hey guys

i have this girl ive been chasing around school a lot, already have a post here about some advice i needed. recently it all went very well, kino, negs, she really wanted my attention when i didnt give it to her. BUT today i was asking her through facebook (just 10 mins ago) if she was going to a party on a friday and i kinda asked that before too and yesterday... but on facebook she says "Fuck it! Not until she invites me! You've asked me like 300 times now!" now its facebook so no tone, but i think she may have been a bit fed up (dont know why she said that asked her 3 times in separate days can't see the biggy, plus today in facebook we were laughing about something and i just said "gonna go to pati's (host) copas (drinks in spanish) to teach that boy what he deserves?" then she came up with that answer. i got a bit mad, answered:
"que no te tiene que invitar ('she doesnt have to invite you' in spanish
ive asked you 3 times in 3 days, i.e. not much
and i asked you if you were going to make sure i get what i deserve, u could've said that she would at another moment, but i see you dont care about that
so dont go what do you want me to do, im trying to make you have fun
take care"

what should i do? i really like her but not when she's like this, still i wanna have a relationship with her

she just answered:

"with so little punctuationn i bearly unuderstood what you said jajaj. ( notice the full stop). <- she said this haha
all im saying is that is she hasnt invited me over im not gonna go like: " hey, you didnt tell me to come, but ive just come anyways", jaja pero nose!! (haha but i dont know)
keda bastante para el viernes (still alot till friday), it doesnt mean that i dont wanna go though!"

i wanna answer fast i dont want her to think i got mad or something

she clearly isnt going to go unless the girl hosting the party invites her, and you have lost a little social value by appearing clingy by asking her over and over. you shoulda just brought it up once, told her you were goin and that you hoped to see her there or somethin. now if she does go, make sure she sees you with other people, and more importantly, other girls, so you can regain some value with her.

yep, i just didnt realize i had told her so many times.. really.. i dont know what happened.. you bet she's going to see me with other people im going to ignore her until the end of the night

Two things man. First, prettyboy is right on what he said. Even 3 times over 3 days may not seem much to you, but in fact it IS clingy. It shows you are really worried about her being there, or being there with you, or whatever. which is a DLV. Also, she made the remark about what you wrote being hard to read. I agree. What you wrote on here in the first post was indeed hard to read. You shouldn't be talking to a girl that way either. Show her that you are intelligent.

sweet man. i knew about the DLV thing... i dont know what came into me..

and about the 'hard to read', ill write correctly from now on.. thanks mates

im planning on going up to her tomorrow and saying "didnt realize i had said it that much.. you can't blame me from wanting to talk to you.. and what you do on your free time is none of my business"

what do you think?

its not horrible, I might do something along the lines like,
hey im sorry, i didnt realize i had asked you so many times, i just dont want get there and have no one to hang out with.
just be genuine and sincere, thats my advice, but see if anyone suggests anything better before you see her next.

good luck,

PB

Actually, I wouldn't even suggest you bringing it up. And, I wouldn't suggest you rushing to her to talk to her. You've already shown her that you are thinking about her a LOT. She knows this. Give her some space. Let her come to you. THEN you could apologize for being overbearing if you want. But, even then, DON'T keep going on about it. Apologize, then DROP it. Snip that thread and start another one. A MORE INTERESTING one. You have to give her a reason to see you as interesting, instead of seeing you as clingy.

true true. but be aware that you may lose her, dont let yourself get one-itis on this girl.

nice

thanks everyone