I think we will just have to agree to disagree. I really couldn't care less who a women has fucked before me. A girl could have had a gangbang orgy with a catholic priest, John Holmes, my dad and several "little people", and it still wouldn't matter. As far as relationships go, I'm really only concerned with how a girl treats me. If she treats me well (and she's hot and the sex is good), then who cares what the hell anybody else thinks about it. Everyone else can piss off.

-Wolf

B

not for a serious relationship though...

This shit is actually happening to me, brothers.

I'm currently dating girl A. She recently came from abroad, and has confessed parts of her past to me as the relationship has been getting more serious. She's a completely different person right now, but that doesn't take away the fact that it did happen.

Nevertheless, since she's lived all her life far away from here, nobody knows anything about her. I don't know a single person that has had sex with her.

Am I troubled by these revelations? Yes, a little. Can I help it? To a certain extent, but not entirely. Does it make me less of a man? Perhaps.

On the other hand, girl B is one of the hottest girls in town. She comes from a good family (girl A comes from a good family as well), hasn't slept around much, etc, but I know most of the guys she's fucked, and some of them are close friends.

Since I live in a close community, everybody knows who's who, and it would bother me a little to know that every time I go out to a public place with this chick, and even when I go out to meet my friends, I will know that X, Y & Z fucked my girl, and that A, B & C know that X, Y & Z fucked my girl, and that they will probably talk behind my back about how much she enjoyed it, and how he made her come, and how she swallowed his come, and about how he licked her asshole.

Does that make me less of a man? Perhaps.

In all honesty, I think I'd rather date girl A and deal with the fact that a lot of people fucked her, but that now she's left that all behind, and for all everyone knows she was still a virgin before I fucked her.

If what you say is true, then I don't know why you choose B over A for a relationship.

Oh, that's easy.. I'm not really big on the religious girls. I'm not religious and that type always eventually try to get me to go to church with them.

I also try and stay away from the girls with a history of hardcore drug abuse. That stuff can mess with your dopamine levels for the rest of your life.

-Wolf

This fucking whore. God damn the day she was born. Skank. Fucking crackhead. Ugh! Makes me so fucking mad!! Why are women so fucking crazy? I want to kill her.

Do you have a link to the dopamine/drug shit? I'd like to read on that.

Here's another article that talks specifically about meth addiction and it's effect on the brain:

http://drugabuse.gov/researchreports/me ... amph3.html

There are quite a few science articles out there about this stuff. A little Google-ing around will turn up a lot of results.

-Wolf

Fucking whore.

Good topic Richard Pryor definitely gets the pot stirring. (Sounds fake though?)
I have a feeling that plan (a) is a hypothetical comparison?

Anyway, your friends maybe had sex with her, but how do you know it was any good? There might be a reason that the consensus was not to develop an intimate relationship with this girl.
Did you hear this information from a reliable source or did you conjure up this scenario based on the attributions you made about her?
If you can’t change your negative perception about plan (b) you will cause a self-fulfilling prophecy and your friend’s negative perceptions will be reinforced BY YOU.

The matching hypothesis:
I don’t know what your history is like, but if you have a lot in common with her (fucking around/low self-esteem) then go for it! If your history is a little more moral then I think you should have more choice in the world- go for someone on your level -i.e. Mack 2.0’s plan (c).

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you can fake it till you make it, but if it feels REAL go with the flow!

Neither, but if I had to choose, I'd go for 1. Seeing as I believe people can change, I wouldn't even care that much about the threesomes and shit (more experience = better in bed), or the homeless thing (poor girl). But the drugs WOULD bother me if she still did them, which she isn't. Though I'd be really careful, cause I know a lot of people that just relapse back to their old habit.
I'd like a girl who isn't using that shit, don't need extra health and financial issues.

I would never date option 2 (would fuck her though), pure for the fact that it's fucking awkward if you hang out with her and your friends.
Plus I got some serious (jealousy-)issues about the image of a girl that I'm dating (AND have feelings for) who's fucking other guys. I don't need my friends to rub it in my face every time I bring up her name.

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An approach a day keeps the guru away.

Hey buddy, you do know that Wikipedia even though it can give you a rough idea of a topic is not a peer reviewed source? Anyone can enter and change information in Wikipedia. That government site you recommended is a good one to use on the other hand.

Here some notes from uni on that topic.

Antipsychotic Drugs that inhibit dopamine activity are used in the SPAM of Psychotic disorders such as Schizophrenia characterised by symptoms of Hallucinations (distortions of perception) and Delusions (persecution, grandeur or control). Antipsychotics are not used in the SPAM of Depression.

Depression is characterised with symptoms of low mood, low motivation, low self-esteem, anhedonia and is associated with under-activity of the “serotonin” system. Depression is treated with “antidepressants” such as selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (e.g. Prozac) which increase activity of serotonin by blocking reuptake.

Drugs are helpful in the SPAM of psychological disorders, but they don’t come without side effects. Statistics show these SPAM are good in the short term, but in the long term relapse rates are high.

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you can fake it till you make it, but if it feels REAL go with the flow!

Dating girls with a "past" can sometimes be difficult. I'm all for second chances, but it can be really difficult. On the other hand, the B girl, ok she's had sex, so what? In small communities (I live in one as well since recently), I notice girls get passed around since they don't have as much choice. If you decide for a girl B, you just have to keep your stand and don't let your friends thrash mouth her if they try. If she's with you, she's with you. Just think about it, they had a chance with her, didn't take it and she's with a real man now. What's the problem? The girl A may be easier to date but may bring more problems in the long run. The girl B isn't hiding anything and you can set your rules from the start. If you care about what other people say, well that says a lot about you too, but if you take a good stand in front of your friends, that says a lot about your character too. Of course, it's your decision, but don't get too shy just because this girl has a little more experience in the community (the girl B). Be a man, don't let it phase you. Good luck!

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rAFC and yes, I'm a chick.

I have bursts of being a lady, but it doesn't last long.

Slightly off topic:
Actually, you're wrong. On Wikipedia, there is something called "Recent change patrol" (I used to be in the team). A couple of dozen people are online 24/7 checking that what is modified is sourced, valid, and respects the rules of WP.

So in some sense, it is peer reviewed, just not exactly like a paper to be published in Nature.

However, the RCP team may have some small mistakes that they miss, but 99.5% of the time, poor edits are reverted within a five minutes.

Fuck em both, but I would choose B in a heartbeat.

Read a couple of posts above. Girl A is actually the girl I'm dating. Girl B is pretty much what all the girls in my small community would be like.
Sex was good, trust me. Current wife of one of my top 5 bf's fucked with my #1 bf when she was 15 (he was 19). He fucked her brains out on the back of a car, and everybody was watching it. We talk about it from time to time. They just had a daughter.
I've fucked around, have had threesomes, have done coke, grow weed, lost count of how many women I've been with....... but I'm now a professional and have morals, and have always been sort of conservative when it comes to my woman's past (maybe because I was brought up that way).