So here we go, for the first time since I ditched my AFC ways and got into the Game I guess I am starting to develop deeper feelings for a girl. I'm seeing a gorgeous American/Scandinavian HB9 and have been exclusive with her since the beginning of October.

I always intended to keep her in the loop, but still game other women, but the more I found we clicked and the more I became interested in her I suppose I just... Stopped seeing other girls. I haven't even approached anyone since I approached her! I mean, that's over a month of no approaches. Unheard of since I got into this... I go out, I see other gorgeous girls, but I just don't even bother. Is this what happens when you get feelings for someone?

I know it's the antithesis of "the player" but I find I really just want a relationship with this one girl and it's made me change perspective and really wonder whether I got into this to become a PUA or to just find that special someone. But I digress.

The problem is that come the 17th of December, she is leaving the UK to return to the United States. I've been a fantastic boyfriend so far, and I'd like to thank guys like Don, Fuze and Bansario for their awesome advice and the facets they've added to my game. She is REALLY into me, probably more than I am her and she often gets tearful at the thought of returning to her university in America. I'm not clingy, needy or jealous and I've been thoroughly in control and alpha throughout. Taking care of the little things like indecisiveness in where to go on a date can really change your results guys.

Maybe I am just rambling to get this off my chest and to find someone that sympathises with me... But I suppose if I had a question, it would be this: Is there any hope for this? Should I make her time in England unforgettably happy, then stay in touch and if its meant to be, it's meant to be? Or should I just forget about her and move on now for the sake of my own emotional well-being? I debate this internally on a regular basis.

This is a one-itis, but I'm not pining after a close friend that I've AFC'd after my whole life for a change. This sucks. I feel like I've dropped my guard and broken the cardinal rule. AS soon as she said she was leaving I should have nexted her really. The fact that there is a time limit just intensifies our interactions together and only serves to deepen our feelings.

Or perhaps it's an illusion. If every moment didn't feel precious, like it was something to cling on to then perhaps I would feel more indifferently towards this girl. She isn't anything like girls I've been with before, that's probably another factor.

I guess this is just one of the hazards of learning game and getting better with women. But I'm still so thankful for everything I've learned and this whole community. It's enabled me to experience things like this, where my problems are how to maintain a relationship with a beautiful woman instead of how to even speak to an average woman.

Your goal should be to make her fall head over heels for you while she's still in the UK, while you should be able to forget about her on Dec. 16. You need to keep being Alpha. Your goal is for her to remember you as the best lover she ever had in her life. Fuck her like an animal. Be Alpha.

But be aware that this is not going anywhere. As soon as she leaves, it's over. UK --- USA --- very far away. Not gonna happen. Forget about it.

But don't tell her that. Make her believe there's hope for you guys once she goes away. Nevertheless, remember that she'll forget about you about 3 weeks after she's gone, or as soon as she finds an American to replace you. But your goal is for her to always remember that English dude who fucked her like a champ and made her feel like a real woman.

Doomed.

relationship = doomed..

you are blessed..

your learning process = blessed

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Yeah I suppose I kinda realise it's doomed. But still, she's trying to make arrangements for me to go and stay with her early next year, which I'd be down for just to visit America without paying for accommodation if nothing else (she lives an hour from NYC.)

She must be super into me :/

Try to make the trip happen. That will probably be the last time you and her hook up. Try to make it happen a month/month and a half after she leaves. No more than that.

Well there's been a slight update. I am still going to be making that trip out there, and she is apparently getting an internship with a bank in London and coming back to the UK. Obviously in the interim period she or I could meet someone else, but today she told me she is falling in love with me and has never felt this way before about anyone else.

I am obviously quite happy, but still being realistic. It might never happen, and she seems extraordinarily into me which is ringing a few alarm bells. It seems ludicrous and illogical to set anything in stone when we can't predict the future. I just told her that I would love to make it work some day but we have to be realistic about the situation and we can't make all sorts of crazy plans and start going on about how in love we are based on the current situation and how we feel at this moment in time. I said I would by all means visit her next year and we'll see how we feel from there.

You gotta be willing to roll with what happens, while doing your best to get the outcome you want. The future is NEVER set in stone, and WORRYING is a waste of time, just like mooning over the past, they don't get you anywhere.

Keep your focus on what's happening NOW, and keep your behavior set at getting towards what you WANT to happen.

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