Her: Hey it's ....... x
Me: Hey what's up x
Her: Nm just gossiping to mates x u
Me: I just got home was sleeping in my mates car got about 2hrs sleep, not a good idea if u played a game of rugby the same day, got crap In my leg at least 3 times.

I think I have played the sympathy to much and it's backfired cos she hasn't responded in 2hrs initially her responses were 5 mins.
Shall I wait for a response or make another text? She's at least 8 out of 10 and it's my first pick up so I don't want to blow it.

I don`t quite get it.. She texted you first? Said that she is gossiping about you..? And then you wrote her smth about rugby etc..?
My god.. Tell me you`re joking..

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She texted me first because she said that she didn't have her phone on her last night, so I gave my number to her. I don't think in the text she is gossiping about me . Just asking what I'm doing, do u reckon I should respond or wait for reply

Oooh sorry, I misunderstood it at first
Well, you should ask smth or made some interesting statement in that answer instead of just telling her what she asked you..
hmmm.. Text her back, but wait for a few hours or smth, and make it fun or cocky or smth.. And important that it doesn`t come of as needy or reaction seeking.. Maybe you could bust her for not writing you back, but do it playfully and that she sees that you are joking

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Cheers mate helped a lot

OR don't do anything! She probably has a reason she hasn't texted you. Give her the benefit of the doubt. She will probably text you back - her texting you first is a really good sign, if you text her too much, you'll give her the control - when she doesn't want it.

Also, she might think it a natural end to the conversation - so you could just text her again in a day or so seeing if she wants to meet up or hang out or something. If it were me, though, I wouldn't text her.

OR don't do anything! She probably has a reason she hasn't texted you. Give her the benefit of the doubt. She will probably text you back - her texting you first is a really good sign, if you text her too much, you'll give her the control - when she doesn't want it.

Also, she might think it a natural end to the conversation - so you could just text her again in a day or so seeing if she wants to meet up or hang out or something. If it were me, though, I wouldn't text her.

We all fail at this one, but its my ongoing experience that woman have alot of time to plan the shit tests they send via txt.

If you respond too quickly = backfire (too keen)
too slow = not interested in her enough
Keeping her interested = quirky teasing, stimulating ideas

Don't forget she is thinking about you so don't get anxious.

You need to balance the push and pull playfully.

Its easier said than done I know. Good luck. let us know how you get on.

One of my rules for texting is DO NOT small talk via text.

Personally, I choose to do so only because I'm rather blunt and up front with people, and sometimes my jokes that are absolutely littered with sarcasm come across as simply crass.

I make plans with girls via text so that I can meet up with them and communicate using my whole body: facial expressions, stance, tonality, etc.

Texting is always sketchy and you have to keep it light-hearted. Most guys will tell you 3-5 minutes between texts, but here's what I have to say about it...

Think for a second how it feels when you're texting a girl and she hasn't texted you back yet. There's small bits of anticipation and anxiety. You want to fuel her attraction to you with just that. If you text her back too quickly, you're letting her know that you aren't really doing anything and dropped everything just to reply to her as soon as you received her message. Solution? Keep yourself busy and intentionally "forget" about your phone.

I often leave my phone at home or in the car so that I can avoid constantly looking down at a tiny little LCD screen when the world is around me, waiting to impress and my friends are glaring at my inconsiderate behavior (ignoring them in lieu of the phone).

If it wasn't such a long text conversation, I'd throw an example on here right now from today. If you'd like to see it, PM me. But here's the lowdown:
1) I didn't text her first, as we'd just hung out the night before.
2) I was slow to reply not for the sake of doing so, but because I was still half asleep and was preparing for my day.
3) She would say things to shit test me and I ignored the shit test and focused on what it is that I wanted to do.
4) By the time I was on my way to meet up with her, she was already being super paranoid about being stood up. HER "See you in tennish?" ME "Sure, sounds good." HER (7 minutes later) "Or not...?" HER (9 minutes later) "hiiiii" at which point I just called her and explained I had to dig my car out before I could leave.
5) The rest is history. We had lunch and chatted until we had to leave (I had other friends to meet and she had to pick up her son).

All I'm saying is that you need to demonstrate your solidarity as a man. Nothing she says/does can touch you. It doesn't matter. You are the same guy with or without her. Keep that in mind when texting and you should be fine. Sorry about the convoluted nature of this post! Feel free to ask for elaboration or to tell me that I'm answering the wrong questions! lol

Update: I've managed to recover from that slip up and have been texting with her for 3 days now she's coming to a party with me on dec 3rd as date pretty much but I have no way of seeing until then cos she lives 30 mins drive away and I haven't passed my driving test yet. My question is how do u keep a girl engaged and interested for 10 days through texts alone and she's now asking how did I think she looked at the party where we met how do I respond to that.

Dude, get creative, buses, mates, halfway meeting points for a quick coffee etc. Keep it low key.

At you next date lets hope you seal the deal and she starts chasing you. There better not be any AMOG's at the party, could prove hazardous.

You better watch the 21 conventions video on blocking other approaches.

Good luck

Here's that amog combat stuff.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uLhEAFk7CA8