Hey guys, I met this girl a while ago, and finally got on a date with her 3 weeks ago. It went well and we met up the next week. We had sex on that date and she came over the next night to have sex again. So far so good, but I have the feeling that I was being too needy this whole time (3 weeks), over the text. I'm usually the one who texts her first, although sometimes she starts a conversation. I like the gal, so even if I had nothing to say I would text her to say 'have a good day' and stuff. I know I became a pussy, so I need your advice on how to unpusify myself and make her interested, as i sense that she is losing her interest right now...

Please help!

by the time you notice she starts losing interest its sometimes too late

the best practice is to ignore her until she comes to you. When she questions where have you been imply active lifestyle, crazy work schedule, and possibly other woman (use with discretion).

Don't do what most AFC's do - Try to be clever and rephrase or change the angle and give her more dialog and attention.

We are supposed to go out on a date tomorrow, so I decided not to text her today. But should I text her tomorrow to confirm? What if she doesn't text me first? Btw she has already cancelled a few dates before, saying that she either was tired after the gym or work, so it's possible that she will do it tomorrow too. What should I text her back if she does cancel? No clue with this chick...

Here is the problem bro

I have learned this the hard way, and confirmed it with ex girlfriends to be true, once you let a girl flake on you your value goes down. If they flake on you twice or more its very bad for when and if you do actually meet up.

Here are two examples . I had one girl flake on my twice, foolishly I agreed to meet her after that. She came into the date with me having such low sociall value by letting her flake I was dead in the water going in. I had an ex tell me she flaked on a guy twice before, and when I asked her if he had any shot after you flaked on him twice, she replied "no way, but it was a free dinner"

Here is what I would do. I would not only not text her, I would flake on her with some lame excuse. Then if you can get another date, it would be dinner at your house. This high pressure, sex date, is what I use on flakes as your in a hail mary situation as it is. I don't expect this to be successful but its your best shot.

Now you probably wont do this, but ill be shocked if your date is at all successful after her flaking behavior. Please let me know what happns.

Got a text from her this morning, asking me if I still had the personal training textbooks. I waited 3 hours and then replied, saying that yes i did. So here is the conversation:

Me: I could lend you the books. And give u some one on one tutorials...

Her: Thanks, that's really sweet of you.

Me: I'm a sweetie, u know it.

Her: LOL you really are

Me: U can reward me for that..

Her: aahahaha I can

Me: Sounds good, Im gonna go workout now, u have a good day sexy

Her: thanks, u too xoxoxo


So I tried to cut the conversation short, and I think that was a good move. I don't know about flaking out on her tomorrow, because I think it's going pretty well right now. but, I def going to wait for her to text me tomorrow first.. is that a good strategy?

I guess dude, she seems like shes your buddy or something. I assumed it was some new girl but you seem to have rapport and comfort with her which actually doesn't make you job any easier sorry to say.

Okay you guys just seem like Fuck buddies or something.
Which is cool but what is happening you are blowing this out of context and now developing feelins for her.

When you said "You can reward me for it". Made you seem needy like shes the only one who can treat you for being sweet.

It wasnt totally bad because it seem to work in your favor.

But you have to act like she is just 1 among the other 3 billion women out there and it doesnt matter.

BTW, just because you guys had sex doesnt mean that it should be follow up dates, or texts.

You should just enjoy the moment with her, and once its over Fuck it and have the "NEXT" attitude. Women subconsciously love this.

Ha, you are right I was getting to like her too much and it didn't make me feel comfortable. So last night I decided to see what's going to happen if I went a bit more aggressive way. So i texted her "I wanna f*ck u" and that I wanted to manhandle her today. She replied saying that she couldnt wait either. So today I get a text from her saying that i was rude, on which I replied that it was just a joke and she was too sensitive. So, she said that she was just learning my sense of humor and I said that it is pretty messed up. I gave her a time and a place to meet her but she said she did not feel well and flaked. I said "flaking again... Well have a good day and feel better". So, I think she is just treating me as her fuck buddy, while i was treating her like a potential gf. I should cool off a bit i guess, and gonna check out other girls....

Mate, I definitely think you should freeze her out for a while, personally.

When she said you were rude you shoulda replied something like "just the way you like it, sexy " Then that's it. If she's flaked on you and texted you saying she's not feeling well (bullshit excuse in my opinion..if she wanted it, she'd be there... come on.. would you pass on having sex with some one you like because you were "not feeling well"? No. you would drag your ass over there and into her bed!

So what I would've done if she did that is just not reply. No "ok" or "flaking again... etc." Nothing. Just nothing. That will grab her attention... "why hasn't he text back? is he mad at me? is he ok? is he seeing someone else?". YOU play on that. You wait for her to text you and then wait some more. Then finally text her, something like "Hey trouble. Been quite busy the last few days/weeks/however long it's been since her last text. Let's go for a drink Thursday, 8PM @ someplace. See you there". Boom out.

Then don't text her at all till the day, and even then, wait for her to text you first, if she's interested...she will.


Well this is my advice - let me know if you follow it and how it works out

i like this one, will try it out and let you know. Thanks!

Freeze her, and sarge again. Don`t dwell in failures; every rejection is an experience gained.