What do you mean when you say "moving into what comes next. the next event, the next whatever, action."

Do you have any suggestion as to how to "control the frame"? Will being aloof take care of that? Should I say "no" more often?

I'm guessing "not caring" about her will take care of this on its own.

Just saw a line today on Esquire that would've worked better than the "Don't fall in love with me" line.

Our dogs just don't get along.

Which is actually true.

it's not so much about not caring,

as it is about not investing in maintaining an puritanical image of her.

when i say "move on to the next event",

i mean: the next fun outing, the next relevant meetup, the next cookout that you that you grant her the privilege of tagging along to, etc...

basically, when a woman is causing you mental masturbation, in my opinion, you need to remove all expectations from that relationship and just enjoy the hear-and-now with her.

which is another reason, why as a man, i will never again make the move toward exclusivity first. or agree to it at all. avoid the subject if possible.

women want control.

with:

- a title: "girlfriend" , "wife" , "fiancee"

and

- expectations: "exclusivity" , "monogamy" , "commitment"

she will be planning the marriage in no time, and shortly thereafter the kids, the slacking on housework, the spending you into oblivion, the withholding sex, the nagging, the fucking dudes on the side, the divorce, and alimony...

trust me, that shit is a foregone conclusion in today's day-and-age.

but where does that all go when you have no title and no expectations?

i'll tell you where!

it's goes THE FUCK AWAY!

bwahahahaha

homey don't play dat

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