I'm a girl. I've had sex with a guy with whom I never hang out. I just bump in to him frequently and I have him on Facebook. We both recently became single and on FB-chat I shifted the topic towards sex while being single. We discussed it for some time, agreed on liking casual sex with no obligations such as texting, personal attention and on which type of sex we both like. We decided to meet the next week and during the week, he texted me a lot about neutral stuff which I don't care about. We had nice sex (and he talked a lot about his feelings which I don't care about, but I pretended I did) and agreed on having some sex again.
Here comes the confusing part. He texted me some more and after about two messages he kept saying he had to go to work and stuff. I tried talking about sex and talking about meeting again, but he didn't reply. I figured he might have bragged a little bit and didn't really like casual sex, or was playing some weird hard to get-game afterwards, I was totally confused. Suddenly he wanted to see mee again and we had nice sex. But I'm not getting the 'I like to get laid'-vibe from him. Does he mainly want to talk about his feelings? Should I give him more personal attention? I just want to get laid.

"he idn't really like casual sex, or was playing some weird hard to get-game afterwards"

LOl he is a guy. We don't do these things unless we have to game, and he obviously doesn't have to game you as you made yourself readily available to his penis.

Guys are very simple, Im sure hes just not that attracted to you, don't overthink it. He will contact you when he wants to get laid just as he has been doing. You can also text him promising him bj's on demand and anal, that should help if hes horny. Otherwise just don't annoy him and he may decide to hit you up again soon. I have a couple of sub-par booty calls I keep on lock as needed, but only because they don't annoy me or cling.

Thanks for your vision. But then why does he text/talk to me about all the neutral stuff? Can I ignore it?

ya you can ignore that, guys don't do fluff talk unless they think its necessary to provide you comfort, or they are gay.

If a guy is interested in you for more then sex, he is going to take you out, spend money on you, plan things with you, an introduce you to his friends. Even then he may only want sex, but if hes not doing any of those things then you can assume he only wants sex.

I had a fuck buddy one time and I did that type of stuff just because I felt kind of bad for fucking her and only wanting to fuck her. I really had no interest in talking to her about anything either but I kind of assumed that she had more feelings for me and I was just using her.

I say if its not broken don't fix it but make sure neither of you guys thinks this is something it isn't. Obviously, you just want sex. Which most guys would like. But who knows. I guess I don't see the problem? Is he annoying?

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He may also be just grabbing "trust points", to make sure you trust him. Then he's know you're at least a f*ck buddy, and you'll be exclusive to him.

Ha! I didn't see your post before I wrote mine, but that's exactly what I meant.

Guys want two things from women: sex and female affection.

According to 60 years of challenge and personal experience, he wants affection from any female that will get close to him, thats why he talks about his feelings, because it's what he would do with a girlfriend to receive this affection. However, you guys are just fuck buddies so you probably won't give affection to him. I'd say get to know him a little bit and let him know you a little bit if you wanna keep him... I mean, it seems like you care enough about him to post about him here. Guys aren't all about sex, we also feel the need to bond with chicks.

"we also feel the need to bond with chicks."

True but this is a fallacy of composition, many times guys don't want to bond, especially if they just want a fuck buddy. An attempted bonding can make things awkward.

then why would he talk about his feelings? seems to me like he doesn't just want sex

actually she never said that if you re-read the post. I doubt hes talking about hes feelings much.

Nadine, if he doesn't work out I'm down to fuck you too

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Thanks for the great advice! He did indeed talk about his feelings. I'm not sure if it was for true affection or trust points or something else, eitherway it didn't work out. I find it hard to reply while we have no common grounds at all, so affection was not present. He is a lot of work for very little sex, summarized. I've decided to leave it at this.

Nadine don't discount coolbrownie69 offer, You may be shortchanging yourself!

I'm having trouble translating this one. Do you mean I should consider? I think it's a very friendly offer and I don't fuck random people.