Hopefully this is the right place to post this. Sorry if not.

I met a girl on Wednesday night at a bar but I was kind of drunk. I forgot about her when I woke up but then I remembered her saving her name in my phone for me to add her on facebook.

I've done so and so far exchanged around 3 messages. The conversation is good but becuase I was pretty drunk when we met I'm not sure I made the right impression or created any sexaul attraction etc. Whatever I did that night was all from my subconscious mind.

I don't want to fall in to the friend zone over facebook so does anyone know how I'd go about getting a date out of this? How should I channel the conversation. I want to sort out a date pretty soon if she's game rather than drag out chatting online for far too long before I leave it too late. I feel I need to create attraction but can't really do that over facebook.

Thanks for any advice

Easiest way... invite her along to hang out with friends. Something very casual.

Comes across as nothing serious, even let her bring a friend. Once you have her out, start trying to build on that emotional connection.

Thanks man. That's great!

I left the last message on Saturday over facebook and she seems to be ignoring it at the moment. She's been online since (appearing on my news feed) so I guess I won't get to put this in to motion.

Anyone know why woman do this? Conversation going well then bam. No reply. Maybe she did just forget who knows.

Is there anything good I can say to re initiate the conversation to be able to get a day 2 out of it. I was thinking maybe just leaving it a week or 2 and then writing something like "eh too much partying at *insert bad local club here* to be bothered to reply is it "

I busted her over looking like the kind of girl who goes to said club above and she laughed about it saying she didnt so I might say that. Don;t want to come across needy. Anyone got anything better?

May even just cut all communication. Going out this weekend so there will be plenty more woman to focus on.

Thanks for any advice.

Hey d. This makes me think of a bigger topic -- facebook game.

I say, never add chicks on facebook. Not girls you want. They can add you if they want -- but I still don't accept unless we're pretty much a couple. You can message them without adding them (and you can playfully deny their friend request until "I know you better :)" )

The reason? Becoming friends on facebook is actually rather intimate. You're really letting them in. The moment you do it they can see all your dumbass comments and non-flattering pictures -- very hard things for a new attraction to survive.

I could write a book on this, but this isn't the time. But I will say, if you're gonna use facebook in your game, you need to pay close attention to your profile and make it as attractive as possible. (Basically, don't use it, have very few "likes", and make sure you're only tagged in good pictures.)

On to your specific case ...

"Anyone know why women do this?" Do what? Talk to you until they decide they're not into you, then stop? Isn't that a human thing? :)

From the simple fact she hasn't replied, I'm inclined to say let it go -- though it's hard to be sure without your messages and her replies. I usually quit if something's not hot.

If you re-ignite, don't mention the fact she hasn't replied -- it will remind her of it, and she will think (fairly or not) that you've been obsessing about it. Instead, maybe try the thing where you tell her you'll be out with your guys, if she's out with her girls. Or a simple number exchange, since your crew and her crew are always both out.

Or what about this: "Yeah yeah, okay, I guess you knew where this was going -- wanna get a drink sometime? I cant remember much from Friday, so no pressure. I just remember thinking you were kind of interesting :)"

If you do that, don't let a "no" ruin your day :)