I've recently had a situation with what is now my ex.

It happened last week, while we were going out. I had just met her at the beginning of the week and i had ask her out that friday. Her parents werent gonna be home so went over there. We both wanted to take it slow and basically that didnt happen. I think that messed it up because after the weekend was over, she had talked to me and said she wasnt ready for all of that. So we decided to end it. It's kind of awkward between us now but i still want to try again. Can anyone give me advice on how I can win her back?

much appreciated

heres how it works, for guys, our chase is trying to seduce a girl and the reward is getting her in bed. now it works in a similar way for girls, but now that shes had you, you have become less desirable to her. you need to build social value now. she needs to see you as a dominant male in w/e group. let her see you at parties bein the life of the party, let her see you be desired by other girls, make her laugh, negg her sometimes, build comfort basicly, it seems like you skipped this stage.

Welcome to the forum Prime05. As prettyboy said, it sounds like you skipped some things. Basically, you have to flip her attraction switches while at the same time getting her comfortable with you. You have to turn up her attraction, get her comfortable, and before SHE knows it, she'll be wanting you.

While i agree with the guys above as to how you could get her back, it sounds to me like one itis. I think you should get out and meet new people, who knows the love of your life might be at a coffee shop or a club or something right now waiting for you to open her and your spending time on a 3rd go around with your ex.

The definition of insane is : doing the same thing over and over agin and expecting a different result.

Im not saying your insane just pointing out the irony here. Even armed with new knoweldge do you really want to take something thats worn out and hold onto it or would you possibly be happier with something newer and better?

My advice is to freeze her out and pursue other women. Hope this helps.

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I think you jumped on the one-itis too quickly on this one Ka. He only made the one attempt with this girl, it wasn't a second attempt, so he's not doing the same thing over and over, he just made some mistakes and now is looking for a way to unmistake it. Nice hat BTW!

Prime, what I would do, is go for the friends approach. Sure, I'm gonna get people saying that its a bad idea, but if you run it right, it works amazingly after you've already had something together.

What you do, is hang out and not make any show that you are interested in getting back with her, be strong with your emotions and let her know that you are just interested in "spending some time together". Then, you freeze her out by showing that you aren't interested in her sexually, but you demonstrate your higher value by being the AMOG, but the nice kind, the kind everyone wants around, not the guy that is an AMOG cause he's an asshole. If you get any opportunities where you say something and she dissagrees, use the classic, "See? This is why you and me would never work. " Say it in a fun, joking voice.

What you are trying to do, is show her that you aren't going to try and rush into something again and if it happens, it happens, which is why it most likely will happen, as long as you are using solid PUA techniques of course. If she was part of the going too fast, then its not a hard sell, because she wanted you too, you just have to show her why she wanted you in the first place and then not go so fast.

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