hi guys,

me and this girl i've met a couple of weeks ago have been hanging out a lot since we first met, and i've got good feelings about our relationship. We talk, hang out, kiss, cuddle and fool around, the only problem is that the last couple of times we've hung out i've struggled to keep an erection.

Its not that i can't get hard, i just seem to struggle with it when the foreplay gets good and going like when i'm going down on her.

When i went soft, we stopped, talked briefly, and made out for a bit, and eventually i came hard and we started having sex. the problem now was that she came and we were at it for an hour, and i couldn't cum, and she said she had to stop because it was becoming painful.

we met up again later that week it happened again. she said she "can't do this". i tell her to be honest and she basically said my sex technique with her was crap.

i felt really embarrassed at this, because she obviously cares about me enough to put herself through some pain to try and satisfy me, but at the same time she must feel insecure about why i can't cum. and she didn't understand why i went from 'zero' to 'hero'. i don't understand either.

this sucks, i really like this girl and i really want to have some good sex with her. are we not sexually compatible? can anyone help me out?

Thanks,

Tom

is she a dead fuck?

what i mean is...

does she just basically lay there like a sleepy, retarded reject when you fuck her?

lol, i'm only halfway kidding...

i can't stand "dead fucks" ... aka: women who lay there and blink while you fuck them, stiff-armed, lips-pursed, eyes-blinking, no vocalizations, no indications of being "into" it.

*shudder*

i've only been with one "dead fuck" and i had the same problem...i COULD NEVER COME when we had sex.

she was real into receiving oral, but NOTHING else. and it was like once she came...she turned into a lump of mush.

basically she just didn't like sex...lol...with a man anyways.

i kept telling her she was a lesbian.

she will figure it out eventually.

i only come if a girl really seems to be enjoying the fucking.

if not, i'd rather pull out, jack off on her face for being a retard, and go drink some spiced rum.

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lol yeah .. dead fucks.. most girl i dated/fucked only knew 1 position .. lie down with their legs spread lol .. fucking boring and i had to do al the work..it feels like fucking a corpse lol ..

i cummed really quick at those girls because i just wanted it to get over with...

lol i fucked a hot 48 year old woman ... she knew every position in the book .. sucked my dick properly... lol ... if i fuck one of my exes right now i would probably fall asleep...and she came like 10 times ..

those young woman are fucking boring in bed .. i don't know how you can like sex with those...

sometimes you are fucking a woman .. and you are like .. this isn't fun it isn't worth the fucking - i rather do something else .. lol.. if that is the case then just stop and go do something else...in bed i want a whore and not some retarded brainwashed christian girl who blinks all the time..

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Go to the pharmacy (a low budget pharmacy, not CVS of Walgreens) and buy a 100mg Viagra. Take 1/2 about 30mins before you're going to have sex. You'll thank me later.
Damn, dude, you fucked her for another hour after she came? Next time, try to come as quickly as possible after she comes. If you don't come in the next 5-10 mins, its not gonna happen and you're better off stoping and telling her it's not gonna happen.

Are you drinking before having sex with this woman? Do you jerk off a lot? If your answer is yes to any of those questions, then stop doing it.
Can you be more specific? I mean, the previous time you fucked she came, so how bad can your technique be? If anything, her technique is bad since she can't make you come.
This actually isn't a bad thing. Current girl I'm seeing... I fucked her 4 times and I didn't come. The 5th time we fucked she couldn't take it anymore and told me she needed me to come. So I told her she was a whore while I fucked her, told her to say it to me ("I'm your whore"), then told her I was gonna come all over her ("Is that what you want?"... "Yes, baby, come all over me, please. I want you to come all over me"). I grabbed her by the hair, called her a whore one more time and that's when I released my good stuff all over her. "You have no idea how much it turns me on when you come" she told me later.
Make that 3. I don't understand either what she's saying. What does "from 0 to hero" mean? That first you couldn't get your dick hard and now you're fucking her for hours without coming?

i'd rather not resort to drugs to treat the problem, i'm only in my mid 20s so i should definately be able to keep it up!

and she's not a "dead fuck" guys! part of the problem may be that she has had a lot more sex than me and so i'm less experienced than her.

i have quit masturbating and looking at porn for the next few weeks to see if that makes a difference.

regarding making her cum, most of reaching orgasm is in the mind. this girl is horny man, and she definately enjoys it when i go down on her, it's just when were fucking that we don't seem to be compatible. she is pretty wet and feels loose when i am fucking her, so maybe jerking off has changed the stimulation that my dick needs.

oh and 'zero to hero'? that was my expression lol. just means that i went from totally flaccid to really hard and unable to cum.

i really like this girl. in every other aspect of being together it is amazing. should i take it slow with her in the bedroom? or is compatibility in bed something that just happens?

thanks.

For now, forget about coming. You need to develop sexual chemistry with this chick. Once you have that, orgasms will come in bunches.

You do need to make her come, though. Ask her what she likes while you're fucking her. Not too much, though. A couple of times. Ask her what's her go to position for coming. I think if both of you are drunk it will be better and you'll both feel more comfortable with the dirty talk.

Let her go on top of you. She'll probably be able to come that way.
Some women are like this, while others are pretty tight. Try to slip one finger up her ass to see how she reacts. If she lets you, chances are she likes it up the ass as well. Most women who are lose in their vagina like it up the ass.
Only if you want another guy to start fucking her and making her come. You need to fuck her. Fuck her hard and fuck her good. Tell her she's a whore. See if she likes that. Lose your inhibitions. Go crazy. Most women like this kind of stuff, specially women who are very sexually active, like you say this chick is.

you're right about this. part of the problem is me caring too much i suspect. there's a party at mine tonight and gonna do a bit of sarging to feel good about my game and my ego in general.

i have a feeling this will all be ok, as time seems to put everything in perspective and balance, but thanks for the advice Richard Pryor! (though i thought you were dead? good comic though...)