| I never really thought about posting this on here before, but it just occured to me that some of you might find it helpfull. Now I'll be honest, a lot of times I go out just to have fun with girls, not neccisarily close with any, just flirt, dance, just have fun at a club with, ya know? What I do a lot of those nights is, instead of approaching a girl with a practiced and rehersed opener and routine, is I just come up to her, lets say shes at the bar, (we'll get to sets in a moment) and just introduce myself. I dont feed her any lines, I just tell her my name and ask her if its ok for me to join her. Guys this is a great way to begin in my opinion, because it works and it builds confidence. If you are insecure, it will give you satisfaction because she has accepted you for no more then who you are. And even if your not insecure, well hell this cant hurt. Now, you do have to be able to follow up, you cant just introduce yourself, sit down, and have nothing to say. Have a story, like why you are at the club, who with, why your in town, w/e. Or ask her a question, like, why is she sitting alone (chances are shes with a guy, or at the very least friends, dont let this daunt you). maybe even say that you are alone tonight cuz your new in town or are just visiting, and she'll be less inclined to ditch you for her friends. Just be yourself and be interesting, but the secret is, dont stay in that place long. Bounce. Either to the dance floor, a booth/table w/e, or even leave the club. From here DHV, alpha, some neggs, mucho kino, and you are set.
Now say there are 3 girls sitting a table in a club. First thing to consider before approaching is the hight of the table, you dont want to walk up and be standing way above everyone, thats intimidating, but it's also akward to come up and kneel at they're table. I suggest leaning on one of they chairs, at an angle as to be less confrentational and not weird by standing behind, and introducing yourself, saying, hi ladies, Im ______, mind if I take a seat and join you? Now you have a smaller chance of success then an individual with this one, but at this point, they have no reason to reject you. take a seat, either get involved in their convo or start your own. now the first couple of times you try this, if girls are foreign to you, you will get strange looks and akward moments. Just remember these, remember what you said and what it was that caused failure. Eventually you will learn what girls respond to and what they dont. And now look, you're already on the road to success.
good luck,
PB
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