lol, she will be fine!!!

if she was a virgin, she was just submitting to pressure!

don't let her turn this into a power trip thing though.

"i won't give it up doggy style because my ex blah blah blah"

"i won't do it with the lights on because my ex blah blah blah"

"i don't want it today because my ex bloah blah blah"

see?

as long as that shit don't happen, you cool

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@OP I feel your pain man. I would hate that.

I can only tell you what happened to my ex's sister. I'm not a shrink, and every girl will be different.

But my ex's sister ended up being affected by this. She then fucked her cousin, to give you an example of how fucked up she was.

Women who take it up the ass before they have vaginal intercourse have mental issues. It's just not right IMO. It will haunt them forever.

I wish you luck, man. But remember, you'll always have to deal with the fact that your GF took it up the ass before she even lost her virginity. It's like dealing with a rape victim. Very delicate scenario.

Nah, it's "Butt Sex 4 Jesus"! I've known a couple religious-type girls who went anal before vaginal so they'd still be considered a virgin before marriage (or they were irrationally scared of the whole pregnancy thing). They weren't anymore messed up than any other woman I've met. Mileage may vary.

-Wolf

i like buttsecks girls

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most of us do

For some fucking reason this issue keeps creeping back up in my head and I felt forced to bring it up with her even though I know I shouldnt have.

The problem is that she really presented herself and made me feel like she was this innocent chick who had never been penetrated. Then she tells me she had anal and at the time when we talked about it she said it only happened 5 or 6 times and that he used a condom every time.

But now Ive had time to replay this all in my head and im thinking theres no way they only did it that few times in 16 months. Its probably closer to 16 times. Secondly she told me she was with her ex in the shower once- they definatly did it that time and definately without a condom.

So last week I brought it up because now im concerned because shes never been tested and im also concerned about these potential lies. Plus the fact that she claimed that she thought she told me - which is very stupid to think since it would have been something of a memorable conversation.

Im also bothered by all these images I have of what positions they did and how long it would last and stupid kind of shit like this. Mostly because she fucked with my image of her by disclosing this info after 6 months of dating and playing this whole "im a virgin" card.

So i made her feel like crap of course and she kept telling me if I dont believe her then we should break up cuz il never trust her again blablablabl. She insisted that it was like a maximum of 8 times or something and that he always used a condom and that in the shower they didnt do it..

I dont know anymore but I cant care about it anymore or it will end the relationship. How would you guys deal with this? Just block it out and stop all thoughts about it?

The only issue I'd have here is that she lied to you. You need to decide whether you can forgive that, and if you can't, get out. Stop making an issue out of whether or not she is a virgin. Don't drink that kool-aid.

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buttsex isn't the problem

however,

an emerging pattern of lying is.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

I know exactly what you mean.

I'd also add to make sure you end ALL contact with that girl, that's the only way you're sure that you won't make the mistake of going back to her. She'll probably try to contact you, but just ignore everything coming from her.

As others said, taking it up the small hole before vaginal probably means she's messed up. I've done anal with all of my ex-es, but never have I thought of doing anal before vaginal, that's just weird. Not even that, but if you bring your girl to climax by vaginal, you don't need any lube at all to do anal: been there, done that, I can guarantee you, no lube at all!

I guess I'm pretty lucky that both me and my gf hate anal. That hole is just not for that, but well... everyone shall do whatever they enjoy. Whatever... On this situation. I can understand you feel betrayed it's not like she lied about at what time she usually wakes up lol. I think you need to do a little measuring here. What would you like more? Anal? Or the girl? Is this girl, who lied to you worth it to drop this fetish of yours or not? Since I don't know her at all, I don't want to imply she doesn't, but for me she would have to be a REALLY amazing girl in order to keep me after something like this.

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Dude, this girl is messed up. Are you sure she's a virgin? I think she's lying.

Of course he fucked her without a condom. Are you fucking stupid? Why would he use a condom if she was a virgin and he was fucking her up the ass? He fucked her without a condom and came inside that tight ass, and she loved it.

Either you get over it or accept it. Either way, you must know that she'll be messed up for life. But for the sake of your 'relationship', don't ever bring it up again.