So there is this chick that, for the past few months, I allways hook up with when we run into each other out in the clubs. We also chat online and exchange a few texts a couple of times a week (on her initiation), but I've allways kept her at bay, only teasing her so much, that next time I meet her I'll have an easy hookup.

So now, after a few months I have her practicly begging me to meet with her, inviting me to coffee, asking where I might be on a friday night so we could run into each other. She told me a couple of times she likes me, and thinks I'm good looking... even her friends were asking me why wouldn't wanna be with her.

A few days ago I decided to go for it, how bad can it be to have somthing regular, right? So I take her up on her invitation for drinks yesterday.

We met up 1 hour before she had class. We chat, I'm funny, she laughs, IOIs flying all over the place. She skips her class to stay with me for a couple more hours. Everything went well, so I go in for a kiss, and then came a shocker!

She tells me she doesn't want to kiss me right now because she thinks shes falling in love with another guy. I then asked her what she is doing with me then, and her reply was: "I don't know... I just think that because of this guy, I shouldn't kiss you right now... We will se how things turn out on friday." (we will both be attending a mutual friends birthday party on friday)

Please respond do my humble request for an explanation of all this! What the hell happened here? How did I manage to come form "gaming" this girl, to being tottaly shut down? Is she "gaming" me? Is this a shit test?

Here are my thoughts upon initially reading this:
If you let that much time go by, I would expect she would have moved on by now. Put yourself in her shoes. If a girl kept me distant, and then it took me months of begging her to meet up with me... well let's just say for me personally I wouldn't have begged her at all, let alone for months. I would have certainly talked to other girls by then.

Okay, so you met up with her. She's flirting back so that's not a bad thing, but now she put you in her back pocket for some other guy. That could be the feeling she got when you put her at bay. Tables have turned and it bothered you to some degree if you are posting here for advice. Now let's get the ball back in your court.

You're both attending the same party on Friday. Now is your time to shine. Don't follow her around, don't pester her, but be friendly. Say hello and be cool. I would assume there will be other girls there, so talk to them. The guy that this girl initially liked will be the guy others girl like. Get yourself a quick reputation of being funny, confident, etc with other girls. Believe me, she will take notice.

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Yes, this did bother me, but for very selfish reasons. All this time I was thinking I'm in total control with this girl and now I've lost the control. My confidence is taking a big hit here. After months of studying PU material, gaining confidence, improving my game - it really hurts to see how easy it is to fall right back to the begening and being a total AFC. Plus It really bothers me, that I can't figure out, how I've managed to fall into this trap.

I intend do go to this party, and be the best me I can, as you suggested. Thanks for the reply!