hey guys, i was wondering if any of you have suggestions on controlling the infatuation and almost needy feeling you get when you meet a girl that you hit it off with really well?

i've been keeping busy with other parts of my life, talking to other girls, hanging out with friends, affirming to myself that this girl does not control my life, and that it would be unhealthy for me to let my mind fabricate this pedestal illusion of this girl, however nice/hot/cool she may be. but if anyone has any pointers on how they've handled this situation, please share them!

Thanks,

tom

This may seem like bragging but what I do is fuck her before I start getting too involved with her and after that it is not going to turn out bad at all if I invest too. Boom there's a relationship.

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regulate and pace yourself. Limit you interaction with her until you can escalate the relationship post-sex, and then if you still like her, you can increase the time you communicate with her, either case is gonna take some self-discipline. It seems like your the fall in love fast, romantic type, in my experience these type of guys have the hardest times controlling themselves.

Try being honest WITH HER about what it is you want or don't want BEFORE you sleep with her, if you haven't already.

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yah we've already slept together a few times, thanks for the advice!

In any case, honesty is always the best policy, both in terms of managing expectations and nipping a bunch of unnecessary drama in the bud.

Your boy,
870

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Oh sorry I kind of misunderstood the situation. So you've already fucked her and then you don't want to get too involved. I see. Well I usually avoid this but I don't tell anyone to do so because it's just my thing and I'm not to tell anyone to give away this kind of pleasure. So just do what 870 said and be honest. You really can avoid lots of drama that way.

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One of the things I do for my inner game is I think about my needs and wants.

Lay them out in your own mind take some quiet time.

You will find that you need very little in life. You want more then you need it is just a truth for almost everyone.

Doing this small exercise makes me feel more in control of myself.

after some time I do not think with the word need at all.

I just think with what I want.

It helps me detach and deal with falling short and motivates me to go get it when I realize I do not need it.

I hope this made some sense. I can be kind of in my head sometimes.

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