about this girl? How old are you guys? How often do you have sex?
Hope this helps.
I'm 18 and she's 17. We don't have sex yet because she has strict morals and thinks it's too early into the relationship to have sex, she is a virgin. I really love her, she's an amazing girl but I've created this mentality where if anything happens, such as losing her, I wouldn't care because that's her lost, there are plenty of other girls, and I have a lot of other options.
Our texts aren't really boring, I have a lot of flirting going on, there's sexting, and so on but the only problem is, we're txting each other 24/7 so it does get boring sometimes and I don't put in much effort and she's like that too but we never ignore each other. She's not being cold on texts either but there are days where she'll show less affection.
And about dominance, read the top reply to
happilyforever I guess I might seem like I'm trying to be dominate sometimes though
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Why would this woman feel the need to tell you she had a dream where she dumped you? Then another where she cheated on you?
Why would she tell you she used to fret about ur lagging, but not anymore?
This bitch is either (1) very insecure and she needs to play these kind of shit tests to keep you on your feet (in which case, they are working since look at you posting here); or (2) has lost feelings and is trying to tell you a message.
I don't see any other options, really.
Well I tell her to tell me everything so that might be why she told me about the dreams but about lagging, I guess you can say its insecurity because she's not being cold, she's still being affectionate, etc. so she wouldn't really be hinting me she has lost feelings but I'm really curious on what triggers her to see these dreams, act this way, and tell me these things..which gets me thinking, she is losing feelings for me but very slowly, who knows..
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