Me: If I was really hungry coming back in from work on my birthday, how long would you take to get ready before taking me for a meal?

less then 30 mins and looking nice?

between 30 and 60 mins looking sexy?

or over an hour looking amazing bearing in mind just how hungry I can get!?

kardi


Hb9: 10 minutes and look amazing

Me: Ah so you'd give yourself ample time before I came home to get ready. Good answer!

Hb9: No lol I mean I would be ready in 10 mins lol!!!

Me: Wow you must be a one in a million kind of girl then!

Hb9: I am just know that (-:


Did not expect a message back and now not sure what to put next ... Ideas!

Thanks
Kardi

Change the subject and start building rapport. The opener has served its purpose and she is likely to get bored if you stay on it. Also, I would stay away from the "one in a million girl" compliment but that's just me.

Always struggle with the rappor bit tho. Knew I had to change subject but which way to go?
I was wondering if the compliment was a bad move. Thought the exclamation and smiley face would soften it tho.....

Thanks
Kardi

I would comment on something from her profile that someone else may not notice or the same thing about her pictures. Some sort of question. Try and make it fun and interesting. You want to to show that you are actually giving a damn about what she has to say. You may not, and thats ok, but you have to at least pretend like you do.

Thanks ninja ill keep you posted how it goes tho I might have already AFCed it lol!

Kardi

You may have AFC'd it with that last comment. Even with the smile you stayed on her looks a bit too long. If she is a 9 then she gets complimented on them all the time and probably bored easily. Personally I would suggest teasing her on something because when you get this high on the scale guys will probably kiss her ass about stuff all the time. Might be a good way to bring it back. Make sure you think about the context and inflection though because they are lost many times on the internet.

ya that one in a million line was pretty lame. but she's kinda sassy, which i like. so when she says "I am just know that (-:" cut it off and switch to some fun conversation. something like "lol we'll just see about that. so anyway..." and then start chatting her up.

Im finding these transitions difficult as well. I tend to keep my comments short, and i don't like to compliment them too much in these early messages, since it sort of shifts the power from you to them.

I think maybe a good segway would be to use one of the following:

1) observe something obscure in one of her photos where she's getting ready and make fun of her for it

2) make a witty, super confident comment like "You should know that about me as well. I'm that one in a million for the male community". Which she will probably scoff at and tease you for, and you can go from there

3) Or investigate and ask: "Sure, ok, you're pretty. But looks aren't enough these days. What else do you have to offer?"

This post. So much this post.

yeah, any of these are fine really. basically what you want to do is be funny, playful, and interesting. it's not really that hard. the convo doesnt have to be super amazing or anything. especially when you see what kind of retarded messages all the other toolbags on the site are sending her.

theres basically 2 things i feel you should always try to do. first of all, stay away from boring, run-of-the-mill interview style conversation. and second, set the frame that youre trying to find out if shes the type of girl youd be interested in. this should ALWAYS be the underlying tone of the conversation on dating sites before you take it offline.

it can range from pretty subtle (oh you like to cook? sweet! my last gf couldnt even make toast) to blatantly overt (what do you have going for you besides your looks?), but it should always be that you're trying to find out if shes right for you. almost like you have this predetermined checklist of qualities you like in your head and youre trying to find out if she has enough of them to make you intersted. contrast this type of attitude with all the other guys sending her long, boring this-is-why-you-should-like-me type messages. its really all you need to set yourself apart. that and being funny is more than enough to get you the number within a couple of messages.