Ok so here is a confidence builder that I use to help me boost my confidence level. It always works for me.

Tell yourself this:
"Listen [your name], you only live once. you cant go through life being a little puss. just take a deep breath [at this point inhale through your nose and exhale out through your mouth...repeat multiple times] and do it. if you dont your going to look back on this moment and regret it. your going to wonder 'what if this' and 'what if that'. just live in the moment, this moment right now and DO IT!"

Usually when i think the "DO IT!" part, that is the moment that i walk over and use and opener. I hope that you will give this a try. It always works for me, and if it dosent work for you then message me and i will try to help you.

Bedrock

Bedrock...

Excellent advice. Even though it is so extremly difficult to do my self, I applaud people who throw their fears to the back...and just attack...
I'm not there yet, but hopefully I will be shortly...

Thanks for sharing this. Good idea to have a standard "pep talk" in your back pocket to motivate you.

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This looks good. The only things I would do is change the negative SPAM into positive. So instead of saying "If you don't..." say "When you do, you will look back and be happy that you tried your best and you can learn from this experience." Also, instead of saying "you can't go through life being a puss," say "You want to be a confident alpha male who has no trouble meeting and attracting beautiful, interesting women."

Here's my altered version:

"Listen [your name], you only live once. You want to become a confident alpha male who has no trouble meeting and attracting beautiful, interesting women. Just take a deep breath [at this point inhale through your nose and into your gut below your belly button, NOT your chest, and exhale out through your mouth...repeat multiple times] and do it. When you do, you will look back and be happy that you tried your best and you can learn from this experience. Just live in the moment, this moment right now and DO IT!"

Zack

I'm thankful for the insight, but, what if we're so whipped that things like this seem untenable? I'm not even going to compare myself to some of the hurdles that other PUAs here have had to overcome. I've just been inculcated to believe that I am the bottom-feeder of any chain I enter.

I've gone through a whole string of emotion in the last few days, and most of them haven't been good.

For some people, the first stop on their PUA journey might be counseling. If you're depressed, going out Sarging is not going to help.

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Yeah, I've gotten a LOT of that! Loved ones are concerned about my state of mind, and are pressuring me to see some, get some meds, etc.

I'm pretty certain the problem stems from lack of game. It's the one thing I look back on my life with any real regret, and I've passed up a lot of things.

You just seem like you have your kit together a lot more than I do.

What I do is repeat the 10 statements why I like myself. It works for me.