Up until this last relationship I'm currently in, I've tried to gather as little information as possible about my partner's past as I can. I never ask questions about her past, and when they feel the urge to talk about their ex bf's I stop them right there and tell them I'm not interested.

Current chick I'm banging... same thing. After I fucked her for the first time I told her I wasn't interested in her past. But she told me she needed to tell me something anyway... so she said she's got herpes.

A while later she told me she used to be very sexually active. One night while I was going down on her she told me "I've had girls lick my pussy, but you are much better". About a week later she told me she's had 3 abortions.

Frankly I couldn't take it anymore, so today, when she felt the urge to tell me about how she's been to strip clubs I told her "I'm not interested".

So, my question... do you guys try to gather as much info about a girl's past so you know what you're dealing with or do you simply tell them "stfu I'm not interested"?

In my case, did I really have to know about the 3 abortions? Will she feel the need to tell me she was gang banged by a group of brothers?

I'm with you 100%. I don't want to know, I don't need to know. And it's not even about being insecure. If I find something out it's not exactly eating me inside. I just don't want to push my limits to see where my GFs (of even FBs) past starts bothering me.

Some guys do want to know everything. I've met both kinds. At least with the information you're getting, you're forewarned about the herpes.

I don't do FBs, but I would not be interested in their past, since it's just sex. For a GF I don't understand why I wouldn't want to know. I mean, it's a commited relationship, I could never know how long will it last, with every single girl there IS a mathematical possibility that we're gonna be together for life-long and I want to llive my life with a woman I know inside-out, and I want her to know me inside-out.

I don't judge anyone by their past but for the sex part there're few things that I'm concnered about my partner.

1) No STDs
2) She's on the pill
3) If both 1) and 2) are ticked then she should be into sex without condom

That's very important for me, I hate sex with condom, I just can't stand it, that's one of the reasons I don't do FBs.

If something is wrong with her, I want to know so we won't waste time and both of us can just move on! I like to play it clear, and I expect my partners to do so also.

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I don't pry into a girl's life but I don't stop her if she wants to tell me something, in the same way that I would want her to listen to me if I was self-disclosing something about my past. The current girl I am seeing has told me a lot. Her bisexuality, threesomes etc. It doesn't bother me and actually makes us closer. It's also a useful gauge of what's on the cards in the bedroom.

You could look at your girls stories and think they are a little overboard. Maybe. Perhaps it is her way of sabotaging the relationship or letting you know what you are in for. But perhaps it is her wanting you to know the real her. Bad bits and all.

I talked to my current girl about my drug problems over the past few years. That's the complete opposite of 'selling' yourself. So why did I do it? Because for better or worse it's a part of me and I wanted her to know what I really was rather than seeing me through rose tinted glasses. If she could hear my bad sides and still wants to be around that's a very positive signal.
She like's sex. What's wrong with that man? As for the pussy licking comment I got told a similar thing "You lick pussy like a girl, and that's a very good thing". It's a compliment man