even if you were involved with the most beautiful girl in all creation sometimes you'd want somebody else - it's natural
even if you're in love with the most kind and attentive man in the world sometimes you'll want somebody else - it's natural

stop caring so much, or else draw a boundary and tell her what you're willing to tolerate
but be aware that might backfire and just want her to do it more because she's not allowed


my ex told me she had a crush on my SPAM, if anything I was glad she felt open enough to tell me and to know I wouldn't feel threatened because she wouldn't cheat with him

I know i'm not every guy but I think the world would be a better place with a bit less jealousy

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those who say it can't be done should get the fuck out the way of those doing it

i've gotta admit,

i would feel pretty offput if my girlfriend said she had a crush on my room mate, lol.

at that point, i would try to get her to fuck him.

so i could then dump her and make her feel horrible for it, while i moved on to better things.

i'm kinda manipulative.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

legend

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those who say it can't be done should get the fuck out the way of those doing it

I'm in a situation where my friend's gf wants to cheat on him with me. I really enjoy hanging out with her and we get along really well in terms of our tastes and personality. But I definitely don't want to sleep with her because of her relationship with him so I'm confused what to do.

This is a pretty common story and I didn't even bother reading past the first few comments, cause they are all based on "let her go, she doesn't care about you!" or "find some way to make her only care about you!" I disagree with those ways of thinking and I recommend checking out this thread on situations like that: after-jealousy-sexual-enlightenment-vt91940.html and polyamoury-the-new-buzz-word-vt97443.ht ... polyamoury

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

bro,

a lot of good info here but i just wanted to add one thing which i think is critical. shes going out...talking to other guys ect ect... my question is what are you doing? do you go out and see/talk to other girls? if not you MUST! and if u really want this girl you MUST start now. The fear of losing you will bring her CLOSER then ever. or if she doesnt care then w/e... its done and well @ least you know where your @.

I have hard this happen to me and yes it sux when they dont want you... but this should only encourage you to get better at game, be a better person, and learn from your mistakes. Get back out their and pull ass. GIRLS LOVE PLAYERS bc you are deminstrating to her that your not SUPER ATTACHED and NEEDY. When you get into a relationship and become needy/attached your GF will start to get bored.... and start seaching again (aka this other dude).

Read up on CAT STRING THEORY...and use it with your current GF. This is how you keep her in line...DO what she is DOING TO YOU! GO OUT, PLAY, FLIRT W other girls.... she will become insecure and want to WIN U BACK.


Thats how this game works if you do it correctly. Own this chick, dont get owned by her.

Duke

I'll go by example i guess that's the best way to make my point...

My bf cheated on me twice with two different girls - one only emotionally and the other both emotionally and sexually. Both time he got bored of the other girl and came back to me.

Not sure it's a good point for me but he ain't going to happen a third time.. Anyway that's was not the point of this.

If i were in your shoes I would've been honest with her, for most girl that better than almost anything. I would have told her how I feel about the whole situation and see what she taught about it and how she was feeling in this whole situation.

I would agree with others though on the fact that this friend of yours suck big time. Come one, don't hit on your gf's buddy...

Friends like these, who needs enemies...nix you buddy, hes not a friend...no contact with him, ever...

Obviously you and your buddy are not friends...just acquaintances, it is impossible to have felings for a true friends girl, say someone that has saved your life or gone throug enormous shit with you or for you, that is true friend...only very few of those in a lifetime, the rest are just dudes you know and hang out. Reevaluate who you call friends...if he was your true real friend you would have already told him what a bitch his girls is...My 2 cents