I'm talking to a girl that said she had interest in me a week ago, but I'm just now finding out that she has feelings for some other dude. I've been using the material religiously over the past week, but he's a younger, bolder, more energetic guy in general, while I'm just a shy college dude who's just getting hip to these techniques.

We were supposed to play a game of pool today (I told her I needed somebody to beat, and that she would be the perfect person for that) but she called saying she fell asleep (quote-unquote)and that she was studying.

So.......drop it and move on? Or compete? And if I do compete, whats the game plan?

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dude she didnt even have the courtesy to make up a half-ass excuse for flaking on you. She fell asleep lol, that's just disrespectful man. I would set up another date and flake on her with a similar pathetic excuse. I can be pretty petty when insulted though, I have too much ego.

You're nicer than I am. I break all contact one the first flake with a lame excuse like that, especially since it's the first time you were to meet up.

Keep in mind there are plenty of fish, most of them HB6 - 7, so good enough for short term, and some HB8+ good for long term and ego.

"most of them HB6 - 7, so good enough for short term, and some HB8+ good for long term and ego"

I like the way you think man!

I say hang in there. The problem is right in the message "I'm a shy college guy" clearly that's what you believe about yourself and the situation. Is that really who you are? I say hang in there don't invite her to anything and put some distance between you and her. If she asks to hang out, show up and disqualify her ass off. Call her out on flaking on you and say "I only get involved with girls who don't take naps" but make sure it's in a playful manner you don't give a fuck you're the prize. Go ahead flake I'll have a new chic next week! Believe, repeat and obsess over thinking that way and eventually you'll believe it. Everyone else will then believe it and then suddenly you'll realize it was true all along you just didn't see it. Biggest thing is change your subtext and your view of yourself. YOU ARE the fun energetic attractive guy you just haven't allowed yourself to believe it yet. I just went through a similar thing with my LTR my gf started finding some other dude attractive and we had huge drama over it. Finally I realized I was the one creating the situation. I was too much in my own head. I thought "oh no! he's a singer in a band he's a tribal leader I'm fucked he'll take her!" That internal belief started creating an external reality and he just about did take her. Until finally I realized that was complete bull shit. I've shifted my internal beliefs and that mother fucker is coming down. Trust me man what you believe about the world creates the world.
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You haven't demonstrated higher value. She thinks your attractive but you haven't showered her why you're special. You haven't proven what makes you different than the other guy?

I was in a similar situation with the first girl I dated after a long term relationship. You can quit and walk away, which was my first instinct, but no woman is attracted to a quitter. Women are attracted to men who are cunning.

The next time I spoke to her I talked about some more unique stories. Living in the Middle east, living in South America, my business, the art collection I dream of (I hate art) etc but not in a braggy douchy sort of way. Then I explained why I could never date her. I think I told her that my family would be all over her to become more cultured or something and she was like, "what? 'm cultured." I explained why she's not, we had some fun banter and three days later she forgot the other guys name.

Hope that help man...

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