I want to turn this playette* into a GF.

*Playette: non slutty, but flirts with guys or leads them on

This thread can be divided into two responses:



1. If you don't have time for a lengthy read, post about how you made Sarah Jessica Parker your GF



2. Coach my particular situation. (Hope it's as much fun to read as it was to write.)

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Cards I've been dealt
She had a steady bf for a few years
Broke up about a year ago because of differences
Has been enjoying the single life for about 8 months
Has a boy toy here and there
Really fun personality, good sense of humour
Smokes, excellent drinker, financially independent
I'm 23 she's ~29. We both haven't disclosed our age
She likes sweet or corny comments, doesn't respond well to sexual implications
She's about 6/10 and I'm 8/10 with pretty boy appeal, alpha personality



Flop
Met her at a Club on halloween night, sitting on table, we're both hammered. Asked hows her night, introduced myself, said she looks good, she started hugging me and she started making out with me right away (note: background checked her fb, i'm +2 higher than the best looking guy she had in the past).

Got her number, at the end of the night I text her with an invite to spend the night with me. She replied that she wants to kiss me all over.

Moving on.. my text game was by the book. It was flirty, fun, and happy. She responds really well to happy. Response times were consistently within +/- 1 hour, so we both didn't seem desperate. Texted each other everyday, about 4-5 messages per day.




Turn
1st date was at a restaurant. Restaurants are a no-no because you can't kino, but there wasnt very much other places open and inviting her over is out of the question.

We both get drinks. Humbly DHV to the max. She asked about my past gfs, I dropped the ball and told her I just broke off recently from a 6-year relationship. Realized I dropped the ball, then dodged further questions about my ex.

I think that finding out I was previously in a long-term relationship was a PLUS++ for me in her books, because she seems to like sweet style of flirting. But you as the reader please comment on this.

Threw a couple light negs, threw compliments to make her feel special, she didn't bounce them back she just took the compliments. Body expression and eyes were giving me IOI. Only verbal IoI she gave me was I make her feel nervous, but in a good way.

It wasn't awkward at all when it came time to paying for the bill. She has pride in paying.

We play a few games of billiards, bought her shots.

Closed the date with our tongues inside each others mouths in my car.


River
2nd date (another weekend later) very recently at a pub. Sat across from each other, got warmed up with drinks. We got along SO well. She's a fun, funny, smart, and mature. We have a LOT in common. Found out my career's industry is similar to her ex bf's. LOTS of commonality.

Paid for bill, left to go sing karaoke with my friend, his name is Third Wheel. We'll call him by his first name to keep it simple.

Picked up Third, we arrive at the karaoke place, sing songs:

In the early part of the hour that we were there, I decided to play Eminem - Superman. I very quickly realize the song made her feel SUPER uncomfortable. I apologized, beat myself up a bit, then put my arm around her.

For the rest of the night, we sang romantic duets. My singing abilities surpassed her standard for tolerable, another + in her books.

Dropped off Third, she mentioned how she hates how the karaoke place we went to didn't have liquor. I invite her to grab some drinks at my place, she accepts.

At my place, got drunk. PUA skills impaired, mind set at the time: fuck it.

She logs on Facebook, clicks remember me by mistake(?). I later comb her FB profile and find out the above in Cards I've been dealt

Kissed, made out, hickies given, lots of teasing, dry humping.

During the make out sesh, I said some things without any PUA game, tact, or thought. These are in no particular order, but include:

I really like you (qty: 3)
I really like you ... a lot (qty: 2)
You're hot (qty: 2)
You're so pretty (qty: 2)
You have such a great personality, you're funny, smart, etc.

She either initiated similar compliments, or bounced them back whenever I said them.

She also said some WTF things. I remember the dialogue:

Are you a player? --No
You just got out of a relationship recently, now you're in player mode ---uhhh.. no
How many girls do you have on the go? -- Zero, theres only you
I'm just so insecure about guys because my ex cheated on me. I found out he had a wife and kid -- haha! thats hilarious, you're a homewrecker!!


I don't want to f***; youll think I'm a slut--We don't have to, I don't care. As long as you're here with me.
*lets me unhook bra but won't let me handle her rack.. wtf?*
*lets me rub her clit with her pants still on for a bit. despite her wetness, she was able to not let me F-close the night*


We fall asleep together. Next day, before she ups and leaves, she tells me I should come to a dinner her group of Friends are having on Friday.

After she left, combed her fb account like a HB9 on a windy day. As mentioned, found out she's into the single life, meeting guys, etc.

She invited me to a dinner at her place with her friends on Friday. This could be a shit-test with her friends. I am 23, they are near 30's. Do I lie about my age? Should I become everyones friend or make really good friends with 1 of her friends and dodge conversation the whole way? Tips?

We already made out on my bed and poured my heart out to her. What type of text game should I give her?

Is push pull even an option when I want to make her my GF? She senses the player in me but Im in it for the long haul

dont go to the party. Find a way to get out of it. Make up something. Its a stupid game girls like to play. Invite guy one to a party full of dudes who have either banged her or tried to...i think the biggest mistake you made was trying to come off as mr perfect. You should never tell a girl you arent dating anyone, just got out of a long relationship, or you never had many girls in your life...or just anything that implies that you will cling to her for dear life after she sleeps with you. If she directly asks you about you dating history, or if you are a player, just turn it into a joke and never answer the question.

Yeah, I think it's probably best to avoid this dinner. To use a golf analogy, you're in the rough. And so if you think you can hit the ball between a couple of tree branches and go straight for the green... well, then go to the dinner. But the smartest play here is to chip it back onto the fairway. Take a rain check.

In other words, if you've got an extremely developed game, you can go to this dinner with a fearless frame of mind and show how unintimidated you are by the opinions of her friends. Disarm the guys, flirt with the girls, etc. Doing so will create a MAJOR spike in attraction. To quote Bill Murray in Caddyshack, "It's in the hole! It's in the hole!"

But 99 percent of guys would turn to mush at this dinner party. And to the girl, you'd look like a guy who's so desperate for her affection that you're willing to endure this dinner, even though it's plain to everyone that you're suffering. She'll feel pity for you but no attraction. And her friends will be advising her to look elsewhere.

By the same token, you definitely lose some points by telling her you can't make it. "What kind of guy is scared of my friends?" she'll wonder. Not sure there's a clever way around that. You can ask her, "Are any of your friends cute?" Or, "If you think I'm such a player, then you probably shouldn't trust me with your friends."

But ultimately, I think the best play is to say, "I can't make it that night. Why don't we meet up with your friends the next time we're out?" This way, you can easily bounce from the venue if you lose your poise, and you have plenty of strangers (in the restaurant / bar) to turn to if you need to DHV.