Girl I was seeing for 6 months well we knew eachother for 9 and got on really well and worked together. We didn't really see eachother at outside of work much but I fell in love and I think she had feelings too.

I had problems at work when people started asking her what was goin on between us and she decided to tell them that she had a boyfriend which obviously made me look like a creep but as far as I know it wasn't true. We continued to talk and I got fired at my job due to a mistake but for 6 weeks me and her got on well.

Then at another part time job we were at we had a misunderstanding and then later on she was walking away from me, I asked her what was wrong and she told me she was meeting her ex. I think that was a lie, she just didn't want any colleagues seeing us embrace.

I said "lets say bye" and she put her hands out behind herself but I couldn't hug her cos it was a tight spot. Then she walked off ahead and stood in the middle pretending to call so I just walked in a different direction looking towards her but I should of approached it's just the way she ran ahead plus everyone at work would of been saying how I was a puppy dog/stalker.

This screwed things up but I didn't know what else to do as she was acting weird. I called her late the other day and she wasn't very friendly and said she had to go because she was stressed and lost her credit card. Yesterday I called her again quite late and the phone was ringing and she kept rejecting my call after certain amount of rings.

Today I called her after midnight and she picked up, said "hello" I said "long time no speak" and she was like yea "one sec" and put the phone down(something she would do randomly even in a good mood) I called back and then it rang a few times and went to voicemail(rejected it again) I don't know what to do. I love her and care and my heart hurts thinking that she doesn't believe how I feel about her.

How old are you? Were you in a sexual relationship with this girl?

Don't judge to much but I'm 27 and this was more of a fling(made out a few times and spoke all the time) and we didn't not have sex but pretty much fell for eachother. In the last 2 months she has cried for me about 3 times. Once when she told me she couldn't be with me because of old feelings for her her ex and other times when she bumped into me.

We could of seen eachother if she had actually decided to make some time for me but she didn't and now that we don't work at the same place she feels awkward and I could tell she was looking for a reason to end things. I know I made a mistake by not approaching her when she walked off but shit happens but she thinks it's the perfect time to be cold to me and cut me off I guess. I dunno, what do you lot think? we got on really well and she is ridiculously hot.

If she was attracted to you, you needed to sleep with her.


She is no longer attracted to you. Best thing is to move on to other girls.

wow, dude.

what sort of relationship do you foresee yourself ever having with this girl after embarrassing yourself in such a way.

she has blown you off how many times now? hung up on you? ignored you? etc...

yet, you called back ... over and over.

if there was ever a chance that she would have corrected her behavior and came back to you, you've made that very unlikely.

if you contact her again, you will obliterate any chance of ever having any interaction with this girl.

that being said, why would you want to see a girl that acts that way toward you? are you desperate?

desperation is not attractive.

_________________
what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

She started being weird because she is pissed at me, that's kind of how I see it. I've known her for 9 months and she is being a dick now but I believe I upset her. She shouldn't be treating me like this though as she has done alot worse to me but because I care about her and would like to be keep her in my life somehow that's why I contact her still. It's crazy because deep down she is a good person.

Sorry to be so honest, but you're a stalker.

Call after call after call after call when you know she's rejecting your calls? Can't you read between the lines? She doesn't want to speak to you. Get over it.

You did not sleep with her? After 6 months of your "relationship"? This means she was never interested in you sexually.

Your only chance at "getting this chick back" (using "" since she was never your to begin with) is to completely ignore her and never call her again. Don't think about her. She's dead for all you care.

After about a month, when she gives you a call and tells you she wants to see you, tell her you have other plans. If you go running to her like a puppy things will go back to where they were (ie, no sex and you being a stalker).

Read your post again. Keep reading it until you realize your behavior was stalkerish. Then meditate and say to yourself "I will never behave like that again". I've seen guys get restraining orders for shit like this.

Do you want advice or do you want us to tell you to keep calling her over and over until she picks up the phone?

Listen to Mack. Listen to me. Listen to everybody else who will reply to this thread.

Your situation is very easy to give advice. Everybody will tell you the same thing.

You = stalker/AFC/beta/psycho
You = not call her/ignore her/EVER AGAIN... not even if her mother and father die in a car crash... not even if you left your wallet with all your CC's at her place.

You never saw her outside of work?

You fell in love without sleeping with her? You think she had feelings?
Next time you say "fuck you bitch" instead of "lets say bye" and give her a hug when a girl tells you she's going to meet her ex. Pathetic.
Don't worry, they were saying it.
Seriously? After midnight?
You don't love her, dude, you're obsessed. You can't love someone if you don't sleep with them. You didn't even reach third base.

You're on some alpha male clownjuice fix.

Why can't you love someone without sex? I thought her personality was unusual and she was very different to most girls.

Sometimes you feel things for people and shit happens.

this might possibly be the most AFC post i've ever read.

i wasn't sure whether to laugh or cry.

not kidding.

you are justifying her castrating you with her behaviors.

"she disses me." > i must have done something wrong.

lolol, what?

_________________
what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

No one doubts that you "LOVE" her.

Unfortunately the reality is that she doesn't give a rat's tossbag about you.

She knows you love her. She knows you love someone that doesn't love you. She loves this situation as it feeds her ego and she can now feel confident approaching guys that she views as otherwise out of her league. Congrats...keep feeding her ego or be a man, move on, improve your life and get other women.

pryor,

classic posts!

holy shit, i laughed so hard.

_________________
what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

To be honest, it doesn't sound like you actually had a relationship. Sounds like you made one up in your head(judging on what you wrote). Sorry.

I really dont know how guys are on this furom, and still dont see the most simple errors and signs. You have over 100 posts, so I assume you have done some research. Maybe evaluate the situation for yourself. I actually encourage you to act on your feelings! Call her, text her, bring her flowers, watch her through her window, write a song for her, go to the same bars, follow her, buy her gifts in exchange for her love, beat up her ex, profess your love to her mother. This will either get you a restraining order or a really broken heart. Either way you will learn a lesson and maybe take into account some of the things this whole community teaches.

NERD RAGE
You can. Your mother, male friends, your dog, ect... You are mistaking love for desperation and approval of this women.

Buddy,

I know you have feelings for this girl, and I know that you feel like being with her you'll complete yourself. I know that you can't fucking prioritize your life, because your mind keeps wandering off to her.

I know why? Because deep down, I'm a sensitive emotional troubled kid as well. But look, what everyone saying is right. You can't force it, the more you force it the more unattracted she is to you.

Girls like security and protection, by doing that, you're BLOWING YOUR CHANCES BIGTIME! If I were you, I'd keep her in my contact list, but train myself to not text/call her anymore, and go out sarging for new girls.

It'll be fine,