Ok. Shhort introduction:

- Me and a girl have been together for 3 months since we started in same class.
- She used to be a slut, she lost a baby with her bf last winter and after that she got more emotionless.
- I have been with her almost 24/7 these months.
- Caught her texting to other boys.
Text's like: "I like what I saw tonight", "i'm in the bublebath waiting for you;)" (both from other boys).
- Took it up with her while crying. She told me she won't do those stuff more. And told me she loved me and don't wanna lose me.
- So I let it go but everytime she got a message from a boy, I had to check her phone. Because I lost my trust to her.
- Over time I turned out to be a controllfreak because of this and dictaded to her what to do.
- She almost only have boys as friends. So she go to visit them etc.
- Two weeks ago she was going out to drink. She went to a party where her ex fuck friend lives. So I got so mad we had a big discussion. She broke her hand hitting the wall the day after.
- We had a break last week.
- Her bestfriend told me she don't really want me to be with her, just let her go.
- One of her other friends told me "She found a new flirt."
- She told me everyone is spreading false rumors about her, and can't understand why they do it.
- We got back together two days ago.
- She have been mad on me because I told her she got red in the face yesterday on school. Wanted us to be in a relationship on facebook (she mad because we are not stable yet). and that I asked to watch a message she got on her phone. (she mad because I can't trust her).
- Didn't want to hug me, kiss me or nothing.
- She have put on codelock on her iPhone.

I don't really know puas. I love this girl and I want this to work out. I am incredible stupid for going on now?

She sits behind me in class, and I find it a living hell when we are not together there.

phew took me a little time to read your story...
ok first of all i believe the very important thing in a relationship is trust so pay attention and watch that thing.

secondly try something that she can be seen in a relationship from outside.maybe like a ring,or necklace that when someone asks she can mention about you and kinda guess you guys are in relationships. trust me there are guys who hits girls without asking if she is in a relationship. keep that in mind.

and the final thing is when u break up for a reason and get back together, that reason for breaking up continues in most of the times. so keep this in mind too, unless you did something to stop that thing happening again or have a serious talk about it (but not forcing her,agreeing on it together), there's a chance to open for another breaking points in the future.

if it was me i would leave it to time a little and see the "me" inside her can melt the situation a little and make her miss me.if it does work then usually the situation get fixed somehow, if it doesnt i would move on without her...but i'm NOT saying do it that way. that's my view and if it fits for you, go head and steal it. remember every girl is different...
good luck

2 words: dump her

Once a cheater, always a cheater. That's been my experience and I've never seen it happen another way except by word of mouth.


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Homie you've gotta let her go. looks to me like your settling for seconds plainly said... DONT your better than that.

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Very very true.

I hate to say this but you need to just take this experience and learn from it. It will be hard for you tosign understand now but if you continue this relationship you are setting yourself for failure. Get rid of this girl and find someone worth your time. If your going to invest emotion in someone make sure they reciprocate as well. It sounds like your in highschool, you have a lot of time so I don't worry. Get out there and start hitting on beautiful girls. The last thing you want to do is get this cheater pregnant so she can take your money and fuck your best friends behind your back.

first of all how the ...you came up with idea of checking someoneelse phone you dont do such things mate.....show some trust if i was her i would say 1 more time again and we are done..no matter what she had there or just text with mom or with ex boyfriend etc i think cheating cames from fact you are insecure jelous little bitch but i might be wrong and she might be cheating whore just by nature

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Both TonyKing and XerxesOfChaos are as right as rain. I've had a lot of experience dealing with sociopaths, and that's exactly what this girl sounds like. If I'm right, and she is in fact a sociopath, then the physical part of her brain that allows her to be genuinely emotional and trustworthy DOES NOT FUNCTION.

You cannot fix her.

You cannot win her over.

She may put up facades, act out fake emotions, and tell you what she thinks will make you stick around, but it's all an act, trust me. Move on to someone else before she screws you over ROYALLY.

If she isn't a sociopath (I'm not a psychiatrist), then she just sounds like a cold person and a shitty girlfriend. Either way, she doesn't sound like someone I'd want to spend any time with at all, let alone maintain a relationship with.

Everyone who replied and said to let her go is 100% correct.

I just wanted to add that your behaviour, looking at her phone, whining and stomping your feet, crying and expressing your insecurity is the worst thing to do when in any sort of relationship. The girl will respect you less. In your situation she is most deffinitly cheating on you simply because she is a cheater and you are acting like a complete bitch. You need to stop thinking you love this girl (don't confuse being in love with being desperate and having no options) and get rid of her ASAP. like many others, you will not take this advice and you will be burnt, but you will learn.

Good luck!

The leave her answers are dead on man. I was in your spot. The socio had me confused to all hell. Leave her, pick up your balls and learn to be a man again. She will suck the life and confidence out of you, leaving you a shell of yourself with a slut as a gf. Dump her, eat the shit, avoid her at all costs and learn to be a man again.

Hmmm, so she used to be a slut, then she met you and magically transformed, but now she's turning into a slut again....

I'll be you the exact same thing happened with all of her past boyfriends before you, and most likely, all of her boyfriends after you will be saying the same thing as well.

Do you see the trend here? If she truly loved you and didn't want to lose you she wouldn't be flirting with other guys, or putting a lock on her phone, to keep you from finding out about her flirting with other guys. Think about it....does she stop flirting with other guys? No. What does she do? She takes steps to stop you from knowing about her flirting, including the damage control she is having to take about her friends, who are probably being truthful with you.

Most likely, she doesn't want to lose you until she is sure she has has another fun guy to take her out and buy her stuff.

Part of being a PUA is learning how to navigate the complex social interactions with enough skill that you have enough ability to attract and have a healthy relationship with a beautiful woman who will treat you with respect. Don't you deserve better? My recommendation is that you dump this gal and work on finding a much better choice for a girlfriend...let this gal give grief to some other chump.

Buy a gun , kill her and yourself.

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Man, as it looks like you are still in class = you are pretty Young, i'm not supposed to sound like i'm old but just dump her and here's the reason.

I am 17 and just broke up with My gf cuz she made out with other guys and were caught hitting on My friend. I was devstated for a week but then a thought hit me, Why did i join this community and is she so damn special? Simple answer, no, hell no! She is just like any other girl and i joined this community to be another person but i mostly joined to be better to pick up women. I don't say it's easy but instead of gettig failed again make it end now. I use a motto to keep going, let me live free, or let me die.

Good luck mate!

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Yes everyone is right.

Dump her.

If you really like her too much to do it, just say to yourself that you are dumping her in order to get some respect. She is way disrespectfull to you and if you show her you're not going to take it, she might crawl back and you can still pick up later under your conditions e.g. "no exes etc."

In a month you can decide what to do and hopefully you'll have another project going on, but for now just don't put up with her shit.