First a little background. I've been sleeping with this chick for 1.5 months. She told me a few weeks after we first had sex that she didn't know if she wanted to be exclusive. I'm like, no problem. Nevertheless, her actions tell another story. She always txts first, I'm the only one she's going out with, sex is awesome, the other day she took me to her home to meet her family, etc.

This morning she asks if I'm going to go over to her parents house for Thanksgiving. I didn't say yes or no.

Just now she sends this txt:

"Mom said you can come any time after 1pm on Thursday. But don't think this makes you my boyfriend. I know, I have issues "

Is that a cute txt message or a dagger? How do you respond?

Think of it like a false disqualifier... Get over to her parents house and have a good time! Happy Thanksgiving

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double post

I read what a false disqualifier is.

Should I reply back with a false disqualifier of my own?

FREE TURKEY

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Ahead of my time, like I live my whole life backwards.

I replied an hour later:

"Yeah, it would never work out between us. Blah blah"

A minute later:

"What! What do you mean? Wait a minute, are you using some kind of reverse psychology on me?"

Gotta love PUA.

LOL nice style points on that one bro

yea dude have fun

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Ahead of my time, like I live my whole life backwards.

Took it even further.

An hour later:

"I have issues as well. Just don't fall in love with me and you'll be fine."

She replied "ditto".

Ouch!

propose to her before her parents .. just as a joke .. lol that's what i would do

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careful with this, go too far, and she will catch on, reverse that shit on you, and totally mind-fuck you.

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Yeah, I realize that her 'ditto' was much more stronger than my 'just don't fall in love with me' even if I said it first.

Any advice on how to proceed?

be fun, fun, fun...going forward...so she doesn't switch gears into game-playing mode.

don't be the one to invest.

enjoy the moment.

be the funnest guy for her every time you see her.

and forget about mental gymnastics.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

Thanks for the advice.

She's definitely got the upper hand when it comes to mind games. Girl has skills. She's a man with a vagina. Always has had the upper hand in the relationship.

But I honestly felt as though I had to respond to her 'not my boyfriend' txt, even though her actions (inviting me to her parents house for Thanksgiving) suggests investment on her part.

I'll just keep fucking her the way I'm fucking her (licking that pussy & asshole like there's no tomorrow, making her suck my dick for 10 minutes every time we fuck, fingering that ass while she blows me, making her come every time we fuck)

Last time we had sex, while she was blowing me, she said "I swear your dick is bigger". When I first penetrated her she was in pain and had to stop. She took a 30 sec break and went at it again.

About 20 mins after she left she sent a txt: "I'm convinced, it got bigger. I'm hurting."

This is the same woman that told me "When I see you, you make me nervous and I feel like I'm not in control. And I can't be not in control".

This is the same woman that invited me to meet her family last week, and asked me to apologize to her parents for bringing her home at 5:30am one night.

This is the same woman that always sends me txt's during the day, 3 for every one I send, with cute messages like "Max (her dog) told me I could get rid of you. He said "I'm a much better snuggler anyway" and "Trying to get a nap, but I keep thinking how much nicer it would be if you were here... not that I would get much sleep anyway".

On the other hand, this is the same woman that NEVER sleeps over.

The same woman that never shows displays of affection (she does like to cuddle after sex, but that's about it).

The same woman who is cold most of the times.

The same woman who has only male friends and no female friends.

you need to control the frame

the entire situation, as you describe it, is revolving around all of her emotional thoughts.

it doesn't end well, trust me.

work more on being aloof, and basically ignoring her mental masturbation and moving into what comes next. the next event, the next whatever, action.

follow?

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