Hey all, im planning on texting this girl at the moment who goes to my school and has recently been displaying Interest after flaking twice. She would be defined as a hopeful romantic by Pandora's Box standards and im not too sure how to begin my text. The first thing i was planning on texting her is , "Got me thinking about you "which i though might be appropriate, but im kinda skeptical because i think it might come on too stong.

Any suggestions about approach would be Appreciate, cheers.

ps. i know that in the past some of her boxfriends have been quite clingy and subsiquently she left them because of this

in order for you to go far with this girl, you have to act completely different from the other guys who she has rejected in the past. sending that text to her would she that you are needy and shows too much interest which would be a turn off.

it would be helpful if you could tell me anything that you know about her. what she likes, anything about the content in the interactions you had etc. the best kind of messages to send to a girl are one which are personalized to them, creates more impact than a generic one that can apply to anyone.

"How's my favorite lil brat doing? what trouble are you causing today? :p"
"I'm going to rob a bank, i need a driver, 30% share. Can you drive?" .... "you know what, I'll drive, you hold the gun"
"miss me yet? "
"Would you please stop smiling each time you read my sms"
"Just sent you this to get your phone out of your pocket for a while, it stinks down there :p" (it's too dark in there if she's puting it in her purse)

I don't remember the source.

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Golden Rules i learned:
1- If you complement do it a serious way.
2- If a conversation starts with a low vibe and seems not getting anywhere, be direct but not on an emotional level.

mickey is right. You can't really initiate contact in that manner. "got me thinking about you" implies that she's the one being pursued. That's no good.

Honestly, just wait until you're already doing something and invite her along when appropriate.

For example, my little cousin had a birthday not too long ago, but what does one buy a 10-year-old girl without being the creepy older cousin? That's where my friend came in. I texted her and said, "I'm headed to walmart to buy a gift for my little cousin. She's 10 and I don't know what to get her. Would you like to join and help me out?"

Just make plans with her and once she says yes, you can go from there. Texting is a BAD way to spark attraction if you ask me.

Above all else, remember this: "You're a confident, assertive man. You have a plan and a life of your own. It's awesome with or without her, and you are the coolest fucker on the planet."

You'll be fine. Just be objective and don't get too emotionally involved right off the bat.

Hey dudes

Thanks a lot for getting back so quick. Ok so ill give you a little more information about her, i met this girl through a girl i was dating like 5 years ago so ive known her on a basic level for some time, we have gone to the same parties together and we are now in the same art school as one another. She is from what i gather quite family oriented and is a very nurturing type but ontop of this she also rides mountain bikes and suprises me sometimes with her choice of activities. one last thing i might point out and im not sure how much this appies to anything but, shes also bi-sexual and im not sure how much she swings either way but besides that she seems keen.

I have found that the most successful 'first text' was one without questions.

Example: "Hey, hope you are ok. Going for shisha later on, let me know if you want to come".

1) She does not feel obliged to reply as there are no questions = NO PRESSURE on her = very good

2) You show that this way that you are not actually sitting there waiting for a reply. You said "let me know if u want to come" which means that if she does she will get in touch.


I have had good results with this so I recommend.

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Also, im going to a few events that this girl is going to pretty soon so do you rekon i should just wait till then instead of formalizing some kind of meet up ( make it easier on her seeing as shes a bit shy)?

i heavily appreciate all this dudes, this girl has me tripping lulz

and in the past i have kissed her when we were out in the club but i kinda bailed 5.0 because i wasnt so sure it was what i wanted. basically i fucked around a lot but i want this shit fo sho.

Athenian made a good point but it's not how it works:

1) No question means that you're taking the lead, it displays a "take it or leave it" attitude, confidence and indifference about her answer, you're heading to that place anyway with or without her by adding "you can join me" her answer is not going to change anything you've planned. It's not about pressure, actually, slight pressure is good unless you come across as needy, pressure creates sexual tension.

2) "let me know if u want to come", this may increase her chances to replay but i personally don't use "if you want", assume that she wants to!! and i may even use "you know you want to " or "you'll have fun more then doing anything else", but i may recommend using them in phone calls, delivery is important. you can still use them in text, but make sure she has an impression/idea about your playfulness.
Things you should not do are in bold, don't be such a Nice Guy. Lead! Lead! everyone has confidence, EVERYONE. but some intend to focus on enjoying the moment other tend to be in their head all the time trying to get that girl. You're the prize. make it so! Watch DeAngelo's materials, if you can't buy them, .... or youtube them.

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Golden Rules i learned:
1- If you complement do it a serious way.
2- If a conversation starts with a low vibe and seems not getting anywhere, be direct but not on an emotional level.

Nice responce seduceme i definately agree with you, my new problem now is i think she has a dude im gathering from her facebook which f*****g sucks

I totally agree with AznPersuasion on this one.
You want that girl so bad that you fall in One-Itis, if you're trying to get this specific girl, marry her have kids and enjoy your life, it's not gonna work, i'm not trying to demoralize you but i've been through all that.

To get better at PU you need to let go the outcome at first. go for the skill.
I remember 2 years ago when i was a Nice Guy, i was afraid of throwing Negs and teasing the girl i like. I was denying my sexuality, i used to say "i hate it when guys want girls for sex, they are humans with emotion, i personally want a girl to date and be romantic with" Ouch.

Don't give a women more value then she has, Every single line you're saying, picture in your mind James Bond saying or doing it. Would James Bond go into his target's profile and get upset by a guy hovering around her? No. Act as if you have plenty of choices, act as if you're the most sexy guy on earth, be confident, mean what you say and say what you mean, you don't have to do things for women in order to have sex, we both want it, we both have to work for it. but i sometimes make the girl the one working for it "I'm not gonna let you in my apartment just because you're beautiful, can you cook?".

Mindset is what makes you good with women, i remmeber reading this line which was a huge "Ahaaa!" for me : "Act as if the women is attracted to you and you just want to see where this is going" this mindset explain it ALL.

Flip things around, make her the one that is pursing you, you validate her, you're the prize, and last but not least, CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS, don't let a certain emotion influence your actions, like jealousy may make you mad at her.

in this journal i wrote what i had to change in order to get better with women.
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Hope this helps.

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Golden Rules i learned:
1- If you complement do it a serious way.
2- If a conversation starts with a low vibe and seems not getting anywhere, be direct but not on an emotional level.